to delay having covid vaccine?

[tiredisnottheword]

Background - I had covid in April and have detected antibodies (confirmed with test).
I have a 4 month old who is EBF.
I work for the NHS (patient facing role). I have always said I will get the vaccine before I return to work in June (before it became compulsory..which I don’t agree with, but that’s another thread). It just now means I will be getting it a couple of months earlier than planned.

My reasons for delaying are

1. I don’t want to feel ill from the side affects just now whilst I am already sleep deprived and looking after 2 children
2. I don’t want to risk any reduction in my milk supply. I want to wait until dd is well established and has begun weaning so that if it does happen, it is easier to manage.

So why does my MIL (I know..) make a point of bringing it up every time I see her, and making passive-aggressive comments about me not having it?

AIBU?

Personally think the risk of not having it is infinitely worse than having it so I would for my kids sake

OP my friend just died from covid, her family had to face the horrific choice of turning off the life support after she's been ventilated for weeks. She was unvaxed and now leaves 3 dc without their mummy.

Feeling crap is standard with a 4 month old. You might not have any symptoms at all from the vaccine.

YabVU. If you don’t want it, you could try and ask to move to a non patient facing role.

Very sorry to hear that @UhOhOops x

Yabu imho

I'd kinda understand if you were refusing it but to delay it is bonkers!
So you're going to take, haven't got a problem with doing that but not just yet

@tiredisnottheword

It was perfectly clear in your OP that you're on maternity leave & intend to have the vaccinations before returning to work.

I think YANBU to be fed up if your MIL.

But I think YABU not to have had or to have ASAP your vaccinations. Having the vaccination while breastfeeding will help protect your baby as well as you. Many hundreds of thousands of women have been vaccinated in pregnancy or while breast feeding. There has not been a notable issue with milk supply.

No one wants to feel crap while looking after a newborn, but getting COVID is far more likely to make you feel crap than the vaccination. Coming into winter I think you're being daft not to get the vaccinations for your baby's sake, let alone your own!!

@Hubs456

YabVU. If you don’t want it, you could try and ask to move to a non patient facing role.

Try READING the OP's post in the very first one she said..

I work for the NHS (patient facing role). I have always said I will get the vaccine before I return to work in June

You already had covid. I wouldn't stress one bit about delaying it.

@tiredisnottheword

Maybe another thing to factor in, is that even if you were to have reduced milk (despite that not being likely) you could supplement with formula, it might not be your first choice, but it's a LOT better than not getting the protection for you & your baby that you could get with the vaccines.

I know things are worrying when it concerns your most precious little bundle (snd their sibling) but there really is no known issue with lack of milk & there is a known issue with getting covid.

Which would you regret more feeling a bit rubbish for a couple of days after the vaccines (very few do)& drop in milk supply (even though scientifically & anecdotally that's not a thing) OR you/the baby being separated because if one of you getting covid?

@daisy46

You already had covid. I wouldn't stress one bit about delaying it.

Well with your scientific background Daisy I'm sure you can link to some outstanding studies on how long the protection lasts.

Or we could take advice from known scientists who are advising immunity doesn't last long & people need to still get the vaccine!

@UhOhOops

I am so very sorry to hear that 💐

Yes YABU.

I’m wondering why having been infected with Covid means so little?

Passports, vaccination status all valid but natural immunity is discounted.

I’m similar - double vaccinated- had covid and due a booster - technically I should be age for at least 6 months. So could delay the booster. Not information on the right thing to do.