AIBU - should I cancel appointment to attend funeral?

[Sandyseagul]

Really not sure if my judgment is being clouded by the stress of TTC and I’m being totally unreasonable or not.

We have a fertility appointment booked later this month (been booked for 3 months and already moved once). We’ve been TTC for 12 months with no luck, I’m quite worried there may be something wrong as there’s no obvious reasons why we haven’t conceived (both healthy, no medical issues we know of etc)

Unfortunately a relative of a friend has passed away, and the funeral is on the same day as the appointment. Husband wants me to cancel the appointment so we can attend funeral, I want to keep the appointment. Not sure if it’s relevant but funeral would be a 10 hour round trip, not local at all. And would involve at least 1 nightmare stay so couldn’t do both. Husband thinks I’m being unreasonable as we obviously won’t get another opportunity to go to the funeral and we could move the appointment although it would probably be another couple of months to get another one.

DH has pissed me off as he seems oblivious as to how worried I am and how much I’ve been focusing on the date for the appointment so we can at least make some progress with things one way or another. He’s treating it as if it’s a hair or nail appointment and means nothing, which I don’t think is helping.

AIBU? Should I be moving the appointment?

I'm in my mid 30's and have been having fertility treatment for years so I know how precious these appointments can be.
Is there an option to have the appointment via zoom so you can pull over at a service station and have it that way?
I've had to do that a couple of times when necessary.

Have you explained the situation to the clinic & asked if the appointment is moveable? If they can't reschedule it without a significant delay I'd go to the appointment alone if I had to. Your other half might "get it" a bit more once the process starts and he starts attending. Best of luck to you xx