To think he is taking the piss?

[DoggyDaycarer]

I’ve been with my boyfriend for 6 months and for the most part, he’s been wonderful. He started a doggy daycare business during the pandemic alongside his full time job and sometimes asks me to help out, which I don’t mind.

He mostly works from home, but sometimes he gets called into the office. Today he was called into the office, so asked if I’d mind taking care of the dogs he has staying at daycare. I said I didn’t mind, but was meeting a friend for lunch so would have to fit it around that. I managed to fit it all in, but was stressed all day about the dogs potentially causing damage / urinating / defecating. Luckily the dogs were okay as I managed to only leave them for a few hours. BF was meant to be back at 6pm, which meant the dogs would only be left a couple of hours between me leaving and him returning from his office. I work until 8pm so made it clear I couldn’t look after the dogs. I get a text at 5.30 saying he won’t be back at 6pm and could I please go over and see the dogs. He said he’d be back by 10pm. I agreed but I told him I wouldn’t get to his until 9pm. By the time I got to his, they’d pooed on the floor and ripped flooring and furniture. I cleaned all that up, let them out, fed them etc. Then I get a phone call at 10pm saying he is still at the office and won’t be back for another hour and a half at least! He’d been out drinking with colleagues, so it’s not that he’s been caught up with work. I’d planned to stay tonight anyway, but that’s not the point. I feel like my kindness has been taken advantage of and doesn’t bode well for the future.

AIBU to think this is taking the piss out of me?

[TokyoSushi]

Well this is one of the weirdest threads I've ever read. I might have the wrong end of the stick but it seems like he's running some sort of dog minding service but going out drinking and leaving the dogs alone for hours??

[VanGoghsDog]

Is he licensed by the local authority? Has he told his insurer and mortgage provider? Does his employer know?

I ask because my ex thought it was OK to just start taking in dogs for money with no formal arrangements, and leaving me to do the work while he was off on work trips abroad for weeks at a time, so I looked into it then and it turns out you need a home check and a license.

Anyway, he's neglecting then and taking the piss out of you.

[Sweetpeasaremadeofcheese]

I wouldn't be helping him again!

[Sleepyhungryfattyanddoc]

I’d be so upset to find out that my dog had first been left with someone they don’t know, I don’t know and who has no qualifications or training,
then they had been left alone, to the point that they’ve had to poo inside - which would really bother my dog!
What if the dogs had gotten sick on something they chewed on, or had started fighting and no one was there?
I’m not sure why you’re not more concerned about that, I’d find that lack of responsibility very unattractive

But yes, He is taking the piss out of his clients and out of you.
How can he just lie that he’s at the office when he’s out drinking. Then also make you do his job for him, because he’s out drinking.

[Onlinedilema]

Omg I would give him such a bollocking.
If you stay with him which I absolutely wouldn't, never, ever help him out again.
He is a shit, he is not fit to be paid to look after animals and is a terrible boyfriend.
Just dump him and threaten to report him so that he can't treat animals in this way.
He has totally treated you like a mug.

[Sunshinealligator]

I'd be furious if I found out that my dog carer was leaving my dog for periods alone like that. Infact I would be reporting him to anyone who would listen.

These dogs are already away from all that is usual for them, in different surroundings, then to be left for hours and hours..they must feel very confused and anxious.

Please tell him this is his responsibility and he needs to take it more seriously.

And in full agreement with PP who have said don't consider children with this man. I've found out personally you can tell a lot about a person, in the way they treat animals who are reliant on them. Consider this a snapshot of what type of parent he would be.

[SavageBeauty73]

This can't be real. I'd be fuming if I left my fog fog with that irresponsible prick

[SavageBeauty73]

God I was so shocked huge typo! Fog = dog 🐶

[MumofSpud]

So clients are paying him to look after their dogs as they are not at home.
He then goes out leaving the dogs alone.
This needs reporting to the council

[timeisnotaline]

He is also probably in breach of his employment contract. I certainly would be if I had another job, much less one that was definitively during working hours. So he comes across as a selfish feckless loser all round here.

[Ellie56]

Sounds more like Dodgy Day Care than Doggy Day Care.

He is taking the piss.

[SunscreenCentral]

This is almost hilarious 😆 how could you possibly post an AIBU about this loser, to man, woman and beast!

Have my first unequivocal and LTB asap ffs

[tabulahrasa]

He’s getting paid so the dogs aren’t left at all... not for a couple of hours, not while he goes to work.

If he can’t stay with them, he shouldn’t be taking them on as clients.

[Mydogmylife]

If I had left my dog with this man, and discovered this was the ' care' he had received, I would have made a formal complaint, both to him and the council . He is taking the piss out of you and his clients

[Puddstalk]

This is appalling - if I’m going to be out for more than two hours my dog goes to day care - if he was left alone for hours I would be incensed - this has made me so angry - he is a bad person

[VanGoghsDog]

Also, even if he hadn't gone into the office, he can't provide day care when he's working even if that is at home.

Also also - you were going to stay at his that night "anyway" yet he went out drinking and wasn't due home til eleven thirty. Why were you there?

And daycare is normally pick up about six pm.

I look after a couple of dogs in the village now and then, for free! As a favour, and because I like dogs. But only now and then. And I'm most definitely here. On Saturday I felt guilty popping to the shops for an hour as I had my friend's dog.

[Newmumatlast]

@IsEveryUserNameBloodyTaken

He is leaving dogs alone.
Christ what happens if they fight and one ends up injured or worse.
I would find some way to report this.
Too many are getting involved with dog walking,dog day care as they think it is money for old rope.

Agree with you.

OP not only is he taking the piss out of you but he is showing you the type of man he is. I would personally dump someone who did this. It would tell me they dont actually care about their responsibilities and obligations and just want a quick buck. I would also report his business. If I really liked him and he was otherwise a good partner maybe I would give him an ultimatum to pick one or the other job else I would leave and report... but I'm not feeling that charitable toward him from your post

[Lucycantdance]

Doggy day care.., but nobody is there to care... why would you pay for that?! Wouldn’t you just leave your dog at home?! 🙈😂

[MrsTerryPratchett]

He's an arse. And if you need MN to tell you that, have counselling before having another relationship.

It is true that how a person treats animals tells you everything you need to know about them.

[NiceGerbil]

You are allowed to say no.

And those poor dogs. I am far from a dog person. But even wfh he's not going to be looking after them. Walks? Shitting in the house?

I wouldn't be with someone who thought that was ok.

He needs to hire someone to do it properly or sell the business.

And you need to dump him because he sounds like an irresponsible, callous, selfish entitled arsehole.

Sorry.

[NiceGerbil]

I am struggling to see how this is even real.

The dogs might well fight.

And who would knowingly put themselves in the position of having their house covered in piss and shit and ruined furniture?

Seriously?

[SirusTheVirus]

@YoungGiftedPlump

Is the doggy day care registered and insured?
9pm isn't doggy day care it is overnight. This is highly regulated and licensed by the council.
People have paid for doggy daycare. You cant piss off and leave the dogs alone!

Exactly what I was about to say 🐶

[Bogeyes]

Good luck with YOUR doggy business

[LorenzoVonMatterhorn]

So much wrong with this.

Why are you staying over at his house when he isnt even there in the evening, even without the lying about working while actually out drinking? Are you going over just to look after dogs and to have sex with him? Is that what you want? No effort on his part at all?

He is monumentally selfish. Youd have a shitty life staying with him. What do you get from the relationship?

Im assuming he earns a lot and you think he’d make a good partner but he is very selfish and anything that is his would not likely be yours.

[PurpleOkapi]

YANBU, but I'd be more worried about the safety of the dogs, and whether their owners knew they were being left completely unsupervised. If they just wanted to lock them in the house alone, they could have done that at their own house for free. Leaving them alone wouldn't be so bad if he wasn't getting paid specifically to not leave them alone, but taking dogs from different households who are complete strangers and tossing them together with no supervision at all is asking for something bad to happen.