to delay having covid vaccine?

[tiredisnottheword]

Background - I had covid in April and have detected antibodies (confirmed with test).
I have a 4 month old who is EBF.
I work for the NHS (patient facing role). I have always said I will get the vaccine before I return to work in June (before it became compulsory..which I don’t agree with, but that’s another thread). It just now means I will be getting it a couple of months earlier than planned.

My reasons for delaying are

1. I don’t want to feel ill from the side affects just now whilst I am already sleep deprived and looking after 2 children
2. I don’t want to risk any reduction in my milk supply. I want to wait until dd is well established and has begun weaning so that if it does happen, it is easier to manage.

So why does my MIL (I know..) make a point of bringing it up every time I see her, and making passive-aggressive comments about me not having it?

AIBU?

YABU not to have it. If you worry what the jab would do to your milk supply and making you feel ill, what on earth do you think COVID would do?

And no, having had it before doesn’t mean you won’t again.

I’m not not having it...just delaying having it

Why are you delaying? We are going into winter, I would get it asap. Ask your MIL to help with the baby if she's so keen for you to have it. Never heard the milk thing, sounds like a silly SM thought tbh

@Whyamistilltired the reasons I mentioned above.
I’m not on SM (unless you count MN!) I have some mum friends who have reported this to happen. Also read some accounts on here.
My MIL lives 2 hours away.

I would honestly just get it done.

Have never heard anyone report a drop in supply. I was breastfeeding a 6 month old when I had mine and no issues.

You might feel crap for a day or so but then it's done. There's never really a right time to feel crap when you have two young kids.

I do count here as SM very much so, there have been a lot of very dangerous anti vaxx threads on here over the last year. You are in the thick of it I'm afraid!

When are you planning to have it?

Just get it. You will probably, as most people do, have no side effects.
We need everyone to get it.
Please.
I am so tired of waiting for life to restart

What does your doctor say?
I'm surprised you weren't advised to have it while you were pregnant. I know a few people who put it off because of BF but not when pregnant.

Is a drop in milk supply a thing? Everyone around me is having second babies at the moment and they're all the sort of people who fed their first until age 2+, but I haven't heard anyone discuss this. For what it's worth, neither I nor my 3m old at the time had any issues.

@tiredisnottheword

I’m not not having it...just delaying having it

Other women have delayed it and have died. Now their children are without a mum. Why take that risk?

Have to have first jab by February, so dd will be almost 7 months then

YABU. I'm also patient facing in NHS. Do not even want to discuss it with staff that are playing the "we should have the choice card'.
Very few people have side affects so not really much of an argument either.
I have had booster and flu. Not ever gave it a second thought.

YANBU - it should be your choice.

www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/books/NBK565969/
Passing on the antibodies would seem like a good thing.

YANBU, also you may want to look into the new Novavax vaccine which will be out by the time you are ready.

YANBU, it is up to you of course. It affects periods and stuff like that so can see it potentially affecting milk too.

YABU
Side effects are worse if you have it very soon after COVID - but really soon after; I had my first vaccination 29 days after testing positive (and being v unwell with covid), and did have bad reaction to it, but it was only a 24-36 hour thing, and then I was fine, no reaction on second vaccination 8 weeks later, or booster. From covid last april you'll be fine.
Your MIL is probably either concerned you'll give it to her - or that she'll be landed with childcare if you get it.
When I had it it was hard enough taking care of my cat (I woke up on one occasion to her nibbling my arm gently, I think she'd decided breakfast was overdue, bit scary - had visions of people finding a half eaten corpse a few months down the line).
www.nhs.uk/conditions/coronavirus-covid-19/coronavirus-vaccination/pregnancy-breastfeeding-fertility-and-coronavirus-covid-19-vaccination/

YABU to delay it - since you're breastfeeding if you get the vaccine you will pass on antibodies to your baby which will help protect them from covid.

@PAFMO because I had covid when I was 26 weeks. They hadn’t authorised it for pregnancy prior to that

@JesusIsAnyNameFree bit dramatic? I have had covid before, so doubt that if I get it again I will die from it

@expatmigrant

YABU. I'm also patient facing in NHS. Do not even want to discuss it with staff that are playing the "we should have the choice card'. Very few people have side affects so not really much of an argument either. I have had booster and flu. Not ever gave it a second thought.

True, but some people have died or had life changing injuries, so you can't say it is 100% safe (like some politicians have said)

I haven’t read any actual evidence that it impacts milk supply. But I do think I read some reports that the antibodies could pass to the baby.

@expatmigrant my OP says I am having it before returning to work..

YABU the risks of vaccine side effects are much less than the risks - to you and your dc - of you having covid.

I think that if you didn't worry that you might be unreasonable, you wouldn't be asking the question.

I delayed until I'd given birth then had my first vaccine when DD was a week old. There's no need to wait IMO.