National anthem at wedding ?

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Getting married at Windsor Guildhall next year . Windsor being the key point here.
We went to look around yesterday and I was surprised how emotional it made me feel . It was so overwhelming with all the history in one room .
My fiancé is Windsor born and bred hence he is very patriotic.
He goes along with the flow on most things and seriously doesn't ask for much .
BUT we were told yesterday that we needed to have 6 songs at the start of the ceremony then one for my entrance and then 3 for when we are signing the register. He wants to have two verses of the national anthem played after Ive come in and just before we start out marriage bit with the registrar.
Im quite liking the idea .
Its not too put there is it ?

No one I know from Windsor would ever consider this. I’d think it was ostentatious and pompous.

(That is a lot of music for one wedding.)

@Starseeking

Only because you're getting married in Windsor and your fiancé is a Windsor born and bred does this sound halfway reasonable. The local connection is clear.

Anywhere else or anyone else, I'd think this was completely mad if I was a guest. I wouldn't say anything though.

Doesn’t matter about being Windsor born and bred. Not all of Windsor, or everyone in it, is part of the estate. If the wedding was at St George’s Chapel, maybe. I live where a senior member of the royal family does, but nobody thinks we should have the anthem at all local weddings.

I would find it very strange

It'd definitely make me laugh, would be very silly but if it's what you want... 🤷‍♀️ Judging by replies on here, you should probably be prepared for guests having a bit of a giggle at you if you go for it though, it does sound very silly.

Sounds absolutely 🤢

Bloody hell.I can’t think of anything worse. It’s a dreadful song.

God OP, there's corny and then there's just hauling the entire cornfield into the chapel. It won't fit. Don't do it. Give your head a wobble!

Horrible idea. I would be in fits of giggles if someone played this at a wedding.

Is this real?

I'd ask your parents and see their reactions, if they like it too then who cares. Incidentally this thread is reminding me of the thread about the baby name Brian where everyone had a similar visceral reaction that I couldn't for love nor money understand. I'm Irish and I don't think I'd care if the Irish anthem was played during a wedding other than to vaguely think it's unusual. Just another one of those things that's hugely different between the two.

We had Jerusalem at my wedding. Its because its a hymn about the Merchant Navy. The story goes that Joseph of Arimathaea was a copper importer whose ships carried ore from the West Country back to Palestine. Jesus travelled to England on one of the ships. The anthem was Morning Has Broken.

Omg no. How cringeworthy!

I was told by family that it was "expected" that we'd say a prayer for the royal family and a prayer for the state of Israel at my (Jewish) wedding. My husband and I are republicans and non-Zionists so it was a big fat "no".

This would be hilarious. Does he want it to make people laugh or is he deadly serious?

Thanks for the giggle. It’s a No from me. IMO ridiculous and sycophantic.

Prepare guests beforehand so they can do their giggling at home. But you know they’ll then just ignore the rest of the ceremony waiting for THAT bit and biting in their cheeks “I mustn’t laugh, I mustn’t laugh” and avoiding eye contact with anyone else for fear of corpsing. As would you too, OP. Be honest.

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No, no, no!

Even for guests who are pro monarchy, this will seem out of place for a wedding, and the tune is shit!

Unless either of you are actually royal, I would think you had delusions of grandeur.

This ^^

Will everyone have to sit through 6 different songs before everything kicks off? Why do you have to have 6? People will get bored.

Being ‘patriotic’ (by which I presume you mean pro monarchy) has little to do with having grown up in Windsor!

Id be sick in my mouth

But then I'm Welsh

I think you and DH has misheard - 10 songs at a civil ceremony is excessive!

As for GSTQ - I think it is a "fun" idea to contemplate but not one to go with. It is your wedding, the two of you. Make your songs about you, your history and your future life. If you really want to celebrate the building and "the Queen", play some Elton John!

No, absolutely not. He is not marrying the queen, whatever he may think!

I think our national anthem is awful. Lots of other good ones, I like Russia’s.
Not sure how that would go down at a Windsor wedding though

We definitely didn’t have any music at our registry office wedding. Is this a thing now?

Someone upthread made a good point. I've seen blazing rows at rugby games when some members of a family didn't want to stand for the pompous dirge anthem, and others thought they must. Your wedding could start with some uncomfortable bickering over whether to stand or not, especially if your fiancé's family is as patriotic as he is.