Hello! Just as the title says really. My 6 year old says I love you and granny the same. I find this so upsetting. My mum was an awful, emotionally neglectful parent and is no better towards me now. She is just totally disinterested in my life, always has been. She treated my brother totally differently. She is good with my children but constantly mentions my brothers children (who she sees daily) and my DD does comment on this. We live far away from each other and she visits every couple or months. This is too much for me but she is so demanding, forceful and overrides anything I say. For example, she wanted to visit, I had had COVID, was still unwell and asked if we could postpone her visit. She refused and I felt totally powerless to stop her coming. She came and it was horrible as usual. I feel like I should allow her contact with my child because she loves my DD and my DD has fun when she visits (showered with gifts, fun days out). I feel guilty and selfish for the way I feel but it absolutely broke my heart when she said I love Granny the same as you. All the feelings of rejection came back, of never being good enough. I can't shake this feeling. I've tried my absolute best with my DD to give her all the love, stability, security that I didn't have. We have a wonderful relationship and I love the absolute bones of her. How to I get over this hurt? I wish I could go NC with my mother but it would break my grandparents hearts. My partner is completely supportive of me and despises my mother for the way she has behaved (which has had a long term impact on me) and her complete disregard for anyone but herself. I would say she is a narcissist but I know I am not placed to diagnose this! Why would mu 6 year old say this? Where have I gone wrong? Thanks!