Does this mean they don’t like the name?

[GemmaRuby]

When people have asked my baby’s name, most people say “ah that’s nice” etc.

A few people have instead said “what made you choose that name?” Or “is there a reason for the name?”, or “is it a family name?” (Without also saying it’s nice).

I really don’t mind if people don’t like it, but AIBU to think that a response like that means they don’t like the name?

For context it’s a very normal name at the lower end of the top 100.

It has crossed my mind @Trinacham

Two first names and one middle name is very unbalanced. Have you thought about Clive Gary Barry Harry?

@GemmaRuby

No, Clive Gary is the first name. Middle name is Barry.

Nice one.

That made me laugh

It did start off as a serious question, but I’m not actually going to tell you my baby’s name so it can be torn to shreds.
I will tell you it’s not Clive Gary Barry though.

@GemmaRuby

It did start off as a serious question, but I’m not actually going to tell you my baby’s name so it can be torn to shreds. I will tell you it’s not Clive Gary Barry though.

In that case it's a terrible name and I can't believe you would saddle a baby with that name. Don't be surprised when they go nc with you!

@GemmaRuby

It did start off as a serious question, but I’m not actually going to tell you my baby’s name so it can be torn to shreds. I will tell you it’s not Clive Gary Barry though.

In that case, yes, those are the sort of comments I’d make, if I was internally thinking (as I often do), ‘WTF?’.

@GemmaRuby

It did start off as a serious question, but I’m not actually going to tell you my baby’s name so it can be torn to shreds. I will tell you it’s not Clive Gary Barry though.

Do you have the answer you were looking for from this thread?

@008NoTimeToDiet

I think most people don't like the old person names. They are just weirdly reflected in the stats.

....how are they weirdly reflected in the stats? I mean, given that the stats are taken from the Registry?

And, if that's not what you base your view on, what leads you to think that 'most people don't like the old person names'?

@GemmaRuby why make up a completely ridiculous name to make that point though? No one is going to say that Clive Gary Barry is a great lovely name even just to be polite!

[quote MrsElijahMikaelson1]@GemmaRuby why make up a completely ridiculous name to make that point though? No one is going to say that Clive Gary Barry is a great lovely name even just to be polite![/quote]
Because the thread became lighthearted.
Calm down.

@GemmaRuby

It did start off as a serious question, but I’m not actually going to tell you my baby’s name so it can be torn to shreds. I will tell you it’s not Clive Gary Barry though.

I think it was a perfectly reasonable question and other people got a bit daft and you responded with humour. Enjoy your baby, and pay no mind to people who would rip it to shreds or take your humour so literally. And fwiw it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks of his name, and sometimes questions from well meaning individuals are just normal people making normal conversation

I think it means they don't like it! But thats ok! Not everyone will like your child's name (there's loads of.kids names I don't like!!) and they don't have to! Sounds like they were being polite, so all good!

If they’re asking why you chose the name etc, and aren’t saying it’s a nice name, then yes, I’d be inclined to think that they didn’t like the name but were to polite to say so.

But I’d ignore them. And if it’s mainly older people reacting like that, then odds are most of your DC’s peers and their parents will think it’s fine.

Is it Horace?

Is it something like Douglas? I do hate that name.
My ds has an unusual name ( in Britain, not my home country) the first question is usually 'how do you spell that?' Follows by 'oh that's nice'

I'm guessing it's Alfred or Stanley - perfectly nice and normal names for toddlers and babies but do sound odd to older people. (I do have a soft spot for Gary though!)

My ds has a name people are confused but polite about and we get similar responses from everyone, not just older people! If everyone had the same tastes we would all be called the same thing. Life is confusing enough without that too

Yeah, I'd say they dislike the name but are being polite. Which is fine.

I met a baby Gladys a while ago. I was momentarily shocked that someone would give their daughter such an ugly name and then thought 'hope my face hasn't given that away!' followed by quickly gushing over little Glad and telling her how lovely she was.

YABU for starting a baby name thread and not giving the name. Isn't that in the rules somewhere?

I do usually manage a "aw how lovely" no matter what the name is, but one of my coworkers has a baby Wayne...

My dad (who has sadly passed on) had an unusual first name, followed by an unusual second name (what were they thinking?) he used neither, everyone knew him by a completely different, and more usual, name. My friend's dad did the same. I won't say what either set of names were as they would definitely out me, but I always think 'well at least they can change it' when parents tell me odd names for kids.

😂 at Clive-Gary Barry 🤪 while I’m here though can I have opinions on Victor? It’s growing on me but still can’t help but think of meldrew..

My dad had a Vauxhall Victor, that would be my first thought. But it worked for Austin Healey. And I knew a very cool (Ford) Zephyr.

Yeah it means they don't like it. My daughter's reception class sounds like a nursing home. So many names that don't suit the kids they're given to.

@Timeflyin Please don't.