To be amazed at the entitlement?

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I advertised a toy on FB. In pristine condition for £1 (would normally sell new for £8).

Someone living in a very wealthy area has asked me to deliver the toy to them when they know it's a 15 mile round trip. They don't want to know now that I've suggested a few pounds delivery charge for petrol and my time. It would still make the toy half of what it would cost in the shops.

AIBU to be flabbergasted at how some people expect the world to owe them something when they're already getting an amazing deal?

They seem really miffed at my suggestion of a delivery charge. Why on earth would I deliver something for £1 when it would cost me more than that in petrol let alone my time? CF!!! I can't believe the gall of some people.

I've only ever bargained once, personally.

Three years ago we were looking for a spaniel pup, and had a budget of £450.

There was a lovely litter of 9 advertised locally - but they were £750 each - well out of our price bracket. Two weeks later, there were 5 left - £650, and a fortnight after that, only 2 now priced at £550. (They were starting to lose their "baby doggie" appeal).

So I e-mailed, and said I appreciated that they'd dropped the price massively, but My budget had been £450, but I could push it up to £495 if that was acceptable to them. If not, then no problem and thanks for reading the e-mail.

They e-mailed back "yes" and we got our dog for £495. He was 14 weeks by then, so not a tiny cute baby (more a bolshie adolescent ) but to be fair he'd have been a bargain at the original £750 - he's lovely. I just wish we could have afforded his brother, too.

Sxhadenfreud if you'd waited another couple of weeks till he was a bitey little landshark furniture wrecker they might've paid you to take him away ...

@comedycentral

Wow, people are so out of touch with real life! How can you not see the value of £1 varies from family to family. Great to hear you don't worry about money, please don't be rude to the OP!

Get off Mumsnet and volunteer in a food bank to gain some perspective.

It's not being out of touch, it's the pointlessness of the effort for £1. If you've only got one item then fair enough, but most people have a few things, like this poster has 15 items. She could advertise for £5 each and if only 3 things sell, that's still £15, but she's had less hassle to get it, less people to deal with and wait in for collection. It's a no-brainer. Plus more than 3 things might sell and then she's better off.

Oh yeah, I've got a brand new down filled Children's ski jacket on at the mo, labels all on and original packaging, cheapest I've found new is currently £110, I put it on for £55 saying as much, someone today has asked me if I'd take £30, what £25 off a jacket you'd already be getting half price. Feck off, I told her not to be such a cheeky c*nt as well , I'd only just woke up.

Find this a bit annoying tbh - it's normal to haggle a bit, no matter how rich or poor you are, and fair enough to make an offer under the asking price, perhaps with the hope of meeting somewhere in the middle. Seller isn't obligated to accept, as you didn't - totally fair enough - but when they then offered you what you wanted (for something you found for free at the side of the road) think you were a bit rude and judgy not to sell it to them if they were the first in line.

Haggle a bit, fine. But offering half the price is taking the piss. If you're going to be rude to a seller by doing that, then you can't be surprised to receive rudeness in response.

I have a positive FBMP selling experience too. I had a huge garden we had inherited along with badly overgrown trees and bushes so we had a company in to clear. I could see the greenhouse was going to be a pain with broken glass everywhere once the clearance company started so I advertised it for free to collection.
A lovely man who had recently retired and moved into the area asked to have it. He came with tools and a van and spent a summer afternoon dismantling it. He was chatty, knowledgeable and extremely grateful.
He sent me pictures of it once it was put up in his garden, thanking me once more.

His retirement purpose was to relocate to the south and grow all his own vegetables. I'm so glad that greenhouse didn't go into the skip.

@smoko

Hear you OP, this kind of cheeky fuckery gets my goat!

Recently I sold a vintage stained glass front door on FB for $100 - worth a fair bit more, but had found it by the roadside & enjoy putting up a good deal which is a quick sell in an hour or two

Had a message from someone offering $50

Messaged back & said no, price firm

Then they message back to offer the asking price!

So text them back & said no, on principle I won’t sell it to you now, because you’ve taken the piss with such a lowball offer.

They apologised & offered $150!

I still said no - based on your rudeness to offer such a low asking price when you can obviously afford me pay more, am even less inclined to sell to someone like you.

Think people like this need to be called out on their cheapskate attitude.

You are taking the piss here, aren't you?

You've got to be joking with this example, right?!

You find something - it's FREE - and you call other opportunists cheeky?!

🤔

I list some stuff for a £1 because it’s that or the bin and I figure someone might like it cheap. I’m on my phone all the time so it’s not much extra hassle and saves it from landfill. Nope I’m not going to the charity shop because that is hassle.

I hate the ones where you list something say £80 and it’s like for a mere 5 minutes. Would you take £20? Erm no it’s only just been listed. An hour later same person fine ok £25, still no. I once blocked someone like that they then used another profile to message me. So I sent a rather blunt message that him nor his “mate” would be able to purchase anything from me today, tomorrow or ever and that I would rather bin the item than deal with such people. I reported both profiles for low balling and blocked them.

@OnyxOryx

Find this a bit annoying tbh - it's normal to haggle a bit, no matter how rich or poor you are, and fair enough to make an offer under the asking price, perhaps with the hope of meeting somewhere in the middle. Seller isn't obligated to accept, as you didn't - totally fair enough - but when they then offered you what you wanted (for something you found for free at the side of the road) think you were a bit rude and judgy not to sell it to them if they were the first in line.

Haggle a bit, fine. But offering half the price is taking the piss. If you're going to be rude to a seller by doing that, then you can't be surprised to receive rudeness in response.

Nah I don't agree - buyers are free to offer what they like, sellers are free to decline. It's not rude.

However today I gave something away for free and a lovely little lady turned up in her pjs though lol and gave me a bag of haribos for my dd.

Was a child’s toy I gave away.

@Horst

I list some stuff for a £1 because it’s that or the bin and I figure someone might like it cheap. I’m on my phone all the time so it’s not much extra hassle and saves it from landfill. Nope I’m not going to the charity shop because that is hassle.

I hate the ones where you list something say £80 and it’s like for a mere 5 minutes. Would you take £20? Erm no it’s only just been listed. An hour later same person fine ok £25, still no. I once blocked someone like that they then used another profile to message me. So I sent a rather blunt message that him nor his “mate” would be able to purchase anything from me today, tomorrow or ever and that I would rather bin the item than deal with such people. I reported both profiles for low balling and blocked them.

However totally agree that people who then don't take no for an answer are rude.

Facebook does genuinely have a report section for people that offer stupid low prices. They get their profiles blocked from market place for a set amount of days and I believe if they persist they just get banned from market place full stop so clearly Facebook is against stupid offers.

Same for no shows you can report them.

I put on bratz dolls for £10. If advertised about 20 dolls

I got some 110 off messages. Assuming that I’d send them over post or deliver them. Regardless that sending them in a box would cost me £10!! They all added £2 on it

Ridiculous.

I gave away a hoover on a free local facebook group. I couldn't be bothered to deal with selling it and dealing with haggling etc (for reasons outlined in many of these posts!) so I thought giving it away for free and having someone collect wouldn't be hassle. The hoover was a few years old but in good nick and I was only getting rid of it because we'd bought a new one.

A lady came and got it. All fine. Except 6 months later she messaged me again to say it had packed up and stopped working, so could I come and collect it as they didn't have time to go to the tip!! Amazing cheek

@AudacityBaby

Those are lovely stories. Reminds me of two I had recently.

Was clearing out toys and popped them on a local page for free.

One woman sent me a video clip of her five absolutely adorable young children playing with the fire engines/tractors etc, aw I felt so happy to see how happy they were.

And another woman who took a huge bundle of immaculate soft toys, left me a bottle of prosecco and a note explaining that she was a firefighter and liked to return post-fire to families with a soft toy for any child involved. What an amazing person she is.

@HideousKinky

I was selling a half-size violin which DD had grown out of using. A woman contacted me and made a half-hearted attempt to bargain over the price before saying instead of buying it, could she just borrow it because "it was important for us mums to stick together"

Stonking, @HideousKinky

I hope you offered to play her a sad tune on it via Whatsapp, to convey the depth of her grief when you heartlessly rejected her plea for maternal solidarity. You monster.

The one that annoys me is when the person collecting texts to say ‘I’m outside’

I’m literally answering texts now saying ‘I’m at No22.’ Err love we are no 17, 5 doors down.

Ring the doorbell like a normal person would!

@AdobeWanKenobi

To be fair, when OP herself said:

It's just those CF who are in their 5 bed detached houses wanting something for nothing or don't want to pay the already bargain price that gets my goat!

It's just as judgmental. Nobody knows other peoples circumstances. You can live in a 5 bed detached and be on the bones of your arse just the same as in a 1 bed council flat.

It's still much more difficult for a family to live in a cramped flat though so no, that doesn't wash with me.

We gave away a lovely dining room table on FBMP. We thought it would be nice for someone who wanted a family dining table for free and it was in good condition.

We were immediately bombarded with emails demanding that we take pictures from every angle and measurements, followed by several demands to deliver our free table to them. Asap. We finally gave it to the one gentleman who was thrilled to come pick it up, and actually said thank you. Several of the more entitled responders were absolutely furious we gave it to someone else, and flooded my husband's inbox with angry messages for days afterwards. Never again!

I once sold a top on eBay, was nothing special, bought it too small and didn't have the receipt. I received a message of a woman explaining it wasn't her size but would I mind checking if the shop had it in her size, replied something along the lines of no, wouldn't be doing that as I'm not providing a personal shopper service. Received a message back calling me arrogant 🙄😂

And another woman who took a huge bundle of immaculate soft toys, left me a bottle of prosecco and a note explaining that she was a firefighter and liked to return post-fire to families with a soft toy for any child involved. What an amazing person she is

Ahhhh 50Shades that is lovely

I was quite pissed off when scrap metal people came for my play pen and stair gates.
I wanted a family to have it and offered free. Then I just gave to the first ppl to contact me.

I hope you offered to play her a sad tune on it via Whatsapp, to convey the depth of her grief when you heartlessly rejected her plea for maternal solidarity. You monster.

I love it!

I've just been looking on Freecycle - someone has asked for an iPhone 8 (because their iPhone 6 needs upgrading)
Granted there could be circumstances in which someone wants one for a teen who has broken or lost theirs but crikey.

This one’s literally just come up on my local page 🙄