Holiday sleeping arrangements!

[november90]

Staying at center parcs in a 4 bed house. The rooms are as follows -

1. Parents
2. Sister and husband
3. Me (single parent)
4. Spare

Me and my sister have a 4 year olds and 1 year olds. To me it makes sense for the 1 year olds to stay with parent in their room and the 4 year olds share a room. It's not ideal but fair.
My sister thinks because there's 2 adults in her room her children should have the spare room and my 4 and 1 year old sleep in my room.
Now I absolutely adore my children, but my 1 year old is a terrible sleeper. This is going to be a disaster for me and my 4 year old!
It's actually my birthday too 🙈
To add to this, my sister split the bill 3 ways between the 2 adult couples and me. This upset me abit as I am one person with one income (pt with UC), but hey I paid it (over £700!) but now I'm thinking what the heck! I would've been better off getting my own lodge!!!

Amibu?
I hate falling out so I'm not going to make a big upset about this, but I am bothered!

Considering how much time we spend teaching toddlers that "I want" doesn't get, it's amazing how many adults don't seem to understand the principle.

A 1yo would likely end up back in their room soon enough anyway, even if they don't begin there.

@november90

So my sister thinks because her and her husband are in the room her husband will wake the 1 year old up snoring etc so she should get the extra room for the kids..... But what about my 4 year old! I don't mind sharing with my 1 year old as he still share my room at home so that works but I'm worried about my eldest! Me and my sister are so opposite. She's so argumentative and sensitive whereas I absolutely hate falling out and I don't want to upset my mum by a fall out because if we disagree it will turn into that! Urgh!!!

Regarding the money, I felt to split it per adult was fairer but again She didn't see my point of view. We're family and I personally wouldn't feel comfortable seeing my sister paying what me and my partner we're paying on her own! But that's just my opinion....

So why can't all kids go in together?

Or at least her kids and your 4yo?

Kids all share. Add ready tree day beds if needed

Say "You are asking ne not only to pay a third of the bill but get only a quarter of the accommodation, but also to spend my birthday having no sleep for days because of being all crowded in one room while you get all the privacy and peace of spreading your family across two rooms"

Since you paid for one third you should get half the 4th room. Your sister is a cheeky mare trying it on

I agree massively about the unfair splitting of the bill. In the past I have found myself as a single person subsidising couples and having to push that the bill be split according to the number of people. I was ripped off so much over rounds in pubs that I used to refuse to participate and buy my own drinks.

Regarding the rooms the fairst would be the 4 yr olds in together and the 1yr olds in with parents. Its your holiday too!

@Shamoo

YANBU

“Hi Sis, this doesn’t work for me sorry. My 4 YO will be going in the spare room. That was the reason I agreed to pay 1/3 of the cost of the accommodation. Trust that’s not an issue.”

She can’t argue that. If she does say she needs to pay 1/2 and refund you the rest.

I’d go with this but take off the last bit about “trust that’s not an issue”. She doesn’t get to dictate how the rooms are split, she’s effectively asking you to subsidize her family having 2 rooms and not giving a fig about your family’s needs. Don’t ask her, just tell her.

Not a hope! She is taking the piss!

Tell her she can’t have it both ways. You’ve all paid the same. If she wants two bedrooms exclusively then she needs to pay more