...to feel like rubbish around this person?

[Overtherainbow99]

There's another mum that I see every day at the school gates who always looks perfect, hair impeccable, make up flawless, always laughing and joking. And every day I see her I feel a bit more shit about myself.

I have spoken to her once or twice and she seems like a regular human being but I seem to have put her on a pedestal in my mind. She has now become The Super Mum. She has her own business and always looks great. I waddle along to the school gates looking like I've just climbed out of a bag for life.

Have let my grey hairs come through over lockdown (so much fuss and upkeep dyeing it!) and look frumpy in my glasses. She, obviously, suits glasses perfectly and has swishy, swishy shiny, shiny hair.

AIBU to hate myself around her?!

Christ, some of you are spiteful fuckers.

@Owwasme

Christ, some of you are spiteful fuckers.

I know right, it’s so sad. An attractive well groomed successful woman,,must be something wrong with her,

No actually, she doesn’t have to have a hell life or mental health issues or anxiety, she may most likely be what she appears as, a happy successful woman

We should support women, not attack them for looking good and being successful,

The ops jealousy of this woman is about her unhappiness of herself.

But when your unhappiness drops to such a level even the thought of an attractive happy successful women that someone online mentions. makes you want to attack then you’ve some really big issues going on,

I don’t see the point of randomly fixating on another mum and getting worked up with jealousy.

Might as well fixate on a child. Such amazing skin! Such glossy hair! So much energy! I used to have that but now my bones ache every day!

If you wanna dye your hair, get fit, and smile more, do it. If you don’t, then don’t.

“The race is long and in the end it’s only with yourself.”

One of my best friends is like the mum you describe, she has a beautiful skin tone, her hair is amazing and she has a fantastic figure and she can genuinely be described as beautiful. From when we met in our teens she's had other women avoiding her, thinking she's a bitch or that she thinks she's better than everyone else. She is no more a bitch, damaged or papering over the cracks than I am or was. She's a nice person, she's jealous because my hair dries dead straight and she gets up 30 mins earlier to blow dry and run the straighteners over hers because she can't wash it at night! She's supported me through thick and thin as I've done for her. She has had shit in her childhood and adult life, she's had fantastic times as have I and most other people. Anyone who judges and avoids her because she's somehow 'better' than them because she looks good is losing out on a loyal, funny friend who has sometimes had a shit time and will support every one of her friends through the same. And yes, her eyelashes are real 😩.

It is so depressing that there is a need to tear down other women because they look like they’ve got it all together.

She isn’t the problem OP, you are (and I mean that nicely). Don’t compare yourself to other people.

But when your unhappiness drops to such a level even the thought of an attractive happy successful women that someone online mentions. makes you want to attack then you’ve some really big issues going on

This in spades, the amount of people on here who can’t stand the thought of an attractive woman having a perfectly pleasant life, Christ imagine being so low in self esteem you have to tear down a woman you have never seen or met.