Holiday sleeping arrangements!

[november90]

Staying at center parcs in a 4 bed house. The rooms are as follows -

1. Parents
2. Sister and husband
3. Me (single parent)
4. Spare

Me and my sister have a 4 year olds and 1 year olds. To me it makes sense for the 1 year olds to stay with parent in their room and the 4 year olds share a room. It's not ideal but fair.
My sister thinks because there's 2 adults in her room her children should have the spare room and my 4 and 1 year old sleep in my room.
Now I absolutely adore my children, but my 1 year old is a terrible sleeper. This is going to be a disaster for me and my 4 year old!
It's actually my birthday too 🙈
To add to this, my sister split the bill 3 ways between the 2 adult couples and me. This upset me abit as I am one person with one income (pt with UC), but hey I paid it (over £700!) but now I'm thinking what the heck! I would've been better off getting my own lodge!!!

Amibu?
I hate falling out so I'm not going to make a big upset about this, but I am bothered!

If she is looking for 2 rooms then the splitting of the bill should reflect this!

Also if she insists her kids have the 4th bedroom, she needs to pay half the house cost.

She is being really cheeky there - why should she have a child free room and both your kids are in with you , not fair at all

Your sister sounds like mine OP, I sympathise. Your idea sounds much more logical and fair. Bet they get the en-suite room too hey!

Can you still pull out of the holiday and get your money back? Because it won't be the end of her entitlement

I never understand why different families share the one house/space. Nightmare, and rarely works out. I know it does for some, but we only hear about the nightmares. I could never do it.

OP how is day to day spending sorted? Does everyone pay their own way and contribute equally to food, facilities etc? Another nightmare if it is shared.

I'd rather stay at home TBH than do the happy families all together like the Waltons. But each to their own, just me.

If she wants that arrangement she'd have to pay more for the use of that room.

We share pretty much everytime we go to CP and we always split cost by room. Mainly because of the way works out room occupancy.

So in your case I'd say, if paying a third the 4yo share. If not, your sister needs to pay half the accommodation costs as she's getting half the space.

Also be aware that some of the twin rooms are very small so you might no be able to fit a cot in one.

I hate falling out so I'm not going to make a big upset about this

What are you going to do?

So my sister thinks because her and her husband are in the room her husband will wake the 1 year old up snoring etc so she should get the extra room for the kids.....
But what about my 4 year old! I don't mind sharing with my 1 year old as he still share my room at home so that works but I'm worried about my eldest!
Me and my sister are so opposite. She's so argumentative and sensitive whereas I absolutely hate falling out and I don't want to upset my mum by a fall out because if we disagree it will turn into that!
Urgh!!!

Regarding the money, I felt to split it per adult was fairer but again She didn't see my point of view. We're family and I personally wouldn't feel comfortable seeing my sister paying what me and my partner we're paying on her own! But that's just my opinion....

Your sister is being massively unreasonable.

OP, I hope you find the courage to put your sister in her place. You are splitting the bill 3 equal ways so why does she get to dictate what happens with the rooms?

If you have the courage, tell your sister it simple isn't feasible for you to share a room with your 4 year old, if need be, make something up (although you shouldn't have to) if she refuses, she needs to split the bill 4 ways and she pays half of it!

I really hope your sister doesn't get her own way OP 💐

You need to be really clear with her.

You agreed to pay a third because your daughter was sleeping in the other room.

If that is not happening, and she is getting two rooms then she needs to pay you for the room

You need to call her out on this crap. There's no need to upset your mum, you can just have the conversation between yourselves.

'She thinks', 'she wants' - you need to stop facilitating her wishes because it only benefits her. Why on earth aren't you all splitting per room or per adult?

@Monsterpumpkins

Your sister wants a shagging holiday and dc can't possibly be in her room!!

^^this. But you are entitled to your space too OP!

…but just a thought, can the beds be physically rearranged or relocated into the ‘spare’ room?

Tell her it’s fine for her to have the spare room but then it gets split per room so she pays 2/4 you pay 1/4 and your parents 1/4

You are paying the same as your sister so you each get 1.5 rooms.

Due to her husband snoring I would be willing to put her 1 year old in cot in same room as the two 4 year olds to keep the peace.

Your sister is being crap. Totally unreasonable and selfish. I don't know how she can look you or your parents in the eyes!

Just tell her it’s not going to happen. You have paid a third, therefore a third of that room is yours and the kids are going in it

I think you’re unreasonable to expect to split it just between adults as everyone over 2 pays the same at center parcs. Fair would be you and your parents 2/7 each and sister 3/7. Or pay per room. At least one if not both twins are tiny at center parcs, she won’t get a cot in with her 4 year old anyway. If that was possible you could have both 4 year olds plus a cot for her 1 year old in the room and then everyone would be happy. I think you’ll be limited by the sizes of the rooms as to who goes where though.
Over 2k is bonkers for a center parcs break. Have you already booked? You’d probably get a one bed studio for just you for considerably less than £700

I have a similar problem when we go on holiday with family friends, it’s a big group and we are the only ones with kids. the 4 of us end up in the family room and I have to put up with OH’s snoring like a tractor. one couple (they are married) insist on having get separate rooms as they both snore so don’t sleep together but they feel the cost should be per person so if it’s £50 a person, they pay £100 and get 2 rooms and we pay £200 and get 1 room! OH loves going away with them (the husband is his drinking buddy (making the snoring worse 🙄) I have suggested the 2 men share and I have the kids but funny they didn’t want to go for that…..

She’s not respecting your need for privacy as single person 😕

Please find the courage to stand up for yourself. She's being incredibly selfish. Of course she sees your point of view, she just wants to pay less and have more space. Tell her, "Honestly if you think you need the most space then I think it's only fair you pay more. I don't think it's fair that you pay for four people and two rooms the same as I'm paying for three people in one room." She's not being fair. Stand up for yourself and your children.

if it’s £50 a person, they pay £100 and get 2 rooms and we pay £200 and get 1 room!

This is outrageous. I'd be putting a stop to this and insisting you pay per room or you're not going away with them again.

*I meant dsis is this entitled not that I agreed mind!!
We go as a family. All my dc... Younger ones share and older ones(2) take turns having the second best room... All spends and food bills are equally /fairly contributed to.