This is our situation and I think it's I should be able to have a say.
Fiancé and I, been together 12 years. Engaged 8. Have a 6year old DD. We are renting in nice (probably is expensive) area.
When I met DF we were 19 and his mum persuaded him and his best friend to buy a house as a buy to let investment. Then probably 5 years later DF, his DM and an investor she works with bought a property 3 ways to buy to let.
The first house sold and the money paid off a few debts, some went to savings. Since then after clearing a few debts my DF has been saving approx ÂŁ600 a month so when the last house sells we will have the money made from that as well as approx ÂŁ15k in savings to even put to the deposit or depending of what we get from the house sale buy furniture etc etc.
The house we live in is lovely but very small 2 up 2 down cottage. We all love it but it is frustratingly small.
I said that before we buy a house together we need to get married. This was always the plan but we just never got around to it. Registry office style wedding is what we always discussed. As I want to know should anything happen me and my DD will be financially okay. This has now gone out of the window, and he's wanting to buy the house we're in as likely a good investment.
When I say I'd like to look around, perhaps a few villages on for a bigger house he says well you've not saved any money. So I have no say.
Now the only reason he's saved anything is because we use his wage (less savings) to pay bills. My salary is then split each month for spending money.
Aibu to think this isn't 100% fair?