To feel upset that nanny said..

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That my child’s speech delay is down to me not taking him out enough to interact with people. She proceeded to tell me it’s ok and she was the same when her kids were young and her husband was out working and she had no one to interact with. Strange comparison as I’m not a SAHM but I do work from home. I didn’t say anything at the time but it annoys me because he’s at nursery part time and part time with her (whilst I work full time) and on the weekends we pretty much always have something on at least on one day.

the older ones asked for some snack did they all get one? Of course she said. That's his problem, he doesn't need to speak, so she stopped doing this and it sorted itself within a couple of months.
I knew a set of twins in school, one was really confident and the other rarely spoke.
As an adult it is obvious why twin 2 didn't speak much.
My older Dsis stopped talking when the youngest was born, she had a strong character from birth.
I'm conscious of balancing it with my own DC.
DS is full on vs DD who's very quite.

I think she's talking nonsense! At the moment your dc has nursery and nanny and you which is a good mix of one on one and group interaction and presumably you go out and about with ds at the weekend which provides opportunity to talk about different situations? .

We worked full time so ds was in nursery. We used to find with ds that his speech came on in leaps and bounds in holiday periods as he had lots more time for one on one speech which nursery couldn't give him. So for us it was the one on one time that was important which is what nanny will provide and you will be providing no less than any other working parent. Don't let her make you feel guilty!

Yeah we go out pretty much every Saturday to either see family/friends and Sundays mornings are usually for cooking/chores and in the afternoons we will go out for a walk to the playground/coffee shop as a family. Yeah we aren’t out every single day or socialising multiple times a week but I don’t know any working parents who manage to do that.

OP, no definitely not your fault that during mat leave you weren't able to go out as much as otherwise would. It wouldn't have been your fault if you had been trying to do childcare and work either. Those were the circumstances we were all in.

It's a decision to make whether you're comfortable for her to still be your nanny knowing that she makes comments that you find insensitive and judgemental. Or whether you can let them wash over you as you're happy with her care and confident in your parenting (as you should be! Not having a pop!)

It's worth remembering that when the books say 'the average child will be able to do at ', for that to be the average, 49% of kids have to be doing it later than that.