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To feel mentally unable to isolate?

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beewritesx · 08/10/2021 08:46

Disclaimer: I'm not fully vaccinated because I'm worried about irregularity of my periods.

My Dad has terminal cancer and has been given days/weeks. We've always been close so I'm absolutely devastated. He had a Covid test before going to the hospital and it's basically inconclusive (a weak result) but they're treating it as a positive case - even though he has NO symptoms and neither does anyone in the household. My Mum was contacted by Track & Trace and she forgot to mention my name when asked who she has been in contact with.

It's been three days since seeing my Dad and I've taken three LFT tests - all negative. No friends or family who've had contact with Dad in these past few weeks have had any symptoms of Covid and the hospital have confirmed my Dad has no symptoms, despite being terminally ill!

I know the law requires me to isolate for ten days, but to be blunt, I don't know if my mental health can take it right now. My DS can be very challenging and he needs a lot of fresh air and stimulation. I've told my friends the situation and they're happy to see me as they're fully vaccinates, anyway. DH is telling me that rules are rules and I need to follow them. So I don't know what to do!?

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AlexaShutUp · 08/10/2021 18:25

So sorry, OP. Might they allow more visitors next week? Would a video call be an option? I know it isn't the same at all. I hope that you can get in to see your dad very soon.

Fallagain · 08/10/2021 18:35

@beewritesx

If the results from both tests are negative, I'll stop isolating - as even the hospital said they'd disregard the first results.

I have told friends about the situation and if they choose to see me, regardless, then it's their choice!

But then they go to the shop or dentist and infect someone else and they pass it on to someone who is ECV and who despite having 2 vaccination still has little protection.
MrsSkylerWhite · 08/10/2021 20:51

Today 18:22 beewritesx

Unfortunately, the hospital have put a stop to any more visitors. He's already seen my Mum, my two aunties (his sisters), and his best friend. I understand their decision, but it doesn't make it any easier.“

MIL is only allowed one designated visitor for the entirety of her (likely considerable) stay in hospital and even that is by appointment during limited, set hours (Cornwall).
Sorry that you won’t be able to see your dad but glad for his sake that he has been able to see some loved ones.

Klac30 · 09/10/2021 09:52

Without a positive result I wouldn't be isolating. Surely they can repeat the test? Maybe you could take a pcr and go from there?

beewritesx · 09/10/2021 16:22

@MrsSkylerWhite Tought times! Sorry about your MIL!

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