To wish DH would stop commenting on other women

[burntoutandhungry]

We have two kids. 4 and 8 months
I'm quite overweight.

All DH or should I say DUH talks about is other woman. For example.

"Have to admit when I saw the interviewer I got nervous, it was like looking at you 20kg ago"

"Did you see that woman's behind?"

And it's constant when we are out, inside. After 5 years it doesn't even make me jealous anymore it just exhausts me.

When I pull him up, he says "if your insecurities are bothering you, do something about it!" So I said "well I could go gym in the evenings but when you come home from work you go out to see your friends and when you come home I'm up all night with the baby anyway breastfeeding" then we have a massive argument where he's basically gaslighting me that I'm jealous but I'm actually not at this point.

I have to leave right?

OP, run.

I have a friend like this, her not so DH is always telling her in a roundabout way how ugly she is, how fat she is, how stupid and frumpy.

I've told him off a few times when I've not been able to bite my tongue but I've had to stop in recent years and just support her as best I can, but it's heartbreaking to see how unwell she's become. He plies her with unhealthy food and she's gained a lot of weight from size 6 to a size 20 and all he does is tell her to lose weight yet offer no help such as caring for his kids, cooking, housework etc so she can get her health on track.
I'm ranting, as it boils my blood to see her like this and I can't do anything for her except be there for when she's ready.

Anyway, you deserve more. He deserves nothing from you, and I suspect you know this x

Sex 5 times a week? With a breastfeeding baby? Is he a sex pest? He sounds horrible.

I left this man early this year. Amazing how four stone just melted off once I no longer had to eat my feelings or look for comfort in carbs.

When I was a pretty little thing he never commented on another woman's looks. That only started when I became a fat frump with a baby permanently attached to my boob. Funny how these things work.

Wow...

@WickedWitchOfTheTrent beat me to it!

Just think, you'll be 12/13 stone lighter when you ditch him. Silver linings & all that 😉

He's a vile pig. Leave him.

@DerbyshireMama

I left this man early this year. Amazing how four stone just melted off once I no longer had to eat my feelings or look for comfort in carbs.

When I was a pretty little thing he never commented on another woman's looks. That only started when I became a fat frump with a baby permanently attached to my boob. Funny how these things work.

Everyone keeps telling me this.

Today the children are full of it. Coughing, sickness, found out I have a under active thyroid today from the doctor.

He leaves at 4pm his friend picks him up, I've been sat with two crying children, wiping their noses, filling up with calpol and cuddles.

I can't even finish going to the toilet because the baby wakes up coughing and wanting to feed all night.

I just broke down on the bloody loo because I can't even finish it in peace.

I'm packing his suitcase. I can't do this anymore

Good heavens, my dear, you’ll be so much better off without him and so will your children. What a bully he is! (And I bet he’s not exactly male model material either.) Sending a virtual hug to you. Do you have a friend you could call for support?

Good luck and don’t let him talk you out of it.
💐☕️

I'm packing his suitcase. I can't do this anymore

Good. He sounds like a real POS. You and the kids will be much happier without this twat around.

@burntoutandhungry I promise you, you won't look back. It was only a few days before I had this massive surge of energy and peace I'd not felt in years because I didn't have to sit there tying myself in knots figuring out how to make him love me again or even just be fucking nice to me for an evening. You can do this!! Fuck these dickheads. You find yourself again.

You're already a single parent it will be so much easier without him constantly putting you down.

Where the fuck does this man child go with his mates?;are they still single and living at home with mummy?;Im betting he moved straight out of his mums house and in with you.

I'm betting you do all of the shopping/cooking/cleaning/laundry whilst he does none.It sounds like when you had kids you became a fully fledged adult whilst he's still mentally 16.

What an absolute predictable bore he is;fuck him off to his arsehole neg of a dad and downtrodden mother who'll no doubt tell him what a heartless cow you are and what a special little soldier he is.

At least you'll get a break from the kids every now and then;even if it is there grandma who'll end up doing all the work as their lazy turd of a dad won't.

You are doing the right thing. This man is scum and you deserve so much more than this. He is deliberately damaging your self esteem and knocking your confidence. I’m quite sure that baby weight or not you are well out of his league or he wouldn’t feel the need to do this. You are already a single parent in everything but name and you will be so much better off when you no longer have to put up with his nasty gaslighting comments.

You can do this op.

You’ll be happier without him. Good luck with everything OP

Good for you! You will also feel much better when your thyroid is sorted, too.
Good luck OP