Who starts to reply to a thread and then thinks 'Oh shut the f*ck up'?

[Walkingalot]

I've been on Mumsnet a long time, under different names, different topics etc.
Interested to know if anyone else has written really heartfelt replies and then just deleted them. For me, it's not a confidence thing or the fact that someone has already had tonnes of replies. I can't put my finger on why I write and delete! Seems such a waste of effort.
Am I being unreasonable to do this, I should just reply and not care about the consequences (tendency to be a bit blunt when I write/shoot from the hip).

Me.

Virtually every time I go to reply!

I usually type a paragraph then think "nobody fucking cares" and delete it and move on.

Yes, I do this. That's why most of my posts are short, I have to get them down and click post before I change my mind!

I do it too, sometimes I found I've been too emotionally open and don't like it and delete it.

I also hold off on making posts because I don't want to have it recreated in the dm etc.

YES. All the damn time! 😂

I do, I usually write paragraphs with some anecdotes from my life then realise that’s what my gran did all the time. You’d buy a coat and you’d get 3 stories about coats she’s bought. And no one cares. And the times I do I kill the thread.

Literally lost count of how many times I’ve written posts, sometimes really long ones with links etc, checked & edited them, & then just deleted them.

Yep! I know if I send my reply that's it I'm invested in that particular thread and now I'm strangely committed to getting my point across. It's too bloody draining 🤣 sometimes easier to just not say anything and move onto the next thread.

Ashamed to say it’s always the cutting replies that I delete,

I pour it all out then read it and think
“Who needs me bitching at them ?”

@Yellownotblue - Lol.
@NCBlossom - That's very true.

Constantly! I barely post because of this - I’ll tap out an entire carefully thought out response and then promptly delete it because I’ve decided it’s either outing, far too long winded, boring, doesn’t add anything to the discussion, or I’m over sharing and I’m embarrassed. I also can’t be arsed dealing with the sort of posters who will pick out part of what you’ve said and try to start an argument!
Genuinely think this is the first time I’ve actually clicked ‘post’ in months.

I do this.

I think I have a worthy reply and then think it's too long or boring or just can't be arsed typing it out if I can't find the right words.

I also think someone else will probably have said what I'm going to say. Sometimes I want to reply after justreading the op, then I think I'd better check the rest of the op's posts in case I ask a question that's already been answered. Then I realise the thread has come to a resolution / everyone says the same as I want to say / it's descended into a bunfight.

I'm surprised I managed to type this one out and post itm

Unsuremover Same here, I'm embarrassed at how many threads I've killed ......
Is there anyone there?

@GetInThereLewis

All the time! I'm vegan and manage to even piss myself off!

I don't understand what relevance your dietary habits have to the conversation, unless you are suggesting that being a vegan is a virtue?

All the time. In threads where a poster lands in something you’ve said, quotes it out of context and reads heavily between the lines I’ll start to reply to defend myself then think: “Or I could do something else.”

Granted that something else is finding another juicy thread ¯\(ツ)/¯

@Walkingalot

Ah, thank feck for that. Lots of like minded souls. I'm sure if someone had linked all my profiles they would think I've lived numerous lives! I've got an opinion on everything and my little typey fingers are tapping out a reply before my brain can engage and stop them!!!

Yep. Just nearly did it now

Yep. Most of the time. I wonder why I'm putting effort into writing so much on mumsnet when I could just. Not. Do I really care about anyone on here? Very rarely.
Plus, people who have formed opinions that I disagree with probably aren't going to be swayed by skim reading my reply so pointless arguing with them? I do like venting though so writing out gets it out of my system.

I do this too. Start typing away and then just CBA and delete the lot!

I do this all the time. Either because I realise that my post might be a little inflammatory, I want to defend myself then realise it would just fan the flames, or I realise that I wouldn't be that interested in subsequent posts.

Oh me too!! Daily in fact!

message self deleted as once started realised either I didn’t want to get drawn in, who am I to get involved, this has already been said upthread, what a load of rubbish I’ve just spouted etc

Yeah, one day I was getting into sending a comment then I realised I was just wasting time arguing with a complete stranger on something I didn’t even care that much about

Oh all the time... .

Especially on the very trivial ones, or the ones which start "Am I pregnant" or "What am I having"?

Yep. Already done it once this morning!

I do too, I just think I can't be bothered when it's clear the poster doesn't want to hear a conflicting opinion and then some dick latches on to something totally irrelevant