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Weird Facebook friend request

88 replies

CallMeAChopper · 18/10/2021 07:40

DH recently got a friend request from someone he knows through work - don’t want to be too specific but think of her as a client of his. He told me about it and accepted the friend request. No issues there. She does appear to interact much with anything he posts.
Now the weird bit … this weekend she sent me a friend request along with a message saying “hi”. I’ve never met her or even spoken to her before.

It seems weird!? I showed DH and he looked concerned and asked if I’m going to reply. I said “no” so he said “don’t blame you, can’t understand why she’s done that”.

Am I over reacting?

OP posts:
TolkiensFallow · 18/10/2021 08:01

Is this social work related? Or housing or similar? Don’t go down this route if so. It blurs boundaries.

MrsClatterbuck · 18/10/2021 08:01

@PuppyMonkey

The “hi” thing makes me think she’s been hacked tbh.
Thinking this as well. Got a friend request from someone who I knew and accepted then got a message on Messenger. Similar to the one that op received. Discovered I was already friends and new request shows only one mutual friend but other has lots. Have blocked the new request now.
AdelindSchade · 18/10/2021 08:03

If it is a social care or health type 'client' he needs to unfriend her now. It's not appropriate.

AdelindSchade · 18/10/2021 08:03

If it is a social care or health type 'client' he needs to unfriend her now. It's not appropriate.

RavenclawsRoar · 18/10/2021 08:06

Some of DH's friends (who I've never met) have tried to add me on FB. Invariably it's a ploy to get me to join their stupid MLM schemes. They were swiftly deleted!

gamerchick · 18/10/2021 08:07

I got a friend's request from a pub at the weekend.

Sometimes things are just weird. Just delete it, blokes deletes her and move on.

hippoherostandinghere · 18/10/2021 08:08

She probably has a MLM page, you'll be invited to like it next.

LawnFever · 18/10/2021 08:09

I think she’s probably been hacked or is just one of those people who adds 100’s of people to FB.

It’s a bit of a leap to suggest she’s ‘entering stalking territory’ - if you don’t want to accept her request/message just delete it.

icedcoffees · 18/10/2021 08:11

If she's a client of his in a kind of patient capacity, it was completely inappropriate for him to accept the request in the first place.

You should both delete and block her.

ILiedAboutBeingTheOutdoorType · 18/10/2021 08:14

I'd just ignore it. I've got friend requests from about 5 five years ago I've just never got round to accepting.

Glitterblue · 18/10/2021 08:16

I'd say MLM or she's one of those people who has to send a friend request to everyone she's ever met plus their families.

romdowa · 18/10/2021 08:17

Reply to her massage and see what she says ?

ZombieEthel · 18/10/2021 08:17

Your husband should unfriend her. He's under no obligation to accept friend requests from anyone.

DumplingsAndStew · 18/10/2021 08:24

Is it appropriate for him to have her as a friend?

EwwSprouts · 18/10/2021 08:26

Your DH needs to reflect on his use of FB. Most people use it for social connections. Does he put family stuff on there? He could set higher privacy settings? Professional connections tend to be on LinkedIn.

shouldistop · 18/10/2021 08:28

He shouldn't have her as a friend. I'd respond out of curiosity.

MrsElijahMikaelson1 · 18/10/2021 08:33

Your DH should unfriend her and both of you should block her.

GingerFoxes · 18/10/2021 08:34

I too think hacked.

I had a request yesterday form someone I am already friends with from a different account. Her name. When I went for a snoop ‘she’ was telling everyone about some amazing sunglasses she had bought online.

FlorenceWintle · 18/10/2021 08:39

Friends on Facebook, colleagues and work contacts on LinkedIn. Stick to that rigidly, no exceptions.

godmum56 · 18/10/2021 08:43

she might have been hacked, she might be one of those tiresome people on FB who friends EVERYBODY. I am on some large (5000+ specialist glass and china collecting groups and some people join and then scattergun friend requests which is tiresome. Do you know that if you have a reason to friend someone who you don't want to know your business, that you can restrict what they see? I did this when my nieces first joined and I didn't want them to see some of the ruder memes that i share.

Getyourownback · 18/10/2021 08:44

@CallMeAChopper is he a personal trainer?

Getyourownback · 18/10/2021 08:45

Also ignore the hacking comments. That won’t have happened. My first instinct is that she’s potentially a bit infatuated with him and is scoping you out. That is concerning.

AdelindSchade · 18/10/2021 08:47

It's possible to breach work policies or profesdional standards by this sort of thing which can end up having consequences. Or worse case scenario allegations made etc. He wants to get this sorted asap and unfriend/block.

Cosyblankets · 18/10/2021 08:49

If you don't know her don't accept

Egghead68 · 18/10/2021 08:50

Just ignore