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DP said I was silly for this

57 replies

situas · 19/10/2021 17:27

So today we were in a car park and a man that worked there came along to help us and have a general chat. As he was leaving he said enjoy the rest of your afternoon.. to which I responded you too! DP then scoffed "he's at work" I said you do know not everyone hates being at work? Some people's jobs give them a purpose. He said "I suppose" so anyway I now feel like a total idiot and am slightly cringing thinking about it Blush

WIBU to tell the man to enjoy his afternoon even though he was at work?

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TimeForTeaAndG · 19/10/2021 17:29

It's a polite response. I say it to call centre people, supermarket check out staff...

Your DH is being daft.

Strangevipers · 19/10/2021 17:30

Nope do it all the time !

JayAlfredPrufrock · 19/10/2021 17:30

Perfectly acceptable

0blio · 19/10/2021 17:30

I would have said exactly the same, it's just polite conversation. Your DP was being a dick criticising you for saying it.

Hankunamatata · 19/10/2021 17:30

Totally normal response. Dp is odd

Watchingyou2sleezes · 19/10/2021 17:32

I always say that too. You other half is dim

Watchingyou2sleezes · 19/10/2021 17:33

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SpookyPumpkinPants · 19/10/2021 17:34

It's fine. I have stopped saying it though because I do think sometimes people at work think 'yeah great, I'm at work!' So I try to just say 'thank you' instead.

I think he's mean making you feel silly, but I don't disagree that it's not the best thing to say to someone working

TheLightSideOfTheMoon · 19/10/2021 17:37

I have a nice time when I’m at work. It is possible.

You sound lovely and polite and positive.

galacticpixels · 19/10/2021 17:39

It's just a polite response and really not that deep. You can also have good and bad days at work so it's not unreasonable to wish someone a good one...

ANameChangeAgain · 19/10/2021 17:40

Does he often try to make you feel foolish when saying very normal, acceptable things?

Excited101 · 19/10/2021 17:41

He can still have a nice day when at work! I always reply ‘you too’ as well

WakeMeUpin22 · 19/10/2021 17:41

Customers always tell me to have a good evening when they know I'm working over night. Its just etiquette. Perhaps your husband needs to work on that Grin

emmylousings · 19/10/2021 17:42

I think your DP is BU for thinking that everyone hates being at work. I don't and neither do most of the people I know.

Waspsarearseholes · 19/10/2021 17:42

Your husband sounds like a miserable sod. It's a perfectly nice thing to say to somebody. It's not telling them to enjoy themselves at work, for all you know he finished half an hour after he saw you and had the rest of the day to enjoy! Take no notice of your husband. I thought you were going to say something like you'd automatically said, "I love you" to a random person!

Ohsugarhoneyicetea · 19/10/2021 17:44

Plenty of people get enjoyment from their days work. What a negative thing to say, does he criticise you over nothing often?

steff13 · 19/10/2021 17:44

Does this mean he's never told you to have a good day when you're off to work? That was standard between my husband and me in our house, "bye, love you, have a good day."

Reallyimeanreally2022 · 19/10/2021 17:45

Op too white seriously need to work on your self esteem. Seriously

Looubylou · 19/10/2021 17:45

Does DP make a habit of making you feel silly/doubt yourself, even when it's totally inappropriate? Because he's tried really hard here. He is the idiot. Is he jealous of your social skills? Don't change.

Reallyimeanreally2022 · 19/10/2021 17:45

You quite seriously

knittingaddict · 19/10/2021 17:46

What you did is totally normal and part of politely interacting with others. I say it to the Ocado delivery man and anyone else who says it to me first.

You are right, partner is wrong to pull you up on it.

spotcheck · 19/10/2021 17:47

I think it's lovely when people say ' have a good day/ afternoon/etc).

Agree, your husband is being miserable

And yes, people do have a good day at work!

NewlyGranny · 19/10/2021 17:49

My DH used to have a thing for telling me I had been rude to people I spoke to, whether I was on the phone or face to face. It upset me at first because I thought I was being perfectly polite but he could never pinpoint any words I'd used, it was just "tone" according to him.

So I called his bluff and double back to the library desk one Saturday morning, with him in tow as we were leaving, and said, "My husband tells me I was really rude earlier when I was asking you to get that book in for me and I'm very sorry for the way I spoke." She looked blankly at me and at him and said, "I have no idea what you mean - you were perfectly polite and no apology is called for. "

Of course, his take was she was just being extra nice and ignoring my rudeness, but ... he never did it again!

I suggest you say to DH, this and every time, "What you see as silliness is just my everyday good manners and pleasantness. We will have to agree to differ on this as I have no plans for becoming surly or short with people I meet." The moral high ground is yours here.

noirchatsdeux · 19/10/2021 17:53

It's my default reply when someone says it...I've never thought 'oh, they are at work, they won't have a good day/afternoon/evening/whatever'. It's polite, that's all. Your husband sounds like a rude arse.

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situas · 19/10/2021 17:54

Thanks everyone. I enjoy my days at work too so I thought nothing of it. I think because he doesn't enjoy his work he thinks it's silly.

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