Holiday sleeping arrangements!

[november90]

Staying at center parcs in a 4 bed house. The rooms are as follows -

1. Parents
2. Sister and husband
3. Me (single parent)
4. Spare

Me and my sister have a 4 year olds and 1 year olds. To me it makes sense for the 1 year olds to stay with parent in their room and the 4 year olds share a room. It's not ideal but fair.
My sister thinks because there's 2 adults in her room her children should have the spare room and my 4 and 1 year old sleep in my room.
Now I absolutely adore my children, but my 1 year old is a terrible sleeper. This is going to be a disaster for me and my 4 year old!
It's actually my birthday too 🙈
To add to this, my sister split the bill 3 ways between the 2 adult couples and me. This upset me abit as I am one person with one income (pt with UC), but hey I paid it (over £700!) but now I'm thinking what the heck! I would've been better off getting my own lodge!!!

Amibu?
I hate falling out so I'm not going to make a big upset about this, but I am bothered!

Just say no. That isn't fair and I don't want both my kids in with me. Stick to your guns.

She hasn't even asked! I said that it would make sense for the older children to share and she said that she will let my eldest share with hers if it doesn't work out with her two in the same room 😳😳😳😰😰

Just say no, that's not fair.

Why should they get a child free bedroom and you not?

YANBU

The bill was unfair if it was good or a taxi but actually, if it’s split by the room and you all pay for the room you use it’s right?

You’re right about splitting the children though.

Why can't all the kids go in one room?

This is why I refuse to ever share accomodations with anyone aside from my husband and children. Someone always gets screwed and this time it's you. Your sister has quite the cheek on her, doesn't she?

Put your foot down. She’s taking the piss!

You have to say no, it's not fair, they get two runs, you get one and you paid twice the adult rate?? She's taking the piss

Rooms not v runs

@zurala

You have to say no, it's not fair, they get two runs, you get one and you paid twice the adult rate?? She's taking the piss

This!

Put all the children in the spare room together. The one year olds.will be in cots.

If someone doesn't sleep well then they go.in with parents

Have you written a thread about this before? If not, major deja vu!

I would just say that doesn’t work for you, 4 year olds share a room and 1 year old in with parent/s!

I also agree that splitting the rooms /3 was fair

Your sister wants a shagging holiday and dc can't possibly be in her room!!

I'm not sure that the cost division is unfair because your parents are paying the same as you and don't have any small children. So don't benefit from the extra room.

Nope, totally unfair! Point out that you've paid an equal share so you'll have an equal share of the spare room!
Or you could gown the 'that doesn't work for me' route and suggest the 2 one year olds share.
She's a CF op!

Price should have been split by 5...

Well, if everyone is paying for their room and the split went three ways, PP's DS has not paid for that fourth room, has she? She's just baggsied it!

I would suggest again that the older children share that room, or if she wants sole use for it for her DC, the payment should be recalculated with DS paying half the total and OP and her parents paying a quarter.

In effect, DS would pay the other roomholders back to the tune of an eighth of the total each. Or she can agree to share that room.

I wouldn't holiday with her again, OP; she's grabby.

You either pay:

A) per adult
B) per person
C) per room

I’m going to randomly use the total cost of £2200 just to show that:

A) she’d pay £880 for her + husband - you’d pay £440
B) she’d pay £977 for her family of four - you’d pay £733 for the three of you
C) she’d pay £1100 for using two out of the four rooms

At the moment she’s only paid approx £700 due to splitting it 3 ways. So she’s having the cheapest holiday, and demanding the highest amount of space? Not cool. Your parents and yourself are spending more money either way you look at it.

Is there one room that’s significantly bigger than the others? Maybe they can take that one so the kids fit.

Otherwise I’d try and get the 4 year olds to sleep together in the spare room but how realistic is that? It could go smoothly or you could be up all night.

In any case, the 3 way split is unfair. She’s the only one benefitting from it. The closest to what’s been done so far is option B, in which case they’ve underpaid and your parents have overpaid. You’re the only one who’s stuck to the 1/3 of the cost in that instance.

Either the 4 year olds share the room or the bill is split 4 ways for 4 rooms so they pay for 2 rooms and you pay for 1.

YANBU

“Hi Sis, this doesn’t work for me sorry. My 4 YO will be going in the spare room. That was the reason I agreed to pay 1/3 of the cost of the accommodation. Trust that’s not an issue.”

She can’t argue that. If she does say she needs to pay 1/2 and refund you the rest.

You’re right. The 4 yr olds in together and the 1yr olds in with parents.

She needs to pay more if she’s using two rooms

@Blueeilidh

Either the 4 year olds share the room or the bill is split 4 ways for 4 rooms so they pay for 2 rooms and you pay for 1.

this seems the fairest.

the dc will have a great time in a rompus room as well!

The 4 bed lodges at CP are 2 doubles and 2 twins.

The logic would be:
Double - parents
Double - sister & BIL plus cot for 1 year old
Twin - you plus cot for 1 year old
Twin - 2 x 4 year olds

Then paying a third is fair.

If both of your children are to be in with you, then cost should be split 4 ways (per room)