To find this unbelievably discriminatory

[bagpuss90]

I belong to a small ladies club -there’s around 15 of us . We meet for drinks, socials and various other things It’s been decided that we should open a bank account and appoint a treasurer to deal with the money side of things - I might add that we are not talking huge sums here. One of the members said she was happy to be treasurer -she works in accounts. Two of the other members have says they are not happy with her dealing with the money because she lives in a council house, is probably not financially stable and might be “tempted”. Talk about stereo type . I’m pretty sure this hasn’t got back to the person in question. It’s made me so cross -I don’t actually think I want to be a part of it anymore. I haven’t had a chance to talk to anyone else to find out what they think about these comments .

Why didn't you challenged them about their comments?

They are entitled to their opinion.

And you are entitled to now be thinking about whether or not this is a deal breaker with regards to the relationship with other members if the group.

Personally I don't think I'd want to hang out with people who are likely to look at my situation and use it to decide who's the first to he accused if stealing when someone gets drunk or careless and forgets how much they spent/girl out the cash point.

They are entitled to their opinion.

It's not an opinion. It's a stereotypical slur based on prejudice and assumptions.

Gosh that's mean, they haven't come that far from the school playground have they?

@SinoohXaenaHide

Whilst that's a nasty thing to say about anyone, it is quite normal good practice for any organisation like this to have a bank account that requires two signatories for everything. You don't have to be in a council house to be in financial trouble and I would be suspicious of the people who raised the possibility as their thoughts clearly lept to how the setup could be abused pretty quickly. Abandoning the group would be a bit of an overreaction but if its existence is being formalised with the creation of a bank account then you need a written constitution which states how decisions will be made about the distribution of assets, how authority will be elected and transferred, etc. That document can also specify that the group will not tolerate discrimination on grounds of (list everything including financial status) to make it clear that those views are not welcome.

In a nutshell.

You can't just waltz into a bank and open an account for a club or society.

a) What awful people - and even if they had those thought privately (still bad), what on earth made them think it was ok to air them?!?!

b) As the last couple of PPs have said, it's not as simple as just 'setting up an account'. This will make everything very formal and there will be a whole bunch of hoops to jump through. I would just nominate one person (preferably the lady in the council house with a background in accounts) to hold onto a lockbox with cash in if you really want to have some kind of group kitty.

A link for info:
www.resourcecentre.org.uk/information/bank-accounts-for-community-and-voluntary-organisations/

Am I the only person who read this as s being a club for "small ladies?"

I don't think I would go as far as leave the group if I otherwise enjoyed it, but I'd certainly tell them what I thought of their remarks!

As others have said, it is a good idea to have a couple of signatories and set this up properly.

It's not an opinion. It's a stereotypical slur based on prejudice and assumptions

Whatever it is they are entitled to think that. Frankly it's their loss if that's what they think of people. I spend my work.life trying to convince people I'm.not doing them.out of money. Like fuck would I.waste my free time too trying to convince and educate snobs out of their stereotyped thinking.

Leave the group. Imagine what they're probably saying about you behind your back. Don't become one of them.

The CEO of a local cancer charity went to jail for stealing tens of thousands from the charity.
He didn't live in a council house.
Poor woman she'd be so hurt if she finds out what's been said about her.

Nothing ladylike about those comments

I agree it’s coke but I don’t agree you should just shun them. IMO you have a perfect opportunity to teach a valuable life lesson with these ladies about judgement, snobbery and discrimination. If we just stomped off every time someone acted like this then we won’t get anywhere. Like it if not there are loads of middle class people around who look down on people as being beneath them. It has always gone on.

Obviously not coke but VILE! Sorry autocorrect up to mischief.

CFs.

Still thinking about how to play this. I don’t want to leave -I’ve had some lovely times . Just don’t really want to socialise with this pair anymore.
The woman in question sees pretty clued up about what we have to do re the account

Really though, do you believe you’ve been having lovely times with secretly horrible people? Or are they just showing their ignorance and negative received ideas.

Amusing idea that financially corrupt people live in council houses. I'd be more suspicious of someone in a large mansion

Unless there is some other reason why they don't trust this woman, this doesn't sound like a nice bunch.

I don’t want to leave -I’ve had some lovely times . Just don’t really want to socialise with this pair anymore

Trouble is, OP, if you become a bit cooler or distance yourself from them, you could easily become their next target

Personally I'd ask to their faces why they said such a thing (and also insist there are two signatories, which is basic common sense anyway with this sort of thing)

Plenty of rich people are rich because they swindle money off others. Perhaps they want to do accounts so they can swindle them. Think it, do it.

I'd be questioning whether I wanted to spend time with these people. They sound odious.

Whatever it is they are entitled to think that.

Replace 'council house' with an ethnicity. Are they still 'entitled' to that opinion? That all people of that kind are potential thieves?

I've thought I'd heard all the negative comments about council property residents, but I think this one beats the lot of them! And good on you OP for standing against this kind of crap.

What a gang of bitches.

Happy to be told that's not the collective phrase for them but fucking hell they sound awful.

@iklboogiemaninthecloset

Whatever it is they are entitled to think that.

Replace 'council house' with an ethnicity. Are they still 'entitled' to that opinion? That all people of that kind are potential thieves?

Ethnicity is a protected characteristic, whereas poverty is not.

Most finance professionals have to be of impeccable financial standing to hold their posts. Even people like mortgage advisers who can do very little damage if they do go rogue.

It’s an unpalatable truth, but even the FCA recognises that people in financial difficulty are much more susceptible to committing financial crime. Your society would be well advised to be wary of someone without good financial standing.