To leave 13 YO DD home alone for the evening?

[inigomontoyahwillcox]

DD's dad has just asked to change a visitation weekend which I've agreed to, but this now means that DD will be at home this coming Saturday evening and DH and I have tickets to go see a friend's band about half an hour's drive away. We've got a taxi booked for 12.30am - but I'm in 2 minds as to whether to leave her home alone that late.

She's convinced she'll be "absolutely fiiine", and she has indeed been fine when we've left her a few times for a couple of hours in the evening in recent months. We're only a few doors away from friends of ours who are also coming to the gig, but whose 16-year-old daughter (who DD is friendy with) will be around if she needs someone close by.

She'll most likely spend all evening on TikTok, Netflix and Snapchat.

YABU - she's still too young to be left alone until 1am
YANBU - go for it

Up to 12 years old it’s recommended that they are not left alone for more than 3 hours and not during the night. Under 16 year olds should not be left during the night. These are literally minimum standards. People’s standards should be higher for their own children

But they’re not leaving her all night. And if you honestly think all under 16s (so even a 15 year old) couldn’t be left in the night then you’re taking the guidelines way too much to the letter. And as for having ‘higher standards,’ some parents like to judge what their child is capable of based on their knowledge of their own child.