To ask if using the speaker when on your phone in public is socially acceptable or simply downright rude

[JemimaPiddleDick]

DP is blind to the fact that some people may not want to hear someone else’s conversation or to be be heard while having a conversation.
I work away from home so use WhatsApp to call my partner every night while away. I’ve lost count of the number of times that I’ve done a video call and found out halfway through that her DM / DSis / Dfriend is in the room and they’ve been listening to the whole conversation, also, we were having an afternoon drink in a half full country pub recently when her brother called, she took the call, on speaker, and spent the next 5 minutes having a chat the whole room could hear, because she wasn’t holding the phone to her ear she was speaking louder, people were staring, myself and our kids were mortified.

IABU - There’s nothing wrong with making conversations public
IANBU - It’s really crass behaviour

YANBU. Crass.

A friend & I were on the tube once & the woman next to us was doing that - we leaned in to have a look at the person on the screen & started discussing their conversation. She stopped.

Video calls are the worst, I work in a cafe and almost daily there's someone nattering away on the phone oblivious to everyone else.
No I don't want to appear in your video thank you and don't make me feel rude for interrupting you so I can put down the food you've ordered!

Utterly crass and unacceptable.

Rude As Fuck

Self Important and Attention Seeking Too

It's crass, I manage a (very small) shop and the number of people that wander around, talking loudly on their phone, not caring about offending anyone else who is browsing is really shocking.

I would just stop phoning someone who behaved like that.

I very rarely answer my phone if I am out ... I prefer to return the call from somewhere I can talk privately and concentrate on the actual person I am speaking to.

YANBU. Anti-social, selfish and shows a total lack of respect for you at the other end of the line.

Extremely rude in my opinion. Just use the phone like a normal person and while we’re at it, keep your voice down.

Its really rude. To the person you are speaking to (unless they know) and to everyone around.

Dp went through a phase of facetiming me, if I was out and I pointed out that, as he deaf he is speaking really loudly and on video call I couldn't hold the phone to me ear and everyone could hear.

He now no longer does it. Thankfully.

Rude and nasty.

I was in Costa the other week, trying to enjoy a latte and a muffin and half an hour's peace, and some cunting woman, was having a seminar with 2 other people on fucking loudspeaker... She was SO loud, and thought everyone else should be hearing her cunty voice. 20 minutes she went on before a member of staff asked to stop or leave. She stormed off in a real angry rage. Like she owned the place.

I HATE people who do this!!

There’s an absolute twat in my office who insists on having his phone on fucking speaker for every call he takes! It’s infuriating and so distracting! Why can’t people use the phone normally or just use headphones?!

I feel your pain, it’s SO ANNOYING!

Hate it. Its soooo rude.

If I'm wfh and I sm on my own, I use speakerphone, bit I would never use it in company.

@swapcicles

Video calls are the worst, I work in a cafe and almost daily there's someone nattering away on the phone oblivious to everyone else. No I don't want to appear in your video thank you and don't make me feel rude for interrupting you so I can put down the food you've ordered!

I wouldn't serve them until they finish.

Rude and inconsiderate. Behaviour-wise it’s the sole preserve of twats.

I'm in hospital recovering from major surgery and some rude fucker is still facetiming or something for hours even after a nurse told her to keep it quiet.

Very annoying when people do this!

It's downright rude!

Rude and crass.

PIG IGNORANT

Off the scale rude!!!😠😠

Hate it hate it hate it. These people are ignorant.

It's also absolutely inconsiderate to put someone in speaker without telling them, when others can hear. If I'm talking to my friend, I don't expect her husband to be listening in, and tailor my conversation accordingly.

My mum does this but thankfully only at home, still irritating but not public. I also work in a supermarket and there's a huge number of people who can't seem to manage the weekly shop without someone on the other end of a video call. Do you really need that much of a hand hold and if you do why not just bring the other person, you clearly have their undivided attention anyway. I don't want to be on your video call and I don't want to have to hear you argue over which pizzas to get this week. I wish they'd hang up, these also seem to be the same people who like an audience when selecting items and have to show the person on the phone the whole selection before a choice is made. Its like they want you and everyone else to witness their decision making. It's just rude and in 99% of cases (being generous with 1% I think) completely unnecessary, I think it's part of performing for a perceived audience.

When did people start believing the whole world wanted to hear their conversations?

Bloody rude...

There are now a few people I refuse to call... As I now know I'm being broadcast to their train carriage /local cafe....

Nah... Not happéning!

I find it to be very rude. It pisses me off!

YANBU. I agree; it's awful!

I have noticed that lots of the teenagers at my DDs' school seem to do this - they put their phone on speaker and hold the handset flat, level with their mouths, in front of their faces. Not only is it incredibly antisocial, it looks odd and I imagine that the quality of the call is compromised by all the surrounding noise.

I wonder if it's a 'trend' for the teens? No excuse for the adults who do this to be so rude though!