Is nothing just mine?

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I’ve been feeling rotten for a few months, awful fatigue, unbearably tired, feeling very low, and anxious scratching on my arms which I’m now using steroid cream for 🙄

Finally decided to call the GP as I was convinced I was Peri menopausal. I had all the blood tests done & it turns out I have anaemia caused by low levels of folates.

I’ve to take 5mg of folic acid for 4 months as well as increase high in folate foods

I tell my husband what the results are, and the first thing he says is “I bet that’s what I’ve got” 😡😡😡

This isn’t a new thing, every tickle of my throat turns into a full on throat infection for him, every sneeze turns into the flu. It’s all totally in his head of course.

Does anyone else’s partner do this? It’s infuriating! He’s not once mentioned that he feels fatigued or that he’s so tired he can barely function. Oh no he manages to drag himself out for those 10k runs a coupe of times per week no problem 😤

Well I guess if you find it attractive.

DH is like this.
I’ve taking to saying “I can’t have anything myself can I?” every time he claims he has a headache when I’ve spent 4 hours in bed with a migraine, or he starts saying his throat is getting scratchy when I’ve lost my voice because my throat is so sore.
Bloody drama llama.

I’m stealing ‘medical trumps’ off Tee

@TeeTotaller1

My MIL is like this I've named it 'Medical Trumps' her sore throat trumps mine as she has earache with hers etc etc I dont bother saying anything now tbh

Mine s the opposite and reacts with surprise to anyone unwell with ‘But I never get headaches/sickness/migraines/flu/heart problems!’

Oh good. That makes me feel so much better.

DH does this when the DCs are ill, but has to be the first person in the house to have had the illness. So, DC will have a cold and DH will claim that he "felt weird last week". Or DC will have a stomach bug, "it's probably what I had last week". Etc etc

I think it's his way of demonstrating what a brave wee soul he is!

My DP does this too!! It winds me up. Every headache, vomit, cough, cold. "Yeah me too". I think he's trying to empathise but I don't want empathy, I want attention 😂
My DC do it to each other too, but theirs is often genuine. DD ends up in a&e, DS vomits. DS cracks his head open, DD vomits, or as the other day, DS has a birthday, DD faints 🤦🏼‍♀️

Not a husband but a mother like this. I have arthritis, lupus & hypermobility, so my shoulders & knees regularly dislocate or displace. I've inherited this from my paternal nan. So when my mum hurts herself, she'll say 'my arm hurts, it must be dislocated'. It's not. If it were, she'd be screaming her lungs out! So fucking annoying! 🙄

I don't know whether it's funny or not. It would drive me nuts

@MistandMud mine's a medical miracle donchaknow, it's a bloody wonder that the old bastards still alive

Only yesterday I was regaled with the tale of her stress incontinence and how she nearly pissed herself with the strain of lifting a large bag of spuds in Lidl...

I'd be concerned if I was anemic and wasn't being prescribed ferrous sulphate

Why? She didn’t say she has iron deficiency anaemia. I have hydroxocobalamin injections to treat my anaemia caused by lack of b12. No ferrous sulphate.

My Ex DH used to do this too. He asked for his blood pressure to be checked every time I saw the midwife. He went in a mood when I had to have a section because he wouldn't be able to have the gas and air.

Mine does this too. It can be very irritating. Not long after we met, I developed a heavy cold that came on over the course of a day. I felt exhausted and curled up on the sofa. I later smelled Lemsip but knew it wasn’t for me as I hate the stuff so asked him why he was having it and he told me it was as a precaution in case he developed a cold too! 🤣 He was fine but I felt awful for about a week!

OMG my partner does this. You cannot mention anything without 'oh yes, that's me too' or 'yes, it's awful, I've been feeling like this for days already'. I do call her on it, and I realised a while ago it's basically to do with a childhood where no one ever noticed if she was ill - her mum still jokes about how hilarious it was when she had a serious chest infection 'and I ignored it all, ha ha!'.

I am aware knowing the psychological reason behind it ought to make me more sympathetic, but ...!

@HumousWhereTheHeartIs

My Ex DH used to do this too. He asked for his blood pressure to be checked every time I saw the midwife. He went in a mood when I had to have a section because he wouldn't be able to have the gas and air.

What the heck did your midwife say?!

Yes, enough said!

Mine does this. I can't mention I've got anything without him saying he has it as well 🙄 it's stupid because he patently doesn't suffer from these things.

My grandmother was the same. The only time she couldn't have the same as my uncle was when he had a vasectomy 😁
It improved after I qualified from medical school as I could easily call her out on her nonsense 🤣

If my husband had ever tried that shit I would have reacted in such a way that he would not have repeated the attempt. What an immature, selfish way to behave. To the poster who said her DP does it because he’s trying to empathise - that is literally the opposite of why he does it!

My DH is like this.

Usually followed by the dressing gown of doom.

@LyndaSnellsSniff

DH does this when the DCs are ill, but has to be the first person in the house to have had the illness. So, DC will have a cold and DH will claim that he "felt weird last week". Or DC will have a stomach bug, "it's probably what I had last week". Etc etc

I think it's his way of demonstrating what a brave wee soul he is!

I'd be taking the piss out of him pointing out it must be him spreading all the illnesses then if he always gets them first and suggest he should wash more

My DH can be like this. Not usually a comparable illness but a random complaint. When I had a shitty time in pregnancy he had 'sore hands' and now I've had postnatal complications (different pregnancy) he has a sore foot and had to go to a private podiatrist to have it strapped up. Can weirdly still go for runs though...

He's generally very nice but this aspect does make me a bit

My DH is sometimes guilty of this - it drives me mad, but it is pretty much the only thing he does that annoys me so I can put up with it as he puts up with my flaws too!

But now DS1 has started doing it too, even though he's only 3! I told him that the reason his baby brother was crying was that he was getting new teeth and it made him sad because it hurts him and he said 'oh, I getting new teeth too and it hurts me MORE' and I just looked at DH and burst out laughing.

@WingBingo 🤣🤣🤣 dressing gown of doom

Yep… and I’m never allowed to say I’m tired because that’s moaning apparently

Say the doctor also said you are constipated and should take regular laxatives, see if he claims that one, and if he does bring out the allbran and prunes for him at every breakfast