To think: "wear a jumper, you raging bloody hypocrite??!"

[GreeboIsMySpiritAnimal]

After years of complaining about our heating bills, DH has suddenly discovered, now he's working from home, that our house gets pretty bloody nippy in the winter, and is merrily whacking the thermostat up whenever he feels the slightest chill.

I have no problem at all putting the heating on when people are cold. I hate being cold. However: HE REFUSES TO WEAR ANYTHING MORE THAN A BLOODY T-SHIRT AROUND THE HOUSE! He's tried to claim it's a "warm" t-shirt. WELL CLEARLY IT'S NOT DH, OR YOU WOULDN'T BE SODDING WELL COLD!!!

Ah well. At least the fire of my fury is keeping me nice and toasty. 😆

Mine is the same, “he’s” comfy is shorts and a T-shirt and flip flops and doesn’t want extra layers on, he just wants the heating in a 23 degrees all the time. No consideration for my menopausal heat, that I’M comfy in layers that I can put on and take off or for the environment!

Drives me nuts, he turns the heating up then I turn it down. Thanks god he works away during the week so I can switch it off all week and open the window at night!

Gives me the bloody rage. I used to share a house with a friend who would walk around in t-shirt and bare feet all winter yet have the heating so high (and a fan heater whirring all night in his bedroom too I genuinely don't know how he didn't melt) that I used to have my bedroom radiator permanently off and window open in the depth of winter and still feel uncomfortably warm at night. I told him point blank I wasn't splitting the heating bill 50:50.

My IL always used to have the heating on at about a billion degrees while MIL was wandering about in a vest and shorts. One Christmas they had some home improvements done which included making the back of the house more insulated. Invited about 20 family round (in a small house) it was roasting. Everyone (except them) was absolutely baking, and trying to open some windows. I mentioned it and MIL suggested it was because I was probably going through the change! I wasn't! (I was about 40) It was just bloody hot.🤣🤣

Oh look a competitive nonheating thread! 'Well we only put heating on for Xmas, I'm sitting here in 7 layers, coat, wrapped in blanket, snow boots, wool hat and gloves, and even if I can see my breath, it's really not that cold at all once you get used to it, if you just keep moving around. .'

I grew up in a house where we had to do that, sit under mountain of blankets on the sofa and get dressed under the duvet, as it was too cold otherwise. Not doing that to my DC when I can afford not to. No, they're not running around in shorts but also don't need blanket cocoons.

I’m an odd person, or maybe it’s my age. I am either too hot or cold, it is unusual for me to feel just right. My DH has been known to call me Goldilocks.
I have a thermometer on my desk to tell me how I should feel, it has been no lower than 18.5 for the past month, so I have not put the heating on during the day. Some days I wear a tshirt, some days 2 jumpers, having the sun out and no rain makes a difference, although not to the air temperature.
We do have an 2 hour blast first thing in the morning, so everyone gets up to a warm 20c house, and after dark it sometimes goes back on.

I won’t sit and freeze, if my hands are too cold I can’t work and I don’t like gloves, we shall see what happens as the temperatures drop. Last year I was in the coldest room during November and December until I moved upstairs. This year I have moved the house around so I am already in the second warmest room.

@etulosba

I absolutely hate wearing thick/multiple layers of clothing. And I refuse to be uncomfortable in my own house.

I’m sat here in jeans and a soft fleece. It’s 16 degrees and I am perfectly comfortable. Your body adapts to cope with lower/higher temperatures.

If you let it.

16 really isn't comfortable for me. My flat seems to be permanently cold which is nice in summer but not in winter. My usual WFH outfit is socks, leggings, t shirt and hoodie, any more and I feel uncomfortable.

My OH does this. It fucks me off no end. He complains the house is cold, so turns the thermostat up to fucking 30! Put a jumper on you twat. 🙄 Especially as we have oil central heating and the price of oil is astronomical just now.

@GreeboIsMySpiritAnimal

Breaking news!!

HE'S WEARING A JUMPER!!!

😁😁

There's a balance between lounging around in minimal clothing and heating the house to tropical levels, and dressing like an Artic explorer before touching the heating.

I can reach a point where if my nose gets to the cold and drippy stage, no amount of clothing makes a difference. I bought a heated throw on the first grotty day of autumn and that makes a big difference in warming my body through and then keeping warm without heating the rest of the house.

@G5000

Oh look a competitive nonheating thread! 'Well we only put heating on for Xmas, I'm sitting here in 7 layers, coat, wrapped in blanket, snow boots, wool hat and gloves, and even if I can see my breath, it's really not that cold at all once you get used to it, if you just keep moving around. .'

I grew up in a house where we had to do that, sit under mountain of blankets on the sofa and get dressed under the duvet, as it was too cold otherwise. Not doing that to my DC when I can afford not to. No, they're not running around in shorts but also don't need blanket cocoons.

It is absolutely NOT that! I hate being cold, I know it's miserable - I grew up in a single-glazed, draughty, poorly insulated house on the North-East coast with no central heating. The only source of heat was a single gas fire that we couldn't usually afford to put on!

I don't want anyone in the house to go cold, but equally, if it's November, and the temperature is in single figures, and you're only wearing a t-shirt, I don't think it's unreasonable to at least try an extra layer before turning the heat up!

"No one would seriously expect to wear a coat, hat and scarf indoors in on a warm day in summer and then whack on the air con because they're too hot. "

@Xiaoxiong My exH used to insist on wearing a jumper, in the car, in the height of summer. Then would insist on the aircon being on max, so DDs and I were freezing.

@mam0918

Lol at all the people saying 'I wear shorts and a vest, I refuse to be uncomfortable at home' who are complaining about how uncomfortable they are from being cold.

I’m the person who said I refuse to be uncomfortable at home, and I’m lol’ing at the person who said it’s only acceptable to put the heating on if you’re working from home, wearing at least 2 jumpers but wearing a 3rd will restrict your typing 😂 How on earth are people comfortable like that? I seriously do have an issue with clothes though. I have to buy a thermal ski jacket to wear in winter because I cannot bear to wear a coat with any thickness to it. I can’t stand sleeves and long pants, and the only thing I wear on my feet are sliders. I didn’t wear socks or shoes for the entire lockdown (got terribly cracked heels from that though)!

@G5000

Oh look a competitive nonheating thread! 'Well we only put heating on for Xmas, I'm sitting here in 7 layers, coat, wrapped in blanket, snow boots, wool hat and gloves, and even if I can see my breath, it's really not that cold at all once you get used to it, if you just keep moving around. .'

I grew up in a house where we had to do that, sit under mountain of blankets on the sofa and get dressed under the duvet, as it was too cold otherwise. Not doing that to my DC when I can afford not to. No, they're not running around in shorts but also don't need blanket cocoons.

I'm wearing a summer dress - no socks, thermals etc... and no heating on but I have a bloody blanket over me (who objects to a blanket, do you also not sleep with any bedding?) and I'm not remotely cold.

Where are people getting that you need 7 fucking layers in the house, literally no one has said anything even remotely like that and even on the coldest day you don't need that (and I lived for 3 year in a house with no heating at all and horrific white winters)

How do some of you responders honestly cope in day-to-day life if you cant cope wearing leggins, long sleeves or using a throw ffs dressing appropriately for the time of year is bare-bones basic adulting.

Having an electric blanket on your lap often staves off the need to put the heating on.
Also if feeling cold, the best thing to do is put a coat on and go outside, go for a brisk walk and when you come back in, the house will feel warm (for a while anyway!)

It was 8° in June once and DH was whinging that I suggested putting the heating on "because its June" where as I thought it was reasonable to put the heating on "because it was 8°!"
I pointed out if it got to 8° in February, he wouldn't think it was unnecessary to have the heating on!
Another time I put my puffer jacket on and put (then baby) DS in a coat and woolly hat on August Bank hol because it was really chilly. DH came out with us in clothes he thought were more suitable for August. He was a tad chilly. (I was a tad smug!)

I've worked from home for many years, and my favourite is real wool - even a thin layer is much warmer than synthetics. With something cotton underneath if it's itchy. Currently also have a canine lap warmer (can highly recommend).

I’m afraid I sometimes turn the heating on because I’m cold, while I’m wearing a light dress or tshirt/nightie. But I have massive sensory issues and can’t wear woolly jumpers, socks or gloves. I mostly use a heated throw that I can tolerate around my shoulders.

Unless there’s a reason for not wrapping up, though, he should be wearing something warmer.

We had a priest that did this with the presbytery heating. Then would appeal for money to pay the £19k gas bill. Err put a bloody jumper on.

Where are people getting that you need 7 fucking layers in the house, literally no one has said anything even remotely like that

Fair enough, people did in fact only talk about 6 layers and a 3 season sleeping bag with hot water bottle.

@PinkSparklyPussyCat

It doesn't matter how many layers I wear, if the air is cold then I am cold and the heating goes up.

I'm not saying people should walk around in shorts but some of the threads on heating on MN are just mad.

I know mn is just full of people on 6 figure salaries who sit in gloves at home rather than turn the heating on. Plus all these men wanting heating on? Every boyfriend I’ve ever had has been happy in a pretty chilly house despite being able to easily afford to heat it. Don’t women feel the cold more than men?

I'm cold at the moment despite a big jumper.

DH has definitely changed his attitude to heating since WFH. I think part of the issue is that at the weekend we're all bustling about so 17 degrees seems warm. It's much less warm iof you have to sit still at your desk for 8 hours a day.

This autumn has been very mild so far. I haven't even had to order gas bottles yet. Looks way colder from next week. My sister made lofty comments about adults in onesies when she saw mine, and now she's moved to a house just as cold. I look forward to seeing her winter house attire 🥶😁

It’s awful, this thread has made me realise that I’m turning into your DH! I’m now used to wearing jeans and a nice top for work, not a jumper, due to wanting to look smart. From tomorrow going I’m going to wear a blazer…

Point out your Dh’s blatant error here and turn heating down when you walk past the thermostat!

Lower the heating temp, pass him a jumper and put a fan heater in the room he's in to heat only the space occupied. My MIL stayed with us for a few months, complained of being cold in thin pyjamas but always left the front door and inner porch door wide open when going to get things from the car. It drove me demented and cost a fortune in oil.