Postman smashing on door and shouting

[OttilieStonelady]

I live in a house with other people. Someone else had something sent to them by a family member so neither of us knew it was arriving. He's not in. Postman came to door to drop off. Saw me upstairs and I swear was banging on my door for 5 minutes so hard it sounded like he was going to break in. Rang the door over and over and over banging in-between. He disappeared, I guess delivered neighbours post then came back and banged on my door again, then next again, then back to me again. He even shouted 'i can see you'. I can't leave when I'm in the middle of presenting to people, especially not senior management, presenting extremely sensitive data. It's not a big house so he would've known I'd have heard him. WIBU not to open the door? Was he BU to keep banging aggressively on my door? All round a weird experience.

OttilieStonelady I’ve always had lovely posties! But sounds a bit of a horrible experience?

@Viviennemary

I also think its perfectly reasonable to expect a knock to be answered if the person is at home. If it isn't then somebody else will be invonvenienced. Perhaps an elderly neighbour who would struggle to get to the door. Such a selfish attitude when OP was perfectly caable of answering the door to take in post for HER house.

What is the culture at your workplace?

Would your managers, clients, colleagues find it acceptable for someone to stop a presentation midway and leave a meeting to answer the door?

I live in a close. Our regular posties know I won't buzz them in for neighbours. They accept that. Other posties and delivery drivers expect to ring my buzzer and for me to bimuzz them in. Ain't happening, not because I am bnot a goid neighbour but because of the number of attempted break ins. These thwarted delivery people have been know to kick and shoulder the door to break in, and one used a screwdriver. When I chalked the police, it became my fault for not buzzing him in. The police officers huckled him... He came back 3 weeks later to shout abuse at me for the fact he list his job. Tw*t.

@FOJN

The postman isn't to know you are working from home and presumably doesn't want a complaint for failing to deliver a parcel if the householder then says they were in all the time.

I work from home and have a laminated notice for the front door instructing delivery drivers or postie's what to do with parcels and not to disturb me.

He may have been unreasonably persistent but I think we all have to find ways of navigating the new way of working.

I also work from home. My job is field based and my home is my office. I spend most of my day conducting interviews.

The postman rings the bell. If I don’t answer he puts a card through the door and I can either arrange a re-delivery or go to the local depot and collect it myself, which I usually do if I’m not available to answer the door. I don’t need to leave him any notices. He has a standard process he follows if he can’t make the delivery.

My postie does not keep repeatedly banging on the door and calling through my letterbox.

@ Viviennemary

What Planet are you on. OP was in a work call and should not answer the door for a parcel and even more if on a sensitive meeting.
Yes posties and delivery people have a job to do and I’m grateful for them, but I’ve never ever had this experience and that’s not the behaviour that the post office expects.
My company are really level headed and chilled but they do get annoyed when people stop meetings to go and answer the door as it’s just makes things harder to pick up and can come across rude if someone else is presenting. Seriously wonder at responses like yours… clearly trolling as you have nothing better to say.

The postman was at work trying to do his job and was thwarted by OP. The house was a private dwelling and not business premises. If folk want to be obstructive twats that's up to them.

@outofservice

Weird not to answer the door to somebody who is busy trying to do their job. Am sure a quick excuse me to your very important colleagues would have been less distracting than listening to someone aggressively banging on your door for 5 whole minutes.

No way to that behaviour. No way would I open my door to a postman behaving like that

@Viviennemary

The postman was at work trying to do his job and was thwarted by OP. The house was a private dwelling and not business premises. If folk want to be obstructive twats that's up to them.

The OP was at work trying to do her job as well! Why does the Postman’s job trump the OP’s job?

It wasn’t even her parcel.

And the OP was AT WORK in her private dwelling. That really shouldn't be so difficult to understand. And wow that she gets called an obstructive twat for not interrupting her presentation.

In what paknet do people respond to rude behaviour?? You don't have to open your door to My dam reason you want.
I had a delivery once when I was in the middle of a zoom interview. I ignored the door bell as was in the middle of concentrating. The person then started banging on my window.
Like what the f, go away! I didn't open the door for a reason.
I complained to the company.

On what plane that should say

Planet

I would have been scared to open the door if I had a postie behaving like that. It's agressive imo. In fact one of my rules of life is that how people knock on the door is very telling to their entire personality - knock, pause, knock, leave is good. Knocking any more than three times is acceptable, but knocking more than three times AND shouting through the door or window ; your dealing with a wanker.

Shout down to leave it on the doorstep. Surely thats not too difficult?!

@Borisisafecklesstoad

Shout down to leave it on the doorstep. Surely thats not too difficult?!

What if you can't shout out as busy?

@Borisisafecklesstoad

Shout down to leave it on the doorstep. Surely thats not too difficult?!

How about read the whole thread and see the many many reasons why this isn't always possible. Surely that's not too difficult?!

@Viviennemary

The postman was at work trying to do his job and was thwarted by OP. The house was a private dwelling and not business premises. If folk want to be obstructive twats that's up to them.

You're really finding it hard to understand aren't you.

Weird not to answer the door to somebody who is busy trying to do their job. Am sure a quick excuse me to your very important colleagues would have been less distracting than listening to someone aggressively banging on your door for 5 whole minutes.

I agree.

This is so odd, of course you can’t interrupt a presentation to answer the door

Of course you can. “Excuse me one minute, I’ll be right back” I’ve done it plenty of times and nobody fired me for it,. Far less distracting than someone “smashing on the door” with is a far less professional look.

It's not weird that he didn't want to take the parcel back to the sorting office! I expect they have targets to meet otherwise everyone would bring all the parcels back and nothing would get delivered.

He didn’t know you were giving a presentation, he thought you were being an arsehole.

Misunderstanding and differing priorities.

Bloody hell the amount of people that have apparently never had a 'i tried to deliver your parcel' card left by the postie and don't understand how simple and routine that is 🤦. Apparently.

Difficult one, he is unreasonable for knocking for so long but then he probably didn’t realise you where doing a presentation. When we are home but on work calls we leave a sign saying can’t come to the door please leave parcel in xyz. You could also get a parcel box if you are worried about things being left on the doorstep.

@Viviennemary

The postman was at work trying to do his job and was thwarted by OP. The house was a private dwelling and not business premises. If folk want to be obstructive twats that's up to them.

Whether I'm in the office or in my home, I am working. WORKING

Most of the time, I can excuse myself to answer the door. Some of the time, I can't due to the nature of the call.

I am certainly not going to interrupt those calls to answer the door when that door knocker already has an established procedure for when people don't answer the door. His job doesn't trump mine.

@LadyTiredWinterBottom2

It's not weird that he didn't want to take the parcel back to the sorting office! I expect they have targets to meet otherwise everyone would bring all the parcels back and nothing would get delivered.

He didn’t know you were giving a presentation, he thought you were being an arsehole.

Misunderstanding and differing priorities.

I think banging in the door is being an ass hole. You knock

@rosesandbees

Difficult one, he is unreasonable for knocking for so long but then he probably didn’t realise you where doing a presentation. When we are home but on work calls we leave a sign saying can’t come to the door please leave parcel in xyz. You could also get a parcel box if you are worried about things being left on the doorstep.

But it doesn't matter if they were working or not. You don't have to answer your door to someone being an aggressive twat. End of. You don't have to respond to that behaviour. Ever.

If you were presenting, and were (I presume) not muted, did the others in the meeting not hear the extremely loud commotion going on, and suggest to you that you go to see to it?