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To not quite understand this dig at me

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Zaplollies · 18/11/2021 22:16

It might not even have been a dig but,

My partner had a new female colleague at work who he got on with, he thought I would get on well with her too as we share a hobby and he suggested the 3 of us meet up outside of work, which I said I would be happy to do.

She got promoted and moved to another dept so he doesn’t work with her anymore but kept in touch a bit via text.

It never seemed to happen as apparently she would take days to reply, but he mentioned I would be coming and she asked when was best for me etc.

Anyway still didn’t seem to get planned. He went out with different colleagues to a restaurant and bumped into her and her friends, apparently she seemed drunk.

He said that he said to her “We should get that meet-up sorted soon”, and apparently she replied, “Oh and that will be alright with Zap will it?” In a sort of sneery way, and smirked.

I felt a bit hurt when he told me that, it seemed like a dig at me but I’ve never met the girl apart from saying hello once. It’s great that he wanted to invite me, he often invites me to stuff like that, I told him that he didn’t have to but I do appreciate it.

I’m probably overthinking

OP posts:
DirtyDancing · 19/11/2021 19:41

An old colleague, who hasn't bothered to meet up with him. Why is she even in his consciousness any more. Sounds like an old friendship which has died out. What's this really about

GreyhoundG1rl · 19/11/2021 19:42

@UnshakenNeedsStirring

Why is your DH so persistent in getting all 3 of you to meet? Strange
This.
gettingolderandgrumpy · 19/11/2021 19:46

Op he’s told you his perception of the conversation, not that you have any reason not to believe him but yeah I find it odd that he’s gone and told you and make out she was being sneery and smirking. Why does he keep going on about that meet up ? I think you should not over think it she’s nobody to you so why do you care ? .

beastlyslumber · 19/11/2021 19:54

Obviously need more information but my take on this would be:

He's been pestering her. She's knocked him by pointedly reminding him he's married.

He's telling you she was mean about you just to get his story in first. He'll be spooked that she called him out and want to discredit her to you.

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