DP said I was silly for this

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So today we were in a car park and a man that worked there came along to help us and have a general chat. As he was leaving he said enjoy the rest of your afternoon.. to which I responded you too! DP then scoffed "he's at work" I said you do know not everyone hates being at work? Some people's jobs give them a purpose. He said "I suppose" so anyway I now feel like a total idiot and am slightly cringing thinking about it

WIBU to tell the man to enjoy his afternoon even though he was at work?

@NewlyGranny

My DH used to have a thing for telling me I had been rude to people I spoke to, whether I was on the phone or face to face. It upset me at first because I thought I was being perfectly polite but he could never pinpoint any words I'd used, it was just "tone" according to him.

So I called his bluff and double back to the library desk one Saturday morning, with him in tow as we were leaving, and said, "My husband tells me I was really rude earlier when I was asking you to get that book in for me and I'm very sorry for the way I spoke." She looked blankly at me and at him and said, "I have no idea what you mean - you were perfectly polite and no apology is called for. "

Of course, his take was she was just being extra nice and ignoring my rudeness, but ... he never did it again!

I suggest you say to DH, this and every time, "What you see as silliness is just my everyday good manners and pleasantness. We will have to agree to differ on this as I have no plans for becoming surly or short with people I meet." The moral high ground is yours here.

Love this!

Does your partner not understand what pleasantries are?

People can have a good time at work.

I always say it. I wish shop assistants a good day/afternoon/evening because even though they are in work I hope that no-one is shitty to them and their time in work is good.

I say "You too!" when people wish me happy birthday.

What you said was totally normal and pleasant. Does he often put you down or make you feel foolish?

It reminds me of teenagers being embarrassed by their mums being friendly to strangers.