To think he is taking the piss?

[DoggyDaycarer]

I’ve been with my boyfriend for 6 months and for the most part, he’s been wonderful. He started a doggy daycare business during the pandemic alongside his full time job and sometimes asks me to help out, which I don’t mind.

He mostly works from home, but sometimes he gets called into the office. Today he was called into the office, so asked if I’d mind taking care of the dogs he has staying at daycare. I said I didn’t mind, but was meeting a friend for lunch so would have to fit it around that. I managed to fit it all in, but was stressed all day about the dogs potentially causing damage / urinating / defecating. Luckily the dogs were okay as I managed to only leave them for a few hours. BF was meant to be back at 6pm, which meant the dogs would only be left a couple of hours between me leaving and him returning from his office. I work until 8pm so made it clear I couldn’t look after the dogs. I get a text at 5.30 saying he won’t be back at 6pm and could I please go over and see the dogs. He said he’d be back by 10pm. I agreed but I told him I wouldn’t get to his until 9pm. By the time I got to his, they’d pooed on the floor and ripped flooring and furniture. I cleaned all that up, let them out, fed them etc. Then I get a phone call at 10pm saying he is still at the office and won’t be back for another hour and a half at least! He’d been out drinking with colleagues, so it’s not that he’s been caught up with work. I’d planned to stay tonight anyway, but that’s not the point. I feel like my kindness has been taken advantage of and doesn’t bode well for the future.

AIBU to think this is taking the piss out of me?

[BathMatToe]

So he's taking money off people to have their dogs looked after, presumably so they're not left alone. Then he's leaving them alone for hours hoping you'll pick up the slack..and their shit... while he gets pissed.
He's just great isn't he!

Imagine handing over your dog to useless wankers like this?
Yes agree with others saying imagine having kids.
If you're happy being an unpaid crap clearer and doormat, keep seeing this twat.

[PixieLaLa]

That isn’t day care at that time in the evening, is he boarding dogs? That is different and highly regulated, I doubt what he is doing is even legal never mind morally wrong! He sounds like a keeper

[onelittlefrog]

Honestly I feel the most sorry for people who are paying for their dogs to have "daycare" and the dogs are just being frequently left on their own. He/ you are ripping them off.

[HomeSliceKnowsBest]

What am I reading here?! Report the wanker to the council and his poor clients and run for the hills.

[Gilly12345]

He really is making the piss, how can anyone have a full time job and run a doggy day care business?

I don’t see how he can be successful in either job as he is juggling both and more importantly people’s beloved animals.

He is abusing your good nature in looking after doggy daycare while in the office and pub.

[Wannakisstheteacher]

It is disgusting that’s he is taking money from people and yet leaving their dogs alone for hours on end. Really it’s fraud as he’s charging for a service he’s not providing.

[Still1nLove]

Yes, he is taking the piss

[MsDogLady]

This is utterly disturbing.

He is a fraud and you are enabling him.

Wise up and stop being his mug.

[Cherrysoup]

Major pisstake-went out drinking?! And left those poor dogs alone? I’d tell his clients how shot his dog care is and dump him.

[WickedWitchOfTheTrent]

A couple of points, getting stuck at work once in a blue moon is fine, it happens, but he was out drinking. That's not getting stuck at work, that's out with mates

Secondly, it's doggy day care, if an owner wanted their dog to be left alone they wouldn't pay for his services, I'd be monumentally pissed off if I found out that I was paying him and he'd left my dogs alone.

He's taking the piss out if you and his customers

[Fraine]

He’s a using dickhead. Dump.

[icedcoffees]

So you're both running an illegal doggy daycare business and don't seem to think there's anything wrong with that?

And yes, you're just as bad as him as you're enabling it

I hope someone reports the pair of you to the council. If you're investigated you could both be fined and banned from keeping animals for 5-10 years, btw.

[Thehop]

Those poor dogs.

Disgusting.

[Fraine]

@icedcoffees

So you're both running an illegal doggy daycare business and don't seem to think there's anything wrong with that?

And yes, you're just as bad as him as you're enabling it

I hope someone reports the pair of you to the council. If you're investigated you could both be fined and banned from keeping animals for 5-10 years, btw.

Please don’t victim blame. OP was just helping. This is on him 100%.

But OP, do dump him.

[ovenchips]

As another poster has asked - why are the dogs still in 'daycare' at his house at the time of you writing your post at 10.30pm?[confused] Why have they not been picked up by their owners when they return from work? It doesn't make sense to me. Unless the dogs are boarding - but surely you'd know if they were?

[thebestnamesweregone]

Of course he's not registered! He's making easy £ at the expense of the dogs and owners, scumbag!
Dogs can't talk and clearly none of the owners know! Hopefully more than 1 picks up on their dogs anxiety!
Tosser!

[Thebookswereherfriends]

You shouldn’t have said you would cover the second time he called. You had plans, you had told him about your plans, you should have said you were unable to go over to his. I certainly wouldn’t be doing anymore favours for him.

[HoppingPavlova]

I don’t understand it. Presumably he is operating (loose term considering) a doggy daycare, not a boarding facility. Would he not have had people rocking up at 5/6/7 after work to collect their dog? Obviously he would have to be home to hand the dog over.

The whole thing sounds weird and he is massively taking the piss out of the dogs, the dog owners and yourself.

[Saoirse82]

I'm fuming even reading this! Those poor dogs! What he's doing is animal cruelty locking up strange dogs together who are so distressed they are wrecking the furniture, sounds like they are anxious. You need to report him and leave him, he's a no good bastard!

[SunshineCake1]

This isn't how doggy day care is supposed to work!

[AngelicInnocent]

Unfortunately, even daycare and home boarding providers that are registered with the council, are permitted to leave the dogs for up to 2 hours at a time for a maximum of 3 times per 24 hours.

This is how they manage to also provide dog walking services for other people despite having dogs in their care.

Stupidly, when inspecting these providers, we are required to make appointments so can't just turn up and catch them doing things like this.

Boarding kennels generally provide much better care.

[LadyCatStark]

He’s taking the piss out of you and his clients. I’d be furious if I was paying someone to look after my dog and they left him alone for so long. He could be on his own at home!

[icedcoffees]

@Fraine - it's not victim blaming. OP is an adult and more than capable of understanding that her boyfriend is operating an illegal daycare - and by helping him out, she is also complicit in what's happening.

I'm sorry but this is my industry - I work in per care and by enabling his behaviour, OP is also enabling the neglect of these animals.

They both need reporting to the council. Doggy daycares need to be licensed, insured (which this won't be as it's not licensed) and staff have to have a variety of qualifications including First Aid and Canine Body Language.

[SamMil]

I would be ending the relationship.

Looking after someone else's animals is a big responsibility. They shouldn't be left alone for hours on end (or at all!). People are paying him to look after him to avoid that happening.

He is obviously untrustworthy and not reliable.

[Howshouldibehave]

@BathMatToe

So he's taking money off people to have their dogs looked after, presumably so they're not left alone. Then he's leaving them alone for hours hoping you'll pick up the slack..and their shit... while he gets pissed.
He's just great isn't he!

Imagine handing over your dog to useless wankers like this?
Yes agree with others saying imagine having kids.
If you're happy being an unpaid crap clearer and doormat, keep seeing this twat.

This.

How can he run a doggy daycare when he has a job?!