My partner ridiculing my job

[Sweetchocolatecandy]

My partner applied for a job for an admin role in the office where i work last year. I obviously put his name forward as a recommendation however he didn’t get the job. Since then he has proceeded to ‘play down’ my job saying things like anyone can work in an office and you could teach a monkey to do my job (obviously bitter!). He made a similar comment in front of my friend/work colleague the other day like ‘I can’t believe I got rejected when ALL you do is blah blah blah’ so I pulled him up about it the other day and he was really shocked saying he was joking and has a new job now anyway so doesn’t care.

Am I being overly sensitive or is he BU?

He sounds horrible. What are his qualities?

He sounds like a dick and yes, obviously bitter. Hopefully your colleagues thought he was a dick too.

Dick

He’s actually lovely (although I appreciate it doesn’t come across that way in the post) but I just don’t think he copes well with rejection- which is fine but I don’t think it gives him an excuse to be nasty. But when I confronted him he accused me of being nasty to him!

He sounds obnoxious.

anyone can work in an office and you could teach a monkey to do my job

"Really? A monkey? So what does that make you then?"

Sorry but he really doesn't sound that lovely to me. Especially not if he's turning around and accusing you of being the nasty one. That's awful.

It's only a joke if you're both laughing.

I'd be questioning the relationship unless this is completely out of character for him, and he does realise that this is completely out of order.

Lovely how?

Jealous and insecure. Most unattractive qualities.

Nasty prick. Poor boy got his pride wounded. Diddums.

He sounds very resentful and like a bit of a toss pot.

"I know you're embarrassed that you didn't get the job, but insulting me and my colleagues just makes you sound unpleasant. Get over it"

Every time he says something about how easy your job is, I’d be responding with “and they still didn’t want you, even with a recommendation!”

He’s a knob. Not dealing well with rejection is absolutely no reason to be nasty. If he know thinks you’re being nasty, he’s clearly got a very fragile ego and it must be exhausting making sure you don’t upset the delicate balance.

Yea as previously said by another poster

What a DICK

So a monkey could do the job but he couldn't even get the job. What does that make him?

I guess the proof in the pudding will be if he continues to make these comments now you've pulled him up on it. It can be difficult to get rejected, especially if you know someone who already works there. Must be doubly hard if it's your partner. I'd give him the benefit of the doubt,

Why do you think he's lovely? He's being horrible to you, trying to undermine your confidence, and stealing enjoyment from your life.

‘So you’re less qualified than a monkey then?’ Agreed he doesn’t sound lovely, especially if he’s trying to turn it around so you are the nasty one.

Nasty bitter jealous little oik. Why are you with him? he sounds vile.

@GertrudeBElion

"I know you're embarrassed that you didn't get the job, but insulting me and my colleagues just makes you sound unpleasant. Get over it"

This is a great comeback!

@Sweetchocolatecandy

He’s actually lovely (although I appreciate it doesn’t come across that way in the post) but I just don’t think he copes well with rejection- which is fine but I don’t think it gives him an excuse to be nasty. But when I confronted him he accused me of being nasty to him!

Fragile ego, insecure & gaslighting. I hope you're ok and not ignoring any red flags. Take care.

Sour grapes from a man who, by his own admission isn't as capable or employable as a monkey. I find bullying behaviour from a man so very unattractive

@InTheNightWeWillWish

Every time he says something about how easy your job is, I’d be responding with “and they still didn’t want you, even with a recommendation!”

He’s a knob. Not dealing well with rejection is absolutely no reason to be nasty. If he know thinks you’re being nasty, he’s clearly got a very fragile ego and it must be exhausting making sure you don’t upset the delicate balance.

This every time

@OnceUponAMidnightBeery

‘So you’re less qualified than a monkey then?’ Agreed he doesn’t sound lovely, especially if he’s trying to turn it around so you are the nasty one.

Excellent response

Its obviously just dented his pride but he needs to grow up.

He is obviously put out that he didn't get the job and this is his only comeback. As other posters have said, next time he makes a smartass comment like that just respond with "maybe the monkey could teach you to be a nicer person, rather than being a condescending asshole".