My DP has just totally bitten my head off and I'm struggling to not feel really shit.
Over the last few years I have been the one earning the majority of our income. DP has said this makes him feel bad and that he wants his current business venture to work out and mean we are more 50/50 on earning, like we used to be.
I make sure I divvy up the funds so we both have spending money etc. He isn't extravagant or anything but obviously things are tighter on one income rather than two. I really, really try not to make a big deal of this as I know he feels bad about the situation.
Just for balance a few years ago I lost the job I had at the time. He transferred money to my account, paid for things, gave me his card etc and never asked how much I had spent or on what. He never pressured me to hurry up and find work either, he just left me to it. I wasn't buying designer handbags or anything but I appreciated how he made an effort to preserve my sense of independence. Even though I was essentially dependent on him, it never felt like that. I would say I was un/under employed for around 8 months.
Fast forward to now and I am earning well and he isn't. I know he feels bad about it and I'm trying my best but sometimes like just now it feels like I'm getting punished for being the main earner when I go out of my way to not make a big deal of that.
Sorry if this doesn't read very well, I'm just so upset.
Does anyone have any experience of this and if so, what made it better? He seems so resentful of the situation which is hard because I am doing my best.