To put my DD in nursery when I am off for the holidays

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I have two weeks off for Christmas and my husband also gets some time off. My DD's nursery is open year-round except for public holidays. Would I be unreasonable to send her in for some of those days that I am off so that I can study or enjoy child-free time with my husband? We have not had a single day for just us since she was born.
I am also studying so I don't get a chance to really study because I am at uni Monday- Friday 8-5pm.
My sister is also planning on coming for a week to visit us, would it be ok to put her in nursery while I have some time off to take her around?
My DD likes nursery and she has fun there, the teachers do lots of arts and crafts with them and she gets to go to the playground twice a day. Usually she is there 9-4.30 Monday to Friday.

@DeepaBeesKit

YANBU, can't imagine why those 23% of martyrs think you are either

Shall we keep it polite and not call other people "martyrs" for having a different view?

People are different. DH and I both get adult time together all evening every single day, and enjoy having our kids with us when we are off work. It's just what we like and it's fine for us to feel differently to you.

How rude to describe us as "martyrs".

Sure but you've voted that she's unreasonable to do it, you haven't voted on what you would do, the question she asked is :

Would I be unreasonable to send her in for some of those days that I am off so that I can study or enjoy child-free time with my husband?

Yanbu! I always send ds to nursery on his usual days if I’m on leave, unless we’re going away on holiday obviously. I enjoy having some quiet time to myself once in a while!

Oh god yeah do it.

I don't work Fridays and have kept it as my day off even though both of mine are now in school. It's the best day of the week.

Um, i only book leave when my children are in nursery!

So do you take any holiday at all with your child? Ever?

Not unreasonable in the slightest. In fact, it’s good for kids to spend time with other adults and children.

Nothing wrong with that at all!

Absolutely do it! Mine went in when I was off. Why wouldn't you?! Don't feel guilty.

@DeepaBeesKit I’m not putting her in the whole of the Christmas break, so she will be home for a good proportion of it.

@DeepaBeesKit erm, she didn't say that did she. Do you like to make other mum's feel guilty about having some time to themselves?

@DeepaBeesKit the OP said she is going to send her child in for some of the days. This does not mean that OP never takes any holidays with her child. You want it kept polite, show the OP the same courtesy.

Since people are so confused btw, the reason some people wouldnt do this is if they prefer to spend time with their own children over doing other things, when they only have maybe 3 or 4 weeks a year to spend with them.

I'm obviously alone in this based on this thread but I had children because I wanted them including spending my free/non working time with them.

I'm obviously mad but I like my children better than I like my friends.

DD’s nursery used to open and charge for bank holidays. She went unless we had a day out planned. Nice to have an adult day off together or get diy done etc. There were usually fewer children in and a more fun day for the children.

@DeepaBeesKit booking leave to rest is vital. There are plenty of bank holidays and weekends, as well as actual holiday periods where parents put their children first all day every day. Not everyone has access to babysitting.

Parents that give 100% are of course going to need a break, lest they end up frazzled and checking out mentally.

Absolutely. I'm
On annual leave today and my daughter is at nursery and we have had a lovely day. Adults need time alone too, don't feel guilty.

I can't believe I'm the only person that doesn't find time with their kids enjoyable.

I genuinely, 100% find it pleasant to have a day off work with mine, I genuinely look forward to it, it's my favourite thing. Not trying to say OP is unreasonable to feel differently but saying it doesnt make me a martyr that I (and others) enjoy spending time with my own children.

@DeepaBeesKit Yes clearly you're the only one who likes their children

@DeepaBeesKit did you miss the words "some of those days" in the OP thread starting post?

While children like spending time with their parents they also like spending it with their peers and vice versa.

@DeepaBeesKit yes, yes, that's exactly what everyone's saying.
You know you can enjoy time with your kids AND the odd day to yourself too? It's not one or the other.
In fact I love being with my children so much I've completely sacrificed my career to only work 18 hours a week in order to maximise my time with them.

I actually can't work out whether she's a troll or not, she's so ridiculous

I think its a great idea, most of my friends & family do this to be able to spend time with partner etc - a happy mum & happy relationship is good for your kids so don't feel guilty at all

I get the feeling you're answering a completely different question to everyone else on this thread @DeepaBeesKit
I enjoy spending time with my children doesn't mean I want to spend all my time with them and equally nor do they want to spend all of their time with me.
Enjoy your time off OP.

I'm not a fucking troll.

Just find it sad that when someone is saying "this winter break is the only official break I get for the year" and they want to put their child in nursery for some if it.

OP hasn't actually said "the odd day". It could be a week. It could be two weeks, which would be half of all the time off she ever gets.

I keep my son off when I'm on holiday but that's my choice. OP you are NBU to send your child to nursery. If she enjoys it and you're paying for it anyway then why not?

I can't believe I'm the only person that doesn't find time with their kids enjoyable.

You aren't, you just think you are.