Is it just me or is "good girl"

[NotMyCat]

The most annoying fucking thing to be told?

At work from (it's always men) male customers When you do something
"Good girl"

I'm mid thirties!!!

I got called a 'naughty girl' shopping at a local market from a man the same age as my dad last weekend... No hello, no friendly chat, nothing, just a random statement from a shopkeeper to me buying a birthday card. Just vile and really, really weird!!

It's something I say to my dog all the time, it's not something that should ever be said to a woman.

I frequently pull my exh up about referring to the women in his office as 'the girls', as in 'I'll get one of the girls to do it'.

Bloody drives me up the wall, it's horribly patronising and dismissive.

I don't mind it, it's when they ask me to sit on their knee that I get annoyed.

I really hope you're joking!

Id just say 'thanks very much but Im a grown woman'

I only say this to my dog.

She really is a good girl, though.

Fuck that shit YANBU @NotMyCat. The only man to get to call me a good girl is my dad. He also still goes to take my hand when we're crossing the road, I'm nearly 50.😆

This thankfully hasn't happened to me for a few years but I always pretend to be hard of hearing or that there was a noise just when they said it, and try and make them repeat it. No one ever wants to repeat it, but you can't be "blamed" for being an awkward sod because you're "just" asking what they said.

Sorry? No, I didn't hear you, what did you say? No, really, I'm sure you said something, what did you say? Oh come on, I'm sure it isn't something bad, what did you say?

All with a broad smile and usually loud enough for anyone nearby to hear. The one time someone did repeat it I went "Oh!!!!!" As if really startled, and then they got flustered.

I used to work in a car factory and used this hard of hearing approach a lot. It helps not being English by origin because I could also ask them in my broadest forrin accent to explain sexist jokes to me slooooowly. And over and over. "I don't understand, please tell me, I do want to share the joke, please explain to me one more time, how do you know she is on her period and that means...what again?" etc.

Last time someone did that to me I gestured towards the nearest bloke & asked if he’d call him ‘good boy’. He got the point.

Xiaoxiong

That is genius!!! Totally going to use that. Thank you!

My DH has done this a couple of times. After the 1st time I said 'Oh FFS don't say that!' After the 2nd time I had a real go at him. He hasn't said it since.

The second time was when we had our breakfast brought to us in Morrisons (a couple of years ago now.) He asked the woman bringing it to us (she was about 25,) if we could have some ketchup. She brought some, and he said 'oooh there's a good little girl.' She just looked like

I went like I said 'did you just call a grown woman in her 20s good little girl? She's not 3, and she's not a bastard puppy!'

He was like but never said it again.

Had older male customers say 'good girl' a few times. They then smile and i have a wonderful 'go fuck yourself' face just for those customers

@Noorandapples

I hate that from anyone under the age of 70, find it so patronising. Old blokes just remind me of my Grandad and get a smile though!

I'm 74 and would never say it. It is patronising and sexist. A simple “thank you” is fine but not a sexist or ageist expression.

@AlbusSeverusMalfoy

Had older male customers say 'good girl' a few times. They then smile and i have a wonderful 'go fuck yourself' face just for those customers

Sadly it's not face to face. Although my boss says I have a face that tells my thoughts very clearly so maybe that's best I did mention that a customer called me good girl and he asked me if they were still breathing

Just the thought of someone saying that to me makes a bit of sick travel up my throat 🤢

@Itsassimpleasthat

Just the thought of someone saying that to me makes a bit of sick travel up my throat 🤢

You should see my face when people eat "Oh sorry I'm eating muesli" Yes, I can hear that. Very clearly

Bark at them. I mean “good girl “ is something you’d say to a dog, not a human.

@Tiramiwho

You really can't say anything to blokes like this without them making it all about you. "Oh, sorry I didn't mean to offend you Luv, I was just being friendly!" 😠

Yes, this is why the only answer you can give is a clear and slow 'fuck off' accompanied by a death stare. I accept this is not suitable for some work environments.

I really really hate ‘awww bless you’ (said in twee condescending tone- not for a sneeze)

@Kenworthington

I really really hate ‘awww bless you’ (said in twee condescending tone- not for a sneeze)

'Awww blesssss.....' annoys me too.

There's a couple of women I know who say this loads. One receptionist at the doctor who is abut 20 years younger than me is one such person. I say 'I have just spent 10 minutes trying to find a parking space' and she says 'awww, bless...' I say 'I forgot my brolly and it rains of course...' I get 'awww bless...' I say I waited 10 minutes outside the pharmacy, waiting for it to open, and it turns out the pharmacist is stuck in traffic and won't be here for half an hour, so I couldn't get my meds.' Yep you guessed it, she says 'aawwwww, BLESSSSSSS!'

I even get it from a neighbour who lives 5 doors up.... I said a week or so back, 'I have popped a couple of bird feeders at the back, so the birds don't go hungry in winter.' She tilted her head and said 'AWWW.. BLESS!'

WTAF? It boils my piss, because it's so patronising.

As you say kenworthington it's always said in a condescending, twee, and mawkish manner too.

@Kenworthington

I really really hate ‘awww bless you’ (said in twee condescending tone- not for a sneeze)

God yes, this really, really makes me want say something sweary back.

I'm in my early 70s and I seem to get this an awful lot, on the phone and in person.

I get that I'm old(ish) but I'm lively, jokey and don't look my age, not that anyone can tell that on the phone obviously but I don't have a feeble old woman voice, but almost every time I make any sort of jokey remark I get the condescending 'awww bless you' response.

Stop it. It's annoying, patronising and makes the people who do it sound stupid.

Yeah I'd say 'thanks little boy' or 'thanks sir' with a little sarcastic salute! But I've never been in that situation (mainly female dominated work environment) so I'd probably just sit there seething 😭

Good god - not just you. The person who said this must have had a labotomy to think it's in any way appropriate or acceptable

@BewareTheBeardedDragon

Good god - not just you. The person who said this must have had a labotomy to think it's in any way appropriate or acceptable

It's fairly common! I probably hear it about once a week or so

If I heard that I’d be looking for the dog.