WIBU to phone the school?

[sportmom11]

Name changed for this.

An old school friend of mine works as a teaching assistant in the local primary school. This evening, she has uploaded a photo to Facebook of her two nephews aged 9 & 10 drinking an alcopop to celebrate their football team winning a game.

WIBU to phone the school tomorrow and let the safeguarding lead know? Her nephews attend the same school she works in.

I know it’s not illegal for under 18s to drink alcohol at home, but surely it’s morally wrong? And as a teaching assistant she should know better?

Or should I keep my nose out? As an ex teacher I used to despair when kids (15/16) came in to school with a hangover!

It's perfectly legal for 10YOs to drink (at home) in the UK. You are utterly unreasonable to try to get someone in trouble with their employer just because you don't like their sister or brother's parenting choices.

old school friend Are you sure you are not thinking of the word enemy? That would seem to fit a lot better with the rest of your post.

@Hankunamatata

It's a daft unthought out photo of them posing. Of course u dont report to the school

This.

FFS...think you have too much time on your hands.

Bet you miss lockdown, eh? All that curtain twitching and snooping.

Don't be a coward. Message her and ask her if it's really appropriate for them to be drinking. Alternatively, mind your business. It's not legal for children that age to drink at home with parental permission. Poor parenting? Yes. Illegal? No.

Not illegal that should say!

Oh give over. I have a picture of my little one holding daddies pint. Funny enough at 4 he never drunk it. Get a life.

If they actually drank it, it’s pretty bad. But I would presume it was a joke because I wouldn’t expect anyone to actually let children that age drink WKD.

My friend's dd hated alcohol. When she goes to a party (she's now in her 20s) she takes a load of alcopops she's saved the bottles and replaced the inside with standard fizzy.
It amuses her and she gets what she wants to drink.

Don’t call the school.

The woman is stupid,for putting photo's of children on FB, despite the subject matter.

I'd keep out of it because the parents have given permission, if it was indeed alcohol, and it was at home!
Think to Christmas & special occasions when you were young, were you ever allowed a sip or 2 of your parents alcohol?
When I was young, one of my treats at Christmas was to have my own 4 little bottles of Babycham. To be drunk when my parents allowed, of course. Have you seen how strong that stuff actually is? Lol
If you're really worried, then you could speak to her directly, but do not inform the school because she was on her own free time & it is nothing to do with school!!!

Get a life, OP, they could have been posing but even if they weren’t, one alcopop each with supervision of an adult relative won’t do any harm! Call yourself a friend…wow!

Mind your own business.

The illegal aspect is purchasing alcohol for a minor.

I absolutely hate this modern day tendency to run bleating to "report" things. If you are concerned, the first thing you should do is talk to the woman directly. Otherwise you could be causing unnecessary trouble just because your desire to "report" outweighs your ability to talk to people.

The post is most likely a joke and she didn't think anyone would be daft enough not to get it, or to threaten her livelihood.

Do you have or have you ever had any other concerns about this friend's judgement or any other facet of her ability to be around children? This is maybe the better question to ask yourself but no, do not ruin this woman's career just yet....

God no. As someone who's been allowed the odd sip of alcohol at home for as long as I can remember, I would not class this as a safeguarding issue at all.

seriously havent you got anything better to do with your time ?

@Brollywasntneededafterall

I reported my dd being bullied for refusing to get drunk with her friends... She was 12. School were very interested and concerned a dp was supplying them with alcohol

Ime yanbu to speak to school.
And that dp had no involvement with the school at all..

And quite right too. For a situation which has absolutely nothing whatsoever in common with the OP.

1. You are not actually ‘friends’ if you are thinking about doing this.
2. A friend would contact a friend to suggest changing her privacy settings before reporting her to an employer
3. What makes you think she gave the kids the alcohol?
4. What makes you think the kids’ parents don’t know/don’t approve?
5. What makes you think the school staff (likely closer ‘friends’ to her than you are now) don’t already know?

Absolutely not! Honestly mind your own business!

I'm sure the parents of these children can deal with this themselves, however they see fit.

I'm not sure why you think this has anything to do with you and why you would feel the need to get involved.

Drink water and mind your business😇🦋

I don’t think it’s right to given such young children any type of alcohol. However, I don’t think you should contact the school.