Is nothing just mine?

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I’ve been feeling rotten for a few months, awful fatigue, unbearably tired, feeling very low, and anxious scratching on my arms which I’m now using steroid cream for 🙄

Finally decided to call the GP as I was convinced I was Peri menopausal. I had all the blood tests done & it turns out I have anaemia caused by low levels of folates.

I’ve to take 5mg of folic acid for 4 months as well as increase high in folate foods

I tell my husband what the results are, and the first thing he says is “I bet that’s what I’ve got” 😡😡😡

This isn’t a new thing, every tickle of my throat turns into a full on throat infection for him, every sneeze turns into the flu. It’s all totally in his head of course.

Does anyone else’s partner do this? It’s infuriating! He’s not once mentioned that he feels fatigued or that he’s so tired he can barely function. Oh no he manages to drag himself out for those 10k runs a coupe of times per week no problem 😤

My ex used to do exactly the same! It drove me mad. Immediately after having our daughter, I had a complication and ended up in a&e. He said he had similar issues. The nurse told him it was highly unlikely as it was a complication of the C-section I'd had. He still argued he had the same or 'similar'. No helpful advice but I feel your pain. They don't realise that all you really want when you're poorly is a bit of care and understanding, not a competition.

That’s so unfair on DH. Especially if he has the perimenopause too

Folic acid?

Are you sure?

@TracyLords

That’s so unfair on DH. Especially if he has the perimenopause too

😂

@Spotty234

Folic acid?

Are you sure?

Mmmm yes

That’s so unfair on DH. Especially if he has the perimenopause too
OP, tell him you had a follow-up and you’re perimenopausal and see if he lays claim to that too. In fact carry on naming ailments to see if he bagsies them: you’ve got oneupmanshipitis and storytopping.

TracyLords 😂😂 exactly!

That’s really rotten of him OP. I was never allowed to be ill when married to exh either.

It’s a really nasty trait to not allow another to be unwell or given consideration by always saying “I’ve got that too”

@Aliceinunderland

My ex used to do exactly the same! It drove me mad. Immediately after having our daughter, I had a complication and ended up in a&e. He said he had similar issues. The nurse told him it was highly unlikely as it was a complication of the C-section I'd had. He still argued he had the same or 'similar'. No helpful advice but I feel your pain. They don't realise that all you really want when you're poorly is a bit of care and understanding, not a competition.

That's beyond laughable. What a twat.

I wonder if the question about folic acid is because it’s not iron

@GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing

I wonder if the question about folic acid is because it’s not iron

Exactly that.

I'd be concerned if I was anemic and wasn't being prescribed ferrous sulphate

My Dad can't resist doing this, in his case I think it is his way of joining in the conversation as he has zero empathy.
If I told him one of the kids had covid, he would talk at length about his hay-fever symptoms.
Very occasionally he might say Oh, I don't think I have that, however, then talk about himself.
I don't have to live with my Dad though, I don't think I could live with someone who can't see that you being ill is about you.

I've got one of these. It's not just illness either, its anything to do with or the kids. Always refers everything back to himself, 'that used to happen to me or 'I knew a Cyril once. Anything really, totally irrelevant to what anyones discussing but turns it somehow. In this case, its being self centred or just a that really. Bloody annoying and selfish and not caring about anyone else really. So, yep, I understand. Phew! Better now I've got that off my chest-thanks!

Low folate and low iron are both capable of causing anaemia, and easy to distinguish on blood tests. Taking ferrous sulphate won't help if the OP's anaemia is due to lack of folate!

My husband has been suffering from the 'male menopause' for about 5 years now...
oddly, the same amount of time my hot flushes have been running for!

Meant to say 'just a t-w-at (auto correct would only allow me a 'that's for some reason) 🤣😅

My DH took a day off because he caught my sickness bug... it was morning sickness He still insisted he must have had a bug. Never actually vomited.

@OverTheHandlebars

Low folate and low iron are both capable of causing anaemia, and easy to distinguish on blood tests. Taking ferrous sulphate won't help if the OP's anaemia is due to lack of folate!

Perfectly put, thank you xxx

Tell dh the pain will be from his ovaries and he needs to see his GP.
Let him look a proper dick!!

Oh god my ex used to do this. In fact he still does, and not only about illness, about any other inconvenience or personal issue too. I suspect it is related to inability to empathise. His mum is the same. It's absolutely maddening. Often saying well actually, I have a lot on at the moment with xyz leads to him saying "I always make it about me". There is a reason he is an ex!

I bet it’s a way of making sure he doesn’t have to do anything, if he thinks it’ll affect your ability to do all the house grunt work, he’ll claim it for himself so he doesn’t have to do anything to pick up the slack.

I can’t wait for the stupid dope to claim your menopause.

Well you married him and sounds like he’s a hypochondriac. What do you say when he does this?

DH doesn’t but my MIL does and it’s extremely irritating.

My MIL is like this I've named it 'Medical Trumps' her sore throat trumps mine as she has earache with hers etc etc
I dont bother saying anything now tbh

@Bluntness100

Well you married him and sounds like he’s a hypochondriac. What do you say when he does this?

I actually tease him quite a lot about it, and to be fair he takes in good humour and doesn’t get annoyed 😂 he just says he’s has sympathy pains 🙄

How are his menstrual cramps?