So this year finances are tighter than previously as am working shorter hours (health related). No idea if will be temporary or permanent, but have basically lost 40% of my income from 6 months ago. Normally I spend a lot on Christmas, but I simply can’t this year. I’ve had great suggestions on here for more ethical gifts, but hadn’t realised how very much more expensive they would be! I’m busy recalibrating my expectations, and part of that is spending. I was thinking of spending about £15-£20 each on family and children of friends, and just bottles of wine for a couple of close friends (£10 ish each). Maybe £250 in total, including my offspring. I mentioned this to a close family member, and they have basically accused me of being tight-fisted and a bit selfish, as I could spend more but don’t want to as would mean having to use my savings and they are for emergencies. Am I being unreasonable? Is £20 each not enough? For reference they mostly all earn well and are quite middle class (unlike my working class self!) so maybe I am out of order by their standards?