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Postman smashing on door and shouting

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OttilieStonelady · 19/10/2021 11:12

I live in a house with other people. Someone else had something sent to them by a family member so neither of us knew it was arriving. He's not in. Postman came to door to drop off. Saw me upstairs and I swear was banging on my door for 5 minutes so hard it sounded like he was going to break in. Rang the door over and over and over banging in-between. He disappeared, I guess delivered neighbours post then came back and banged on my door again, then next again, then back to me again. He even shouted 'i can see you'. I can't leave when I'm in the middle of presenting to people, especially not senior management, presenting extremely sensitive data. It's not a big house so he would've known I'd have heard him. WIBU not to open the door? Was he BU to keep banging aggressively on my door? All round a weird experience.

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AllThingsServeTheBeam · 19/10/2021 16:42

@butterpuffed

butterpuffed

As you were at the window why didn't you open it and call out 'On a Zoom meeting, please put a card through the door' Would've taken a couple of seconds.

She
Was
Giving
A
Presentation

If she wasn't able to get up and go to the door, do you really think she was able to bellow out of a window?

Obviously I do or I wouldn't have posted. A couple of seconds wouldn't have interrupted the meeting

How would it have not interrupted her PRESENTATION (not meeting). How would you have hollered out of the window without interruption? Do you have Bernards watch?
bagpuss90 · 19/10/2021 16:55

It never ceases to amaze me on here 😂

steff13 · 19/10/2021 16:58

@AllThingsServeTheBeam

Honestly some of the idiocy on this thread. I work from home. Sometimes, in an informal meeting I can answer the door but other times there is no chance. I am AT WORK. Thankfully we haven't got a twat for a postman and the Amazon drivers just chuck stuff on the doormat anyway.
Exactly. We have a meeting weekly with my department, and it's very informal. I could get up probably without even saying anything.

But on Tuesdays, I am conducting hearings. I can't just get up in the middle of someone's hearing to answer the door, when I'm supposed to be listening to testimony. My employer would not be impressed with that, either.

As far as my job being more important; my job pays my mortgage and feeds my kids. When the mail carrier starts doing those things, I'll prioritize his job over mine.

NotMyCat · 19/10/2021 16:58

I'll just presume that the people saying shout out the window on here don't mind if I put them on hold to answer the door when they ring up then Grin
"Sorry, need to get the door"
Unless I unplug my laptop from the router, and carry it to the door, whilst on a call and press mute to open the door, I can't leave my desk

Ajl46 · 19/10/2021 17:08

@Viviennemary

Answer the door. What is wrong with people. So selfish and rude.
Errr.... they work?
theDudesmummy · 19/10/2021 17:36

Those who think the OP was "rude" or should have answered the door because it would only take a few moments are clearly not understanding that for most professional roles there are different types of work situations when you WFH, exactly like if you were physically at work.

In my case, for example, if I was sitting typing or reading in my office, or having an informal chat with a colleague about something, and a personal/home-related phone call or email came through I would be able to deal with it, even if just to say, I'm busy, can't talk now, will get back to you. If I was however conducting a clinical assessment or in a court hearing obviously I wouldn't. Exactly the same in WFH. If I am doing certain things I can get up and go to the door to get the parcel, or at least call out "sorry, I'm busy", if I am doing certain other things I absolutely cannot. Surely that is not hard to understand. Not all "meetings" are equal!

tigerinyourtank · 19/10/2021 17:41

My friend is a Counsellor and would be in breach of her ethical code if she abandoned a client mid-zoom counselling session to answer the door.

aquashiv · 19/10/2021 17:45

Gosh.
I hate my door being banged loudly I think it's the bizzies or my mil both of which I'd ignore.

QueenBee52 · 19/10/2021 17:51

@tigerinyourtank

My friend is a Counsellor and would be in breach of her ethical code if she abandoned a client mid-zoom counselling session to answer the door.

🤣😂

tigerinyourtank · 19/10/2021 18:08

I'm not sure why you think that's funny queen bee?

TravelLost · 19/10/2021 18:09

I’m not sure either tbh @tigerinyourtank

Dixiechickonhols · 19/10/2021 18:09

I honestly can’t believe that some people think OP was unreasonable not to leave her presentation. She’s in work.
When Courts first started doing telephone hearings years ago the staff in the Solicitors office I worked in were given training - I can remember thinking it was a waste of time surely it was obvious how to behave but maybe not - telling the judge to hang on you are nipping for a parcel at door is perfectly fine indeed rude to postman not to according to lots on here.

QueenBee52 · 19/10/2021 18:10

@tigerinyourtank

I'm not sure why you think that's funny queen bee?

because literally NOBODY.. would expect them to leave mid session 🙄

tigerinyourtank · 19/10/2021 18:12

What's with all the sarcastic emojis queenbee?

QueenBee52 · 19/10/2021 18:13

@tigerinyourtank

What's with all the sarcastic emojis queenbee?
🤣😂
RedHelenB · 19/10/2021 18:17

If you're in sight it's perfectly reasonable to expect a knock ro be answered. I feel like you are exaggerating somewhat but if it really put you off your presentation then you may as well have answered the door.

Clusterfckintolerant · 19/10/2021 18:17

Banging on a door and shouting isn't at all justifiable.

tigerinyourtank · 19/10/2021 18:18

Thanks for your mature and eloquent contribution queen bee.

QueenBee52 · 19/10/2021 18:18

@tigerinyourtank

Thanks for your mature and eloquent contribution queen bee.

☺️

OhPatti · 19/10/2021 18:20

As soon as I saw this thread I wondered how long it would be before someone suggested it shouldn't have been a problem to 'pop' and answer the door. How often do people suggest to men that they should break off from doing their job and 'pop' to answer the door (or 'pop' to do anything), I wonder? I suspect not as many.

Women are constantly being told it should be no problem to 'pop' here and there, even if they are busy at the time. Men, not so much. 🤷🏻‍♂️

AllThingsServeTheBeam · 19/10/2021 18:21

@QueenBee52 plenty on this thread seem to thinks it's ok

QueenBee52 · 19/10/2021 18:23

[quote AllThingsServeTheBeam]@QueenBee52 plenty on this thread seem to thinks it's ok[/quote]

well they've clearly never understood the role ...

ridiculous to think it's appropriate to leave the session... to answer the door

AllThingsServeTheBeam · 19/10/2021 18:26

@queenbee52 it's not just that role. It's any role. That's what people don't seem to get.

Ireolu · 19/10/2021 18:34

My postman does this. Can't stand the man. Also puts rubbish through my door. Be knows I am not a fan though. Grr

BudrosBudrosGalli · 19/10/2021 18:39

I would escalate the complaint to the head office. This is outrageous behaviour!