Does this mean they don’t like the name?

[GemmaRuby]

When people have asked my baby’s name, most people say “ah that’s nice” etc.

A few people have instead said “what made you choose that name?” Or “is there a reason for the name?”, or “is it a family name?” (Without also saying it’s nice).

I really don’t mind if people don’t like it, but AIBU to think that a response like that means they don’t like the name?

For context it’s a very normal name at the lower end of the top 100.

To be honest, we chose our children's names because we liked them, it never even occurred to me to think about what other people may think of them. There will be many things in life which 'others' may think differently about, it really doesn't matter what they think about you or yours. You will tie yourself in knots if you try to live your life like that.

A name is a name. I assume you chose it because you like it?
I always say what a beautiful baby/I love the name (because all babies are beautiful and you can find something to like in any name - even if it's just the bravery of the parents)
If I'm face to face with the person telling me the name I'll mentally prepare for something really dreadful so that my face doesn't let me down while I'm complimenting a name that's
perfectly reasonable but that I wouldn't choose.
Not everyone will like every name, and I'm sure yours is fine!

If it is an old person name, it is just more likely that it is a family name, or for a grandpa or whatever. Doesn't necessarily mean they don't like it, they're just going a little deeper into the conversation than 'ah lovely'.

I don't think it means they don't like it.

Almost anyone would say "oh, that's a lovely name" even if they didn't like it.

Is it Vincent? nn Vinnie?

Keith? Ken? Gary? Kevin?

Defo need to know the name...

Depends on the name, could be either

Is it grandad names, as in Keith, Kevin, Ken...or great grandad names, as in Albert, Reggie, Walter, Cedric?

Unless you say what the name is.. we can tell you!

Go on, say the name. This thread is a little bit pointless without it. I think that the people you’re telling probably don’t like it but who cares…you do 🤷‍♀️

I'd ask more questions about a name that I actually liked. 'Its lovely' etc is my default answer for a name I'm either not fond of or don't care about at all.

If its an old fashioned name, they might associate people who use "older" names honouring a family member who had died /the child was born on their birthday etc. So if it makes them think of grandparents, they are asking as they expect you to say "why yes, hes named after my husband's grandad who died on the day I found out I was pregnant."

I say 'ah, lovely!' even if I think the name is horrid. I don't think any comment will help you guess if people like it, people are just making noises.

Bit rude not to just say oh that's nice.

Does it annoy other people when people name their children with an abbreviation of a name? Like 'Archie' for example... so Archibald? No, 'Archie'.

Also, 'Alby' is not a name. It's Albert.

If it's your name and you prefer to use a short version fair enough, but I feel like your birth certificate should have the correct name on it.

I thought it wouldn’t bother me but now I’m a little upset at the thought that people don’t like baby Clive Gary’s name

I'm always ready to say 'ah, it's lovely' without missing a beat. Although I admit to struggling when faced with a couple of 'old people' names that (to me) don't work at any age. But I got to choose my kids names without anyone commenting so I don't comment on others kids names.

"Oh that’s lovely/nice/pretty’ - I love it, I’d use it

"How interesting/ that’s unusual/ that’s a bit different’ - wtf did you do that for, poor kid

"Oh, nice - is it a family name ?’ - is grandad also a Gary?"

I even got one Mum I knew pull her face and ask if we'd made it up. DD was about 3 days old at the time. We just laughed, but blimey, that takes rude to a new level!

Clive and Gary are both OK but I'm not sure I'd put them together. It's like Sebastian Wayne. Alexander Kevin. They're not matching?

Clive is definitely an uncommon name for a baby.
Gary, who cares, it’s his middle name and no one ever uses middle names except on paper.

No, Clive Gary is the first name. Middle name is Barry.

Is your surname Parry?

Clive Gary Barry? 🤣🤣🤣

I no longer believe this thread 😏