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Weird Facebook friend request

88 replies

CallMeAChopper · 18/10/2021 07:40

DH recently got a friend request from someone he knows through work - don’t want to be too specific but think of her as a client of his. He told me about it and accepted the friend request. No issues there. She does appear to interact much with anything he posts.
Now the weird bit … this weekend she sent me a friend request along with a message saying “hi”. I’ve never met her or even spoken to her before.

It seems weird!? I showed DH and he looked concerned and asked if I’m going to reply. I said “no” so he said “don’t blame you, can’t understand why she’s done that”.

Am I over reacting?

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Geamhradh · 18/10/2021 07:42

I don't see anything weird there.
Sounds like she's networking.

Blankspace4 · 18/10/2021 07:42

That is weird!

Are you suspicious? Or is she just a bit much?

QueenDanu · 18/10/2021 07:44

I find it weird but some people have 5000 friends on fb and i suspect this is how.

But no, wait, she's a professional woman sending the wife of somebody she wants to do business with an fb request 🤔
Still weird. What if you accepted and then sent requests to her colleagues!!

NCsobroke · 18/10/2021 07:44

Hmm. That is weird. My gut feeling went straight to her outing him for something inappropriate. But I have a tendency to massively leap to the worst case scenario! Blush

Could you reply casually? Is DH trustworthy?

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CallMeAChopper · 18/10/2021 07:45

She’s not that kind of client - it’s not business related

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WTF475878237NC · 18/10/2021 07:45

The only possible way this isn't odd, unprofessional and inappropriate is if you also work in their industry.

Geamhradh · 18/10/2021 07:46

@CallMeAChopper

She’s not that kind of client - it’s not business related
Well, you said client.
KoreyBay18 · 18/10/2021 07:46

Yeah his concern made my ears prick up OP. What is he concerned about?

Blaziken · 18/10/2021 07:46

It’s probably a clone account. This happened to me. A request from someone I knew followed by “hi”. I responded and got more that was clearly not that person.

IToldYouIWasFreaky · 18/10/2021 07:47

She was probably having a nosey at your profile and sent you a friend request by accident. I've done that a fair few times! Blush

Loudestcat14 · 18/10/2021 07:48

@CallMeAChopper

She’s not that kind of client - it’s not business related
What kind of client is she then, if not business?
U2HasTheEdge · 18/10/2021 07:50

I would reply. Especially as he looked concerned.

Why can't you say what kind of 'client' she is?

WTF475878237NC · 18/10/2021 07:50

There's something making me feel a little bit suspicious here. I know you don't want to out yourself but if she's not a business client can you give us an analogy to work with?

KoreyBay18 · 18/10/2021 07:50

Unless by "not that kind of a client" you mean a patient of some kind. In which case his concern is understandable.

WickedWitchOfTheTrent · 18/10/2021 07:50

Have a look at her profile, has she got 100s of friends? Some people use fb as a way to network or simply to get as many followers as possible. If her account isn't locked down and she has 100s of friends I'd just take it as 'it's her way'

WTF475878237NC · 18/10/2021 07:51

If it was a patient he wouldn't have accepted the request himself though.

Bluntness100 · 18/10/2021 07:52

Do you mean she’s a patient?

Otherwise some people just click on loads of folks to be friends.

Original poster
CallMeAChopper · 18/10/2021 07:53

@KoreyBay18

Unless by "not that kind of a client" you mean a patient of some kind. In which case his concern is understandable.
Yes, that’s more like it, not an actual patient but along those lines. His concern is that she might be entering stalking territory and says he wishes he’d never accepted her friend request. He’s not a big user of Facebook so didn’t see the harm initially
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MyOtherProfile · 18/10/2021 07:54

If she's actually a patient of his he shouldn't have accepted the friend request.

PuppyMonkey · 18/10/2021 07:54

The “hi” thing makes me think she’s been hacked tbh.

FawnFrenchieMum · 18/10/2021 07:55

Does she sell some sort of MLM scheme, I have friends of friends add me all the time who sell that sort of stuff. Have a look at her profile, it’s usually pretty clear.

CatWarbler · 18/10/2021 07:55

I'm wondering if there is something she wants to tell you. Having spent a bit of time on MN and the number of posters agonising over whether to tell spouses of affairs.
I'm pretty laid back but this would nibble away at me, so I'd respond I think, just to avoid long term wondering.

SirensofTitan · 18/10/2021 07:55

Has he unfriended her or put her on a restricted list? That would seem the obvious thing to do and you can block her if you think she might be a stalker

CatWarbler · 18/10/2021 07:58

@CatWarbler

I'm wondering if there is something she wants to tell you. Having spent a bit of time on MN and the number of posters agonising over whether to tell spouses of affairs. I'm pretty laid back but this would nibble away at me, so I'd respond I think, just to avoid long term wondering.
You can always block her afterwards, if she turns out to be weird
MargaretThursday · 18/10/2021 07:59

Some people send friend requests to everyone they have ever come across or likely to come across. Some people prefer to keep to to people they regard as friends.
I suspect she's just one of the former.