Kids are still a long way off for us, but we’ve discussed where we’d like to raise them and it’s caused more than a few rows!
When do have LOs, we each, selfishly, want to raise them near our own families, who live 4.5 hours apart.
We’ve considered a “compromise” of living halfway between the two families, but even that feels a bit pants. We want the LOs to have the kind of close relationships we had with our own families growing up, and we know that’s hard to pull off if kids don’t see people regularly. Plus we know it’s so much easier with nearby family support (both of ours would be great for this).
What makes it even harder is that none of the areas in between our respective hometowns have good job particularly good prospects, so we’d have to rely on decent WFH jobs. Which probs isn’t that unlikely tbf.
Honestly this is starting to give me a bit of a wobble. I love my SO to pieces, but I love my family too and the idea of raising my own family far from them makes me feel so sad. I know it’s the same for my SO.
We’re kind of stuck between a rock and a hard place.
It’s hard to know if I’m just being melodramatic, or if this is a valid thing to consider breaking up over. The problem is, the idea of breaking up makes me feel just as sad as raising kids away from my family.
Some perspective from people a bit further on in life would be good! I’m only in my late 20s and it’s hard to know which I’ll regret less in the future — ending things with a SO I love, or raising kids at least a 2hr drive from my parents, who I’m v close to.
AIBU? Loads of people raise kids away from their families and seem fine, so idk why I’m getting so worked up about it!!!