DP Lending Out Our Car

[Wantubackforgood]

AIBU -have just had a row with DP regarding a family member borrowing our car .
We have a sensible car each which we use for work etc ,and a little convertible which we use in summer .
DP announces that x has asked to borrow it for a few weeks and he has agreed .
I have said no as they have made choices to spend their money elsewhere which means they are now without a car .
We choose to spend our money on cars and motorbikes etc because that's what we enjoy doing in our spare time but it doesn't mean we are there to subsidise other people's lack of transport !

AIBU?

Sorry i thought you said cat; i was about to enter an expression of interest.

@Wantubackforgood

Just to clarify ...they are not skint . They have an £80,000 motor home and live in a mortgage free house .They also go on expensive holidays .We can afford these things and are in a similar position . We are not interested in seeing the world ,happy in our home, pottering in the garage ,camping holidays and driving for days out in our car /motorbike if the weather is nice .

sounds like they have a nice lifestyle while mooching off of others ... I don't blame you for saying no. I would as well.

I lent our car to a sensible friend of my dd once. He paid for the insurance to cover it for 2 days...£75!
No way would I do it under those circumstances

I don’t think you’re unreasonable for saying no. But I think your reasoning is really strange. It makes you sound very bitter. If you’d said you were worried about it being damaged that’s fair enough but just on a point of principle?

This ^ is my thinking too.
If you have something valuable, or rare, or much loved that you are worried about being scratched or damaged and don't want to lend it to people - fair enough. But this sounds like you just don't want to lend something which you aren't using to them because they have made different choices with their money, which is odd. If I had something I wasn't using that would help someone out for a few weeks, then I'd lend it them.