National anthem at wedding ?

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Getting married at Windsor Guildhall next year . Windsor being the key point here.
We went to look around yesterday and I was surprised how emotional it made me feel . It was so overwhelming with all the history in one room .
My fiancé is Windsor born and bred hence he is very patriotic.
He goes along with the flow on most things and seriously doesn't ask for much .
BUT we were told yesterday that we needed to have 6 songs at the start of the ceremony then one for my entrance and then 3 for when we are signing the register. He wants to have two verses of the national anthem played after Ive come in and just before we start out marriage bit with the registrar.
Im quite liking the idea .
Its not too put there is it ?

To be be honest if I was one of your mates and found out six songs would be played at the wedding, I’d cross my fingers and hope I was only invited to the reception!

No, it's bonkers - why would have the national anthem at your wedding?!

A wedding is a private event.

Aaaaaw OP isn't coming back is she? Even to inform us of the finalised song list. Think I've screwed my chance of an invitation anyhoo ...

I frequently do the music at our church and to my memory, the only time we've had God save the Queen was when the wedding party was quite heavily involved with the local British legion.

Its a civil ceremony, so like loads of pp have said, you won't be allowed it anyway.

I think people are being quite harsh on here !

At the end of the day it’s your wedding, and if there are guests there that are going to laugh / judge / tease you about it then they don’t deserve to be invited . Its your wedding and you need to do what you want and not worry about what other people think.

MNetters seem to be extremely judgmental and critical of all weddings, but I’ve never been to a wedding where people have sat there and critiqued every choice the B&G have arranged - usually everyone is just happy to be celebrating such a special day for the couple

I think people are being quite harsh on here !

& I think OP's fiance is either mindbendingly arrogant, or a bit thick.
But that's fine, because OP won't be inviting me to her wedding. I don't get on with "patriots".

@Cadburyschoco

I think people are being quite harsh on here !

At the end of the day it’s your wedding, and if there are guests there that are going to laugh / judge / tease you about it then they don’t deserve to be invited . Its your wedding and you need to do what you want and not worry about what other people think.

MNetters seem to be extremely judgmental and critical of all weddings, but I’ve never been to a wedding where people have sat there and critiqued every choice the B&G have arranged - usually everyone is just happy to be celebrating such a special day for the couple

Might be a bit light on guests then! Are they going to ask them prior to the wedding if they're going to sign etc?

Windsor Guildhall is a venue, not a registry office.

I thought it was only registry offices which bar displays of religion?

@RoseAndRose

Windsor Guildhall is a venue, not a registry office.

I thought it was only registry offices which bar displays of religion?

Registrars can’t do religious ceremonies. We were married at a venue by a registrar and had the same restrictions as a register office.

You sound lovely 😂😂 my point was, you can never please everyone at a wedding so the OP just needs to make a decision based on what she and her fiancé want.
I’m sure there were aspects of your wedding that not everyone liked but true friends aren’t going to sit there sneering about it.

Ohhhh no. Would make me cringe - I’d really really not like it

@RoseAndRose

Windsor Guildhall is a venue, not a registry office.

I thought it was only registry offices which bar displays of religion?

Its a civil wedding venue. Same rules apply. You can have a religious wedding in a church or other place of worship, or you can have a secular wedding in a licensed venue that isn't a place of worship. You can't have a religious wedding in a secular location.

@Cadburyschoco

You sound lovely 😂😂 my point was, you can never please everyone at a wedding so the OP just needs to make a decision based on what she and her fiancé want. I’m sure there were aspects of your wedding that not everyone liked but true friends aren’t going to sit there sneering about it.

Might not sneer but may well 😂 laugh!

Do whatever the hell you like.

I’m sure there were aspects of your wedding that not everyone liked but true friends aren’t going to sit there sneering about it

Sure. But people won't be able to help themselves corpsing in the aisles with hysterical laughter if this fiance was able to get his batshit choice approved.

I’ve never been at any wedding ( religious or civil ) that had 10 pieces of music during the ceremony. Even William and Kate only had 9. And yes I know you are all wondering what they are, so here’s the list ;

Processional "I was glad" from Psalm 122, written by Parry for the crowning of Prince William's great-great-great grandfather, Edward VII, at Westminster Abbey in 1902.

Three congregational hymns-

"Guide me, O Thou Great Redeemer" which was sung at Diana’s funeral

"Love Divine, All Loves Excelling" which was sung at Charles and Camillas wedding .

"Jerusalem"

Three Choral compositions -

Parry's “Blest Pair of Sirens” during the signing of the register

Paul Mealor's “ Ubi Caritas et Amor”

A specially commissioned anthem “ This is the day which the Lord hath made" by John Rutter

Fanfare “ Valiant and Brave” for the signing of the register . It’s the motto of 22 Squadron, in which Prince William served as an RAF search and rescue pilot.

Recessional - "Crown Imperial" by William Walton, composed for the coronation of George VI and which was also performed at Charles and Diana's wedding.

No way, sorry OP but I'd find that about as cringeworthy as you could get.

Tbh if I had a fiance who insisted on having the National Anthem played at our wedding, I'd rethink the whole thing.

Hopefully the OP hid this thread hours ago.

It would strike me as ridiculous - hopefully you will not expect people to stand up or bow? Not sure why being born in Windsor would make a person patriotic any more than being born in London.

(...............I'd also think I was marrying an oddball and move on)

This thread has surely got to be a wind up!

When my cousin got married they had a loyal toast.
My dbil said 'oh fuck.'
It was being recorded!

@Confrontayshunme

I'd play Elgar instead. Same effect but less wacky.

This is a much better idea.

The English national anthem is religious so a no go for a civil ceremony and fucking awful. Not sure why anyone would voluntarily play it. Elgar however created some stunning music that is definitely "English" if that's the goal.

@ZingDramaQueenOfSheeba

is this for real?

yes, play it. since it's Windsor you should incorporate the German National Anthem too.
but close with something juicy like "Despacito"

The German imperial anthem "Heil dir im Siegeskranz" (hail to thee in the Victor's wreath) was actually set to the same tune as "God save the Queen". Just saying...

It would be a hell no from me.