To have had enough of being the only one?

[Huffler]

Boyfriend is in hospital. Im self isolating at home as child has tested positive for covid. I am stil being expected by his family to 'look after him' this entails me transferring my friends money (who have never even met my bf) to go buy him pjz toileteries food etc and drop it off at the hospital ward for him. His family are sending me links of stuff to buy online that might help him e.g. pain machines, heated blankets etc and claim they couldnt gt them to him so i should buy it and get it to him? How exactly? Asking me to break the law i dont even have transport. They have not visisted him once or dropped in any belongings hes been in for 2 weeks it has been my friends doing favours for me. Also prior to admission he was covid positive and i had him self isolating at my house. I was out everyday buying pjz, medicines, food and drink as had altered appetite. Im easily out over £250 and im a single parent to two kids. Im just sick of feeling like the buck stops with me when everybody else seems to be sititng on their arses watching me run around and i already have it hard being a single parent to 2 kids, no transport, on universal credit. Theres only so much i can do and im sick of being asked to run around and do things while others sit back. I love my bf of course i wish him better and i will do whatever it takes but its really starting to get to me that me that i seem to be the one having to do all this and i feel guilty asking my friends who also work full time (like myself) and dont even know the guy. Its a relatively new relationship too 6 months. I just feel like his friends or family should be making more of an effort and that it is unfair to expect me to do it all as prior to kids also testing positive i was having to drag them to hospital etc with me to drop bits off pick up washing etc. Aibu? I understand be there for ur partener of course and i have been above and beyond but at some point when does somebody else step in to help too as i cant do it all

@IntemperateSpirits

You've been with him for 6 months? I've gotnstuff in the fridge that's been there longer.

Time to go Zammo on his family - he's your boyfriend not your partner and you don't have the time, money or transport to be their servant.

This... 6 months in, I would expect HIS own family to be taking up the slack, not you. You are not in a position to financially, you don't have means of transport, you're a single parent who has a Covid positive child. The last thing a self isolating person should be doing is going into a Hospital full of vulnerable people.

Just say sorry you can't put everyone at risk.

Years ago I was this generous with boyfriends to my own detriment.

A counsellor completely changed my thinking by telling me that instead of questioning why my ex behaved the way he did, it would be much more productive to ask why I had allowed him to and why I had behaved the way I did.

And I didn't have kids.

I'm so glad you've taken the feedback on this thread on board because you've been prioritising a boyfriend over the stability you're providing to your children.

I don't say that to attack you, I say that to offer perspective on what's been happening here. You've been expected to do that and more importantly you've done so.

Please put you and your kids first, not a bloke you've been seeing for six months.

And how are PJs and Boxers £100? That implies you chose to get expensive ones which I can't understand if money is tight.