Does this mean they don’t like the name?

[GemmaRuby]

When people have asked my baby’s name, most people say “ah that’s nice” etc.

A few people have instead said “what made you choose that name?” Or “is there a reason for the name?”, or “is it a family name?” (Without also saying it’s nice).

I really don’t mind if people don’t like it, but AIBU to think that a response like that means they don’t like the name?

For context it’s a very normal name at the lower end of the top 100.

I think they are just making conversation. Most people aren’t that bothered about what people call their kids

If they don’t straight up say they like it, and avoid that word by asking peripheral questions, they don’t like it. The rule is that you have to tell us what it is though

I think they were just making conversation and dknt actually really care what you name the baby.

Just making conversation. They’re interested in why you picked the name, or pretending to be. People generally say a name is lovely, even if they think it isn’t, though, not that this is the case with yours.

Our son has a slightly old fashioned name and I’ve had people ask me if it was a family name.

PM me what the name is and I'll tell you if you're being paranoid or not

Making conversation or they don’t like it.

I think it probably means they're not so keen.
Doesn't matter since the world would be a very boring place without variety in our tastes.

I'd say they don't like it. That would personally be my response to a name I didn't like.

Perhaps the choice surprised them from you. I had a friend convinced I would choose very hippy sounding names and my choices were not in that expectation.

If he is called Brian or Colin. I could understand but probs they are just interested

You are overthinking things. What does it matter anyway? You like the name, no-one else's opinion counts.

It is in the grandad genre of names that are now being used for babies, so people could be surprised if they haven’t heard it on a baby recently I suppose.

I’m not offended when I suspect people don’t like it, just curious if I’m right to think they don’t like it.

I'd say just making conversation. If you had a combination of horror and laughter then we'd be asking the name but I think you're OK

Just say what the name is and you'll get good feedback

It is hard to get enthusiastic about some names but it's a bit rude to show it.
My cousin was going through a list of potential boy names with us. There were lots of oohs and aaahs until she got to one and there was silence. No-one did it on purpose but I think our collective reaction spelled boring. She's not using it. 😄

That's what I'd say if someone told me their baby was called Brian.

You are probably right.

Its to your taste, not theirs.

9 times out of 10 when i hear what somebody has just named their baby i think 1) boring 2) ugly 3) weird 4) that'll date

is it the older ones that ask the questions? I ask because, I am an older mum and when the kids were in Y6 the new reception starters had names that I associate with old people from when I was a nipper, people born at the turn of the 20th century, lovely 80-90 year old ladies, who were single as their sweethearts had died in WW1

What is the name?

I’d always go for an “ah that’s a nice name” even if I hated it.
Maybe they’re just less willing to lie than me

I think most people don't like the old person names. They are just weirdly reflected in the stats.

‘Oh that’s lovely/nice/pretty’ - I love it, I’d use it
‘How interesting/ that’s unusual/ that’s a bit different’ - wtf did you do that for, poor kid
‘Oh, nice - is it a family name ?’ - is grandad also a Gary?

I would say their responses mean they don't like the name.

@BlackeyedSusan

is it the older ones that ask the questions? I ask because, I am an older mum and when the kids were in Y6 the new reception starters had names that I associate with old people from when I was a nipper, people born at the turn of the 20th century, lovely 80-90 year old ladies, who were single as their sweethearts had died in WW1

Yes it is usually older people