I’m now 57 and have a part time job with a low wage, It just about covers our weekly shopping snd dd out of school activities. DH makes sure I spend it too as he dosnt like me having money.
I have no savings.
I'm 59, single, & never been more content OP. It's not too late - especially not for your DD.
You've got a right bastard there, but don't start thinking about refuges yet. Start getting clever.
What is your housing situation - rented or owned?
What assets do you or DH have? Cars, pensions, savings ...
Whatever there is - HALF OF IT BELONGS TO YOU.
Wise PP's will be along soon to advise you on the whole "getting your ducks in a row" caboodle - what documents to hide somewhere safe, what paperwork you need copied etc.
Whatever you do, do it secretly.
No need to give him the heads up. But once you start planning how to leave, & visualising how your & DD's lives are going to look when you are shot of this nasty man, you are going to find a source of strength you never knew you had.
Even things that seem small - like imagining a beautiful clean bed, just for you, with no sex pest in it - will become enormous motivators.
Do you have friends in real life who you could confide in, or has he isolated you like he's trying to isolate DD?
Can you get a recommendation to a really excellent divorce lawyer?
You need a lawyer who will protect your interests, advise & support you. That could be your first step - no need for DH to know a single thing about it. Just have the appointment - you don't have to rush into anything immediately following it - but you DO need to have the power of information.
You might even find you'd be better off financially by divorcing him.
You & DD will certainly be better off emotionally.
Keep posting, you are not alone 