To put my DD in nursery when I am off for the holidays

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I have two weeks off for Christmas and my husband also gets some time off. My DD's nursery is open year-round except for public holidays. Would I be unreasonable to send her in for some of those days that I am off so that I can study or enjoy child-free time with my husband? We have not had a single day for just us since she was born.
I am also studying so I don't get a chance to really study because I am at uni Monday- Friday 8-5pm.
My sister is also planning on coming for a week to visit us, would it be ok to put her in nursery while I have some time off to take her around?
My DD likes nursery and she has fun there, the teachers do lots of arts and crafts with them and she gets to go to the playground twice a day. Usually she is there 9-4.30 Monday to Friday.

YANBU, I know lots of people who put their LO's in nursery in the holidays. I would take her out a couple of days to do something nice though, other than that I don't think you need to feel bad about it. Studying is hard work and not something you can really do with a LO around.

We have to pay for 50 weeks of the year so our littlest goes into nursery about 49 weeks of the year. I have time off by myself or with the eldest. He loves it and enjoys playing with his friends.
You’ll get some people saying your selfish and doing wrong. Ignore them and do what’s best for you / your family

YANBU.

My LO doesn't like 2 week holidays from childcare as she misses her friends.

Mines going in!

He loves it. I’m off, it’s got to be paid for anyway, and I need a break.

That and his 10 year old brother wants a break from him too 😂

My DS always finds two week breaks really disruptive and takes ages to settle after (despite loving nursery) so I would keep her in for that reason alone.

You having free time with your husband will be good for your children. Enjoy x

YANBU, you need a break and if she was out of nursery for 2 weeks, it would probably take some time for her to settle back in.

Why wouldn’t you 🤣

Its horses for courses. Different people take different choices. For me it depends how much leave you get in total and how much you work. If things like this mean you use little of your annual leave to be with your child, well it wouldnt be my choice. I miss my kids when I'm working, so for me the whole point of time off work is it's my time with them.

But that's based on my own working pattern and hours etc.

Don't feel guilty. Enjoy your time with your husband and sister.

Of course it's ok why isn't it ok? Just send her you are probably paying for it anyway.

Of course you aren't being unreasonable. Most parents I know do this.
Ds2 starts nursery just after his first birthday for 2 mornings a week, I don't go back to work until a month later.

I'd do it. If she's happy there normally, then she'll be as happy there on those weeks.
Enjoy a bit of time with the adults, it'll do you all good!

This is our first year with DD in nursery - we’re off 29, 30 and 31 December when nursery is open. Planning on sending her in on the 29th just so it’s not a long break - otherwise she’d have her last day on the 23rd and not be in again until the 2nd.

There’s also a chance I may have my 12 week scan on one of those 3 days and if I do we’ll pop her in for that morning/afternoon.

Yup I put mine in when im off. Occasionally feel guilty but that soon passes when I'm out and about shopping, or lunching, or having a glass of wine etc etc :D

I didn't even finish reading before deciding to aren't unreasonable. We've had play dates previously whereby the younger child is at nursery because DD was friends with the older one & nursery was paid for.

DH always books a day off work to coincide with my day off in then run up to Christmas so we can go shopping & out for lunch. It's great having time together as grownups

Why would you even query it? Is someone else guilt-tripping you?

The best thing about nursery is taking a day off work when your child is in. Why wouldn't you?!

Our nursery charges us if they're open, whether my daughter is in or not. I'm not paying sixty quid to spend the day with my toddler when I'm on annual leave 😂

I would, it keeps the routine going.

YANBU, can't imagine why those 23% of martyrs think you are either. Enjoy!

I’d do it! Enjoy. I’m currently at home alone while my 11mo DD is settling in at the childminder’s. DS is there too and it’s BLISS.
Don’t feel guilty for wanting a break.

Absolutely not being U.

Take some guilt-free time for yourself and make the most of it!

YANBU, can't imagine why those 23% of martyrs think you are either

Shall we keep it polite and not call other people "martyrs" for having a different view?

People are different. DH and I both get adult time together all evening every single day, and enjoy having our kids with us when we are off work. It's just what we like and it's fine for us to feel differently to you.

How rude to describe us as "martyrs".

Oh yay! I am glad that I am not being unreasonable. We really do need a break and I was thinking how nice it would be to get some time to ourselves. Weekends are never a break!! I didn’t know if other parents just kept their kids at home for 2 weeks or not. Yes we are paying for the nursery year round. I get 21 days of annual leave but we are not encouraged to take it at uni because we would miss out on classes too much. This winter break is the only official break I get for the year.

Of course not. You need some time for yourself, you're paying for it anyway, and when they are little, sometimes a change in routine over a long period makes settling in difficult.

The only thing I'd be wary of is getting a nasty bug just before Christmas though, that's happened in our family a few times and christmas eve / day and boxing day has been a bit of a washout due to kids bugs picked up in childcare