To put my DD in nursery when I am off for the holidays

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I have two weeks off for Christmas and my husband also gets some time off. My DD's nursery is open year-round except for public holidays. Would I be unreasonable to send her in for some of those days that I am off so that I can study or enjoy child-free time with my husband? We have not had a single day for just us since she was born.
I am also studying so I don't get a chance to really study because I am at uni Monday- Friday 8-5pm.
My sister is also planning on coming for a week to visit us, would it be ok to put her in nursery while I have some time off to take her around?
My DD likes nursery and she has fun there, the teachers do lots of arts and crafts with them and she gets to go to the playground twice a day. Usually she is there 9-4.30 Monday to Friday.

Well op has 2 weeks off, her dd won't be in nursery for 3 (or 4 in Scotland) of those days so that leaves 7 days and op said 'some' of those days so it sounds like her dd will be with her for at least half of the holidays.
But carry on thinking you're the only one who enjoys being with their children

@DeepaBeesKit I put my son in because I am knackered. I want to rest, I want to do things for ME.
I enjoy spending time with my son bit if I'm working all the time and then have him nights and weekends, unless you put them to grandparents or childcare then you literally get no time to yourself
It's not a big deal.

YANBU, do it whilst she's still in nursery! I used to. When they were too old for nursery holiday clubs weren't really much of an option as they hated them, and I know a lot of kids do so I had to use all my leave to be with them as couldn't bear the thought of them being miserable all day. Grandparents were never really an option, so yes. Make the most of it!

I'll clarify

I can't believe I'm the only person who finds time off with their children to be

• relaxing
• a break from work

And prefers it to "adult time", "time for myself".

Literally miss my kids every single day at work, the odd time I finish early I race to pick them. They love their childcare setting but always tell me they would rather be with me.

It's not relaxing having a 2 yr old 🤣

relaxing
a break from work

And so do other people but sometimes you might want to also do things that aren't as child friendly. That doesn't mean you don't enjoy your children.

I remember being a bit like you when ds1 was little (although I'd never spout about it to people) and actually it was because I was insecure about if I was a good mum or not. I thought I had to be with him every waking minute and never admit to wanting to do something else or I wouldn't be a good mum. Thankfully I quickly figured out that was nonsense.

No guilt for me, ever. I'd have ds's home with me for 2 days, put them in for 3. Then I finally got a break. Felt fabulous.

Does anyone actually enjoy spending time with a whiny, tantrumming almost 3 year old? Mine is a delight when he's in a good mood but incredibly hard work when he's not, and I like to have a break from trying to parent him as well as possible so he grows out of the whiny, tantrum phase as soon as possible.

Obviously I love him, but I am also a person in my own right with interests that don't combine well with a toddler. I also like to see my partner and friends without needing to constantly watch out for danger and dispense snacks and tissues and warnings!

Having a SEN five year old and a 3 year old is not remotely relaxing. Fun, exhausting, surprising exasperating but never relaxing. I go to work to get a break, but my kids are very full on.

OP YANBU. I used to do this to get some time off. I still do it now to get 1 on 1 time with my eldest.

Yanbu.

I was a childminder and actively encouraged my parents to do this.

We live in a world where in many households, both parents are working, juggling childcare, cleaning , shopping, and time been more than a mum or Dad is important- couple time becomes more precious.

Really you need to make the most of it until they’re at school and they have eleventy million days off a year [widowed working parent with DC at two different schools with different teacher training days, eldest has ADHD - please take some chill out time on my behalf!!]

@DeepaBeesKit

Yes yes clearly you love your children more than the rest of us.

Why did we even bother having them eh...

There is always one.