To be amazed at the entitlement?

[80Dodgeballs]

I advertised a toy on FB. In pristine condition for £1 (would normally sell new for £8).

Someone living in a very wealthy area has asked me to deliver the toy to them when they know it's a 15 mile round trip. They don't want to know now that I've suggested a few pounds delivery charge for petrol and my time. It would still make the toy half of what it would cost in the shops.

AIBU to be flabbergasted at how some people expect the world to owe them something when they're already getting an amazing deal?

They seem really miffed at my suggestion of a delivery charge. Why on earth would I deliver something for £1 when it would cost me more than that in petrol let alone my time? CF!!! I can't believe the gall of some people.

@70isaLimitNotaTarget

Sxhadenfreud if you'd waited another couple of weeks till he was a bitey little landshark furniture wrecker they might've paid you to take him away ...

Or picked him and his brother up from the pound for free!

Treat it like a game. A game that will eventually get you some cash in exchange for your crud.

I think there's often an element that, because the certain common kind of selfish, egocentric person wouldn't dream of giving something away free themselves, unless it was complete rubbish - probably talked up falsely as much better than it is, to get some mug to take it off their hands - they assume that others are like them, and treat with suspicion anybody who genuinely wants to see something decent but no longer needed go to a good home.

Therefore, they will work from the basic assumption of you thinking it's no good and are trying to offload it on to them, but they might be able to find some value in it that you haven't noticed; thus they're trying to play you at what they think is your own 'game' - and with that mindset, why on earth would they dream of thanking you?

Either that or they assume you must be a complete idiot, without the faintest clue of what you're giving away or selling for a bargain price - and therefore, they see you as beneath contempt anyway (but they'll still gladly take your stuff off you).

I offered something on Freecycle and a woman asked me if I’d deliver it to a city 15 miles away…… People never fail to amaze me.

@OnyxOryx

The best one I ever had was the person living 100 miles away who wanted me to take it round so they could have a look and decide if they wanted it!

Second best was the one repeatedly messaging saying they wanted it but refusing to collect it and wanting delivery, in the end I said sure I'll deliver it'll cost a £100 fee 😂 They finally stopped messaging after that.

The most barmy was the one who messaged from the northernmost UK, my location clearly stated as the southernmost UK, for an item advertised as "strictly CASH on collection only" because I don't use PayPal and couldn't be bothered with any other payment method for the sake of £10. They repeatedly messaged me begging for me to let them have it. I eventually said if they're happy to post me the cash + £3 to cover postage cost I'd send it to them. Their response was to publicly tell people I was a scammer because I wanted only cash! Madness.

I think these people are the scammers. Isn't there a PayPal scam out there where they cancel the payment after getting the goods?

Having read the entire thread just now I have remembered some of the more joyful giving away of stuff we've done.
Got rid of a load of computer stuff to a young lad learning electronics. Offloaded a monitor on him too. He was overjoyed.

Gave away a huge number of plants over the years.
Took a box of those wrestling figures to a family on the street who were brassic. Their dad was chuffed and the lad came to say thank you.

Recently tried to give away some children's chairs. After three no shows someone took them to the local scout hut for their next jumble sale.

Watched a family shove dirty wet AstroTurf into their family car on top of the kids. That was entertaining.

@smoko

Hear you OP, this kind of cheeky fuckery gets my goat!

Recently I sold a vintage stained glass front door on FB for $100 - worth a fair bit more, but had found it by the roadside & enjoy putting up a good deal which is a quick sell in an hour or two

Had a message from someone offering $50

Messaged back & said no, price firm

Then they message back to offer the asking price!

So text them back & said no, on principle I won’t sell it to you now, because you’ve taken the piss with such a lowball offer.

They apologised & offered $150!

I still said no - based on your rudeness to offer such a low asking price when you can obviously afford me pay more, am even less inclined to sell to someone like you.

Think people like this need to be called out on their cheapskate attitude.

😂 you did yourself out of $150. This might be the dumbest thing I’ve ever read on mn

I recently offered a small piece of furniture for free on FBMP and wish I hadnt bothered. The number of messages I got asking me to take more pictures of it - even the underneath? were silly - I put on one from each angle and the measurements, which was enough of my time as it was being given away free.....

I had one person message me saying they wanted it but could I keep it for a month while they were busy with work, then another who said they wanted it but then didnt message me for another week, and finally one person who asked for my address to check the distance, got sniffy when I only gave the first 5 digits of my postcode (plenty good enough for Google maps to give you a distance but keep my home address secure) then they said they didnt drive and would need me to deliver it as it "wasnt their fault I lived so far away" - it was advertised as collection only!! When I said i couldnt deliver they called me selfish and greedy - huh?

I gave up and i took it to the tip in the end

@Winniemarysarah Been there! That was me last week. You're not alone 💖

@smoko

Hear you OP, this kind of cheeky fuckery gets my goat!

Recently I sold a vintage stained glass front door on FB for $100 - worth a fair bit more, but had found it by the roadside & enjoy putting up a good deal which is a quick sell in an hour or two

Had a message from someone offering $50

Messaged back & said no, price firm

Then they message back to offer the asking price!

So text them back & said no, on principle I won’t sell it to you now, because you’ve taken the piss with such a lowball offer.

They apologised & offered $150!

I still said no - based on your rudeness to offer such a low asking price when you can obviously afford me pay more, am even less inclined to sell to someone like you.

Think people like this need to be called out on their cheapskate attitude.

when you can obviously afford me pay more, am even less inclined to sell to someone like you. WTAF?!?!? Love, YOU we're the CF in that conversation, wow!

Also, why were you trying to sell something you found by the side of the road????? Major CF!

@Dellit

For PP asking, a lounge is probably what you would call a sofa (they are more commonly called lounges in Aus - short for lounge suite)

So you mean a 'Lounger' to Lounge on

Nah I don't agree - buyers are free to offer what they like, sellers are free to decline. It's not rude.

That's really not how it works. Prices are fixed unless the seller puts "o.n.o." after the price (meaning "or nearest offer"). If they haven't and you're going to chance your luck by haggling, asking for more than a 10-20% discount absolutely is taking the piss. Of course you're free to behave like a piss taking CF if you wish, but don't be surprised if you get an equally rude response from a seller.

One of my CF experiences was someone trying to take on a guinea-pig they/their family didn't want .
I had just matched up a castrated boar and 2 sows as a nice herd so I didn't want a new one .
Especially as I found out it was
Entire Male (so could not live in my herd)
A Skinny (hairless) that I'd have to keep indoors so wouldn't benefit from being with me as it couldn't live in my shed.
They eat loads and need ultrasoft bedding

I eventually said I'd "foster" it indoors in a cagge till I could find a home . ( I was reluctant to have it )

Then the kisser ........ they wanted me to give them £50 for this rodent that looks like a scrotum "because they cost a lot to buy "
They do £80-£100

Fuck Right Off , I suggested !

Trying to get me to take on ...

@Basilandparsleyandmint

My worst FB Selling item was a pair of curtains from next they were something like £80 new so I advertised them for £15 they were in very good condition etc. Anyway a buyer messaged me and wanted to pay £10. Said no etc and then she agreed to the £15. She turned up but didn’t get out of the car but sent her two children up to my door to get them with £10. Putting her children that situation, couldn’t believe it

@DecadentlyDecisive

The minute anyone starts trying to mess me around, knock me down etc. on FB Marketplace I say "No", if they persist I Block 'em.

Life's too short for arseholes.

To be fair, there's nothing wrong with asking if you'll accept less, as long as they're polite. I think you're out of order to block somebody just for asking a simple question

😂 at all the CF on this thread getting annoyed because someone sold something they obtained for free. It doesn't matter that poster found it abandoned by someone else. It had value. She sold it. There's nothing wrong with that. It's no different than if she sold something given to her as a gift but which she no longer had use for. If you purchase something for a price you're happy to pay then you haven't been ripped off, regardless of what the seller paid for it. It's amazing that on a thread about CFs you all come here to out yourselves as being one!

On the other side the coin, I once bought a washing machine when I was pregnant. The lady agreed to deliver for £5 extra, despite me saying I was heavily pregnant & would be alone so unable to help lift it. I of course, would've fully understood if delivery wasn't possible, but she was absolutely fine about it & said she'd have her son with her to help - great!
The set up of my house then, meant you could reverse right up to the front door & no doorstep - straight into kitchen. Sorted!

She turns up with a presumably 8/9yr old boy and makes the BIGGEST song & dance of bringing it in and complained to me massively about how I "didn't even try to lift it" I was (very visibly) 9 months pregnant..... I could barely stand up & walk ffs

I think these people are the scammers. Isn't there a PayPal scam out there where they cancel the payment after getting the goods?

I don't know. It's a minefield isn't it. I presumed the person was just really stupid and a CF. But you could well be right. I've always thought PayPal was a scammers paradise which is why I never use it. I've never understood the hype, all that bollocks about being "safety and protection for buyer and seller" when everyone who's ever been stitched up by using it knows there's zero protection as a seller. So many friends have told me horror stories. And the actual law covers you perfectly well, since it puts the onus on the buyer to check the item, ask questions etc to ensure its what they want prior to purchase and take the risk it arrives unbroken/arrives at all, or to pay for whatever postal insurance they require, if they choose not to collect it in person. I never could understand how PayPal thought it was protecting a seller better than the law, so I didn't feel like giving my banking details to a company that I felt was telling lies.

@ppp4321

I put a microwave on Freecyle. All good, chap came to collect at the door. Then said could he come in and have a look round my kitchen as he was stocking an entire kitchen over the next few weeks so would like some more of my kitchen stuff. Fair enough to ask (politely) but no, some random stranger will not be given a full house tour to pick out the possessions he'd like to take for free.

I'm also amused by people's CFery on Freecycle. The "wanted" posts along the lines of "Wanted: 3 metre square massive tv. Must be smart tv, ultra high definition and silver. No car so must be delivered to (place miles away)." Followed by another five similar requests. Possibly pushes the spirit of Freecycle a little far.

Please tell me what you said back to microwave CF guy?!

[quote senorafridgidaire]@PineappleWilson that reminds me of the time I was selling a BBQ, in the winter. A guy messaged me saying he needed it urgently so would come that night (Fri) at 11pm when he finished work. I said that wasn't convenient, he could come any time Saturday or Sunday but 11pm was too late. He was insistent that he needed it super urgently, and eventually agreed to finish work early and come at 10pm. He screeched up outside, ran to the door, shoved the money at me, threw the BBQ in the car and drove off at top speed. I was so intrigued as to what he could possibly have needed it for at 11pm on a winters night.[/quote]
That made me giggle! 🍔🌭

@NotPersephone Nice dig at lone parents there..... We don't all behave (nor type) like that, you know? Some of us are decent people with morals and respect

Please tell me what you said back to microwave CF guy?!

In that very British way of trying not to cause offence and be polite, "No, just the microwave but I'll bear that in mind thank you". What I felt like saying ... "you cheeky little s**t, you are not emptying my kitchen because you think I'm that guillible". And therein lies the problem, CFs take advantage of us trying to be nice. I can't imagine demanding to come inside a complete stranger's house (particularly in a pandemic) to take my pick of their things.

(And yes, I appreciate some people are really hard up and Freecycling is a good way of reducing waste and helping others).

I had it on a larger scale when I sold my house. Price agreed and house taken off the market. Agent asked if the buyers could come round and make us an offer on a few things. I wanted the agent to accompany them but she said it wouldn't be a big thing. The buyers turned up with various family members in tow, went round every room and demanded pretty much most items of furniture inside and outside, together with all appliances, curtains etc. Totalling about £15k for me to replace. For nothing. They got more and more belligerent and angry with me for saying it wasn't possible. I was with two young kids on my own and it felt extremely uncomfortable.

In fact, I think CF microwave guy even offered to pop back in three weeks to pick up anything else.

@AutumnTreesBloom

We had this only last week. We were selling something on FBMP for £50 when it was easily worth £200. Someone came and said 'I'm not going to pay £50 but I'll give you £40'. DP just said 'looks like you've had a wasted trip then mate' and opened the door for them to leave. So they said 'ok ok I'll pay £50' and went on to pull a massive wad of £50 notes out of their pocket!!!

I would have said the price is £100 now.