Is it just me or is "good girl"

[NotMyCat]

The most annoying fucking thing to be told?

At work from (it's always men) male customers When you do something
"Good girl"

I'm mid thirties!!!

Sorry to go off topic but: MIDWIVES! Midwives are always calling women “good girl”. Where the hell did they learn that? Why do they think it’s ok? I stopped watching those fly-on-the-wall TV programmes about maternity wards etc because I couldn’t stand seeing midwives (including very young ones) talking to mothers as though they were dimwitted 3 year olds, and constantly calling them “good girl” in a ridiculous voice.

NotMyCat

Itsassimpleasthat
Just the thought of someone saying that to me makes a bit of sick travel up my throat 🤢

You should see my face when people eat
"Oh sorry I'm eating muesli"
Yes, I can hear that. Very clearly“

Have they asked you to call them?

I’ve only had it once, off an older (40s?) female customer, and I think my brain froze for a second in shock, then I felt hot with ridiculously overwhelming rage. Didn’t say anything, just stalked off.
I’ve since convinced myself she said it absent-mindedly/must have been around children a lot .

@MrsSkylerWhite

NotMyCat

Itsassimpleasthat
Just the thought of someone saying that to me makes a bit of sick travel up my throat 🤢

You should see my face when people eat
"Oh sorry I'm eating muesli"
Yes, I can hear that. Very clearly“

Have they asked you to call them?

No, they have rung me

Surely its reserved for dogs and small children.

I like it in bed

In any other context, no.

@Ginevere

I like it in bed

In any other context, no.

I wouldn't judge that! This is more Customer asks me to do something I do it Customer "good girl" Me

I actually didn't mind it from midwives. God knows why because I'd kill someone dead if they said it under any circumstances that didn't involve looking at my birthing vagina.

My boss, who is a genuinely good guy, has a tendency toward sexism. I have trained him well. He refers to me now as 007.

Wow, I don't think I've ever been called a good girl non-ironically since my early twenties. Now I want to know what field your work is that you have such dinosaurs customers 👀

In this instance, yes. Vulgar.

But I’m mine, where my nearly 2 year old has started patting my knee when I get her a biscuit or do something she likes saying “good girl, mummy, good girl” makes me feel pretty superhuman.

Wouldn’t tolerate it from anyone else though! 😂

(To start I look much younger than I am- not a brag it can be a bit annoying at times)
Anyways I was on a bus with my dc2 in their buggy when a wheelchair was trying to get on. I instantly folded my pram, got my toddler to a seat and helped the wheelchair on. As I went to take my seat beside my toddler, a very elderly lady told me I was a "good girl" and gave me a warm smile. Yes it was patronising but there was so much kindness behind her words I smiled and carried on with my day.

If a man in a work situation called me a "good girl" I would be disgusting. It is patronising, inappropriate and down right disrespectful.

I get it occasionally also. Makes me cringe. I find it patronising.

@iklboo

I don't mind it, it's when they ask me to sit on their knee that I get annoyed.

I really hope you're joking!

Actually , one time I did sit on his knee.... that was the start of a fun few months.

My response would be

• I'm not a bloody dog!

Only had this once recently. My (much younger) manager said "good girl, well done!"
I gave him a death stare, he looked embarrassed and walked off.
Think he got the message!

@girlmom21

I don't think it's even just patronising, I find it quite creepy.

I agree, it's really weird. No one has said that to me since I was a child.

Can I be nosy and ask what jobs people do where people think it's OK to say this to grown women?

Yanbu!

@Thatsplentyjack motor trade

That doesn't surprise me actually.

God, this would piss me off no end.

I work with men, and frequently say "good lad" and "young man" (works better with the older ones). It makes them laugh.... I dont think they realise how women feel about terms like this.

I only use 'Good girl' to my friends of a similar age to me in a very obviously ironic way for humorous purposes. Or to the cat

"Sir thank you for the compliment however I am not a little girl I am 35."

If the person saying it is over 80 and thanking me for some personal kindness, I will tolerate it - just.

Otherwise I find that the best thing to say in reply is "I beg your pardon?". You can say it as politely or as indignantly as you wish, it usually has the desired effect and makes them squirm. Alternatively, if you are face-to-face, you can try the prolonged blink or the 'over the imaginary glasses' stare at them. Bonus points if you can do the Roger Moore eyebrow raise.

Am I the only person who sees kinky sexual overtones in this. if from DH, ew if from a stranger.