I wondered about posting on this thread, but I’m shocked by the level of victim blaming and so have decided I will.
When I was spiked I was in my 30s, married with DC and had been out for dinner with colleagues where I drank 2 glasses of wine. A few of us then went on to a busy bar in central London. I had one spirit & mixer. My drink was on a table with other drinks, so admittedly I wasn’t watching it religiously, but I was with a group of colleagues I knew well at a table and felt ‘safe’.
I started feeling ill very quickly - headache and vision blurred. I said I was leaving and started walking to the tube station 5 minutes away. It was about 8pm, busy out and I didn’t feel in danger, just desperate to get hone to bed.
I don’t remember anything else about that night, but I was abducted from the street and woke up around 14 hours later in a terrible state in an abandoned house miles away. I’d been raped, robbed and beaten up.
I felt such terrible shame over it. I didn’t think I’d be believed. I was deeply shocked and traumatised. I did go to a rape crisis centre and had forensics done and made an initial statement. My bloods and urine didn’t show up anything.
I didn’t pursue it with the police exactly because of the sorts of attitudes some posters have shown here. I couldn’t bear the thought of being doubted.
I can’t imagine how a young woman who had been out drinking would have felt. Awful.
I know I was spiked. I was completely unconscious for 14 hours. 3 drinks doesn’t do that to me. It was also the way it affected my memory. I have only had one tiny flashback from that night and that was of a man on top of me and the side of his face (a stranger).
Men spike women - whether it’s with extra shots of alcohol, street drugs or ‘date rape’ drugs - precisely because it renders them unconscious or incoherent, and thus even more easy to doubt in a system that barely manages to convict rapists in the first place.
It should be taken a lot more seriously by society.