to delay having covid vaccine?

[tiredisnottheword]

Background - I had covid in April and have detected antibodies (confirmed with test).
I have a 4 month old who is EBF.
I work for the NHS (patient facing role). I have always said I will get the vaccine before I return to work in June (before it became compulsory..which I don’t agree with, but that’s another thread). It just now means I will be getting it a couple of months earlier than planned.

My reasons for delaying are

1. I don’t want to feel ill from the side affects just now whilst I am already sleep deprived and looking after 2 children
2. I don’t want to risk any reduction in my milk supply. I want to wait until dd is well established and has begun weaning so that if it does happen, it is easier to manage.

So why does my MIL (I know..) make a point of bringing it up every time I see her, and making passive-aggressive comments about me not having it?

AIBU?

Also I was told by my midwife that baby would have antibodies from me having covid whilst pregnant?
There needs to be more studies on this clearly. Which is why I am finding it difficult to weigh up

YANBU - I don’t think it is fair if you have already had Covid and can prove that. That is my main issue with mandatory vaccination - many NHS staff have had the virus already. I think if it becomes mandatory to have boosters too then fine - government should insist on vaccination but if it is just about 2 vaccines then having had Covid already should be fine.
On the other hand every doctor I know (50
Plus doctors) has had the vaccine and booster. So it appears to be more of a fear amongst the less educated NHS staff who cannot quite understand the detail of the vaccine safety studies.

[quote tiredisnottheword]@PAFMO because I had covid when I was 26 weeks. They hadn’t authorised it for pregnancy prior to that

@JesusIsAnyNameFree bit dramatic? I have had covid before, so doubt that if I get it again I will die from it[/quote]
Is it? Because there are people who have survived covid once and not been so lucky the second time around.

Whatever, ignore the risk of death. YABVU. You are still recommended to have it ASAP.

@coconutpie

YABU to delay it - since you're breastfeeding if you get the vaccine you will pass on antibodies to your baby which will help protect them from covid.

If the OP already has antibodies from infection then won't these be passed on too?

@kowari cross post. Yes, this is what I was told.

OP if you're patient facing, what is your role?

It just seems strange that what your midwife says is the be-all and end-all.

I have a 4 month old ebf. I had both vaccines after he was born, first one in July and second in September. I had no ill effects apart from a sore arm and certainly no drop in milk supply or any side effects whatsoever on my milk or baby.

Surely the not wanting to feel ill form a jab is the main reason to get the vaccine?! I’d rather a day or 2 feeling tired from the jab then getting covid unvaccinated

YANBU
If you don't want it, don't have it.
If you want to delay having it, delay having it.
Your body your choice.
Vaccine is ineffective, it doesn't stop people spreading it, many had it mildly pre-vaccine, the majority of children have always had no symptoms.
It makes no sense they're forcing an already understaffed industry to have it when it won't make any difference to spread. Don't let people bully or pressure you into doing something you don't want to do.

You just need to politely but firmly tell your MIL that it’s not something you wish to discuss, and close it down when she tries to raise it. She’ll soon get the message.

@girlmom21 don’t see how my role is relevant here. It is not the be all and end all. I have obviously read research as well but as I said, this is still quite limited at the moment

@tiredisnottheword sorry I didn't mean to offend, I just thought based on your role you may well be equally qualified or you may have friends who are more knowledgeable who might be able to help you.

My midwife (pandemic baby) was fairly clueless about the vaccine. There seemed to be a "don't just in case" vibe, because they didn't want to take any responsibility IME.

YANBU.
Don’t listen to the Covid Cultists.

It might also be worth checking out Pregnant Then Screwed. They've had excellent advice from experts over the last year or so.

YABU. I had mild side effects after my first jab, and I delayed getting my second jab because i'd (stupidly) over read (and over thought) on side effects. I had NO side effects with the second, and felt really quite silly that i'd got myself into such an anxious mess about it.

If you get Covid and are very poorly you won’t be breastfeeding or looking after your kids at all....

Just get it x

@Workinghardeveryday

If you get Covid and are very poorly you won’t be breastfeeding or looking after your kids at all....

Just get it x

Bit dramatic She's already had it and was fine

I felt crap for about 3 days with the first jab, but I could have breastfed and looked after 2 kids if I had to.

Second jab nothing, 3rd nothing

@girlmom21 yes, but she has no idea how she would be next time with a different strain.

Thanks for input so far, this is helping.
I am very protective over new baby so this is definitely making me more anxious at the moment.

YABVU.

You’d rather get ill from covid (which may well be different from the first time you had it), risk giving it to your baby and family, than put up with the small possibility of some mild side effects for a very short space of time?!

Yanbu
It's no one else's business and you have natural immunity. Tell your MIL to spend her energy doing your ironing or washing your floors if she wants to be genuinely useful.

@UsernameUnavailable1

YANBU If you don't want it, don't have it. If you want to delay having it, delay having it. Your body your choice. Vaccine is ineffective, it doesn't stop people spreading it, many had it mildly pre-vaccine, the majority of children have always had no symptoms. It makes no sense they're forcing an already understaffed industry to have it when it won't make any difference to spread. Don't let people bully or pressure you into doing something you don't want to do.

What are your credentials for asserting that the vaccine is ineffective? Why have your studies given the opposite results to all the others, what was different about your methods? Why has the rest of the world found in their studies that it is effective and what caused the reduction in serious cases at the same time that vaccines began then?

Just to add that I've been double jabbed and like many people I've still contracted covid and been really ill as have other family members so I have no time for people who use the question of vaccination for virtue signalling or as an opportunity to judge others. Natural immunity is probably better anyway.